Did you get up and dressed for midwife home visits after birth?

[Amby1]

Question as above. I'm not sure if you are expected to be up and dressed for these visits or is it okay to be in your pyjamas and even in bed if needs be. Obviously not for all visits, but for the first few is this acceptable?

Christ on a bike!

I love some pictures of my friends glowing with pride, looking ruffled but beautiful. Not sure it carries the moment in quite the same way all pristine.

I only had a visit from the midwife the day after I came out of hospital. I didn't actually know she was coming so didn't plan to get dressed for her as such but was up and ready as usual. I always have to have a shower first thing in the morning.
My next appointment was at five days post birth which I had to make my own way to. I struggled more getting ready for this as I had had a c section and was peak bruised and swollen.

Why would she be angry about you going out?

I'd had a very quick wash and was in my husband's sweats and one of his t-shirts. Really as long as mom and baby are ok they really don't care. Don't stress about it 😜

God no. Hats off to all these showered and dressed people. I was absolutely not one of them. I didn’t know community midwife visits were a thing so was quite surprised on day 2 when one popped round first thing, especially as it was during Covid Times. I doubt I was even out of bed, let alone out of PJ’s, for the first few visits but she did have to check my 40 stitches and that was way more convenient in the bedroom with somewhere to put DD and without the possibility of someone peering in a downstairs window. Also, it was lockdown - some people barely made it out of pyjamas during their working day let alone after nth degree tears in their nether regions 🤷🏻‍♀️

Showered and dressed every time but I'm not one to sit around in pjs anyway.

I'm lazy as anything, but I can't stay in pyjamas.

I wrote maternity joggers and maternity sweatshirts for weeks though

Wrote? Wore.

Everywhere leaks for the first while so a quick shower is a sanity saver and if you have a tear or stitches it’s really important. But it was back into bed with fresh pjs for me and lots of baby snuggling.

I stayed in clean pyjamas/loungewear but I could barely move for about a week!

Both times I got up and dressed, DS2 is 6 months old and last time I braided my hair, brushed my teeth, and put clean leggings and a huge sweatshirt on, that was the extent of my getting ready for her.

Showered and nice comfy loungewear.

I was in bed. They wanted to check my stitches

God, all these freshly showered and dressed people are making me feel like a right slob. Though I will say that I am decidedly NOT a morning person, and I prefer having a shower at the end of the day, and not every day either.

So yes. If they came in the morning I was unshowered, and still wearing my pyjamas from bed. If they visited later in the day, I would probably have changed into (comfortable) day clothes. Just the once I was still in bed, but that was because I had forgotten they were coming and had had a baby filled sleepless night. The discharge appointment with DC2 was at their clinic, which was tough going.

I got washed and dressed but into leggings a vest top cardi and fleecy socks so comfy clothes. To be honest it was a motivation to get up and washed etc so I felt good for it. If you don't feel up to it then don't though. I never felt any expectations from my midwives or hv to be looking well.

To me it has been habit since I was a child get up get washed and dressed even when I had a baby I just did it as I normally would never thought about it just got on with it

For the first visit, a few days post section, I was in bed wearing a nightie, feeding my baby. The visiting nurse looked happy with this, observed a feed (so ended up seeing me in a state of undress anyway) and gave me some good advice on different holds. Spending lots of lazy time with the baby is fine in the early days, especially if you are trying to establish breastfeeding. I felt up to being dressed and ready for the day 10 visit from the health visitor.

I was in jammies sometimes when midwife came to see now 8wk old ds, sometimes my top half was dressed and I was in pj trousers. A couple of times right at the start I was in bed though and the midwife didn't bat an eyelid. She was more glad of getting cuddles off ddog haha

The need to heal. A C section is major surgery.

My post birth visits must have been one of the first on the round.
I was still snoozing when she arrived for at least the first couple. And I think I was feeding DS in bed one time.
DH brought her up and then wandered off again while we were chatting.

But you might need new bras or something you can't just buy online. I wouldn't want to see them again if they were angry with me, it's your own decision.

I was up and dressed with all 4 of mine. With my lady they got rid of me from the hospital asap, did a food shop on the way home and did the school run with new baby!
I get hirrendous cabin fever if I stay in so I'm lucky I never had a section

Dressed up? I was naked for the birth when she arrived and I was naked in the days that followed. Mostly in bed.
I was too busy with a newborn.