Did you get up and dressed for midwife home visits after birth?

[Amby1]

Question as above. I'm not sure if you are expected to be up and dressed for these visits or is it okay to be in your pyjamas and even in bed if needs be. Obviously not for all visits, but for the first few is this acceptable?

Personally I did, I got showered and dressed every day but if you don't want to then don't.

I’m a midwife and I personally expect new parents to be in their pyjamas when I visit in those first few weeks. If you want to get dressed, then do but it’s certainly not expected if you don’t want to.

Midwife here - more than happy for people to be in pjs etc when we arrive! Being awake is my only requirement😂

I always got up and dressed, either showered or just washed. Only into comfy clothes though obviously! For me I just felt better getting myself out of PJ's. Also had too many bloody visitors to stay in bed 😡

I was always up and showered at the very least.

Yes, I'm always up and showered and dressed with makeup if anyone is visiting, childbirth or not.

Hi @Amby1 i was always in my pj's and we sat in the living room x

My first midwife told me not to, because if people see you up and dressed they assume you are back to normal. I lolled around in nightclothes for a fortnight after each home birth.

Thanks everyone. I'll obviously shower everyday, but might not feel up to getting properly dressed. I'll just take each day as it comes 😊.

Yes, I've never stayed in my pjs. That's not to make me sound better than anyone who does, I just feel better in myself and ready to face the day if I'm showered, dressed and with a bit of make up.

My first one, I had got dressed and then the baby peed on me, so I put my pjs back on.

The midwife laughed and said she was just glad they hadn’t peed on her.

The second visit, I’d just got out of the shower and still had wet hair and was on the phone to the police when she arrived, as I’d realised our our buildings had been broken into.

She said she was disappointed with the 3rd visit, because there was no drama!

I got dressed immediately after both births. Make up and post natal clothes. I was up putting the wash on the morning after I got home.

I put make up on in hospital for all the photos!

Define "getting dressed"

I wasn't in the pyjamas I'd slept in, but may have only "got dressed" into basically other (clean) pyjamas.

My midwife told me she prefers for mums to be snuggled up with babies. And she feels guilty when it looks like effort has gone into looking presentable and/or cleaning the house. So no, I didn’t get dressed. I might have moved from PJs to “loungewear”….

I did because it was at the local GP surgery, although to be fair I had been in hospital for several days post birth (still had a bazillion stitches though!)

@WeWereInParis same here! I was basically still wearing pyjamas, leggings and a tshirt, but not the ones I’d slept in.

Yes but I was only wearing maternity joggers and a top. And I was up and dressed everyday regardless, lack of routine makes me feel bad.

I was always showered and dressed. In the early days it was yoga pants. I could not lounge around in pjs

I was up showered dressed for my head as much as anything else. It kind of felt like a treat🤣.

I was in a house with two reception rooms so one room was the no drama , clean and tidy guest ready room and then room two was the bomb had gone off look.

Do what works for you. I had to keep moving a little as often as possible for a back issue so I might as well of being tidying a tiny bit and we were fortunate that both children liked to sleep.

I didn't have chance the day after we got home. I was clearly the first visit of the day and had to be woken when she arrived. By the discharge visit at 16 days I was expected to get myself to the clinic so it was booked for much later in the day.

I had a home birth and then stayed on my bed with baby for 5 days, in my bedroom for another 5 then went downstairs but stayed in my house for another 5 days.

Was in bed in my pjs for my 2 day visit

Pjs all the way. If I knew what time to expect them I might have made an effort, but as the appointment was any time during the day then I got dressed if/when I wanted.

Some days I was dressed and some days I wasn't. I didn't try to do anything different just because the midwife was coming, if it had been a good night with the baby and I felt up to it I was up and about, sometimes I was knackered so still in my jammies.

I had no choice but to be dressed as my trust expects women to get themselves to a clinic miles away with a newborn baby. I'd had a section, too. Made all the more infuriating by the fact this is in London, not the arse end of nowhere and there is a clinic closer, but they wouldn't see me there.

Never had a midwife visit!