oh my god, very distressing and embarassing problem.....!

[PeckaRolloverAgain]

ok, gave birth last friday

fab delivery, 5 minute pushing, no stitches, small tear

yest and today suddenlky become v v v v constipated

because im quite backed up, and its hard......omg this is awful think my pelvic floor might have given up. inside my actual fanjo can feel the big blockage as a lump thru the wall - to the point its actually pretty much filling my fanjo!!!! that has got to shock you a bit? it certainly has just freaked me right out!!!

arghhhh, very disturbed, when i tried to have a poo it felt like my small tear would tear further

arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

help!!!!

In traditional chinese medicine, ginger warms the blood and rids the body of "wind".

Another great recipe for new nursing mothers: ginger chicken soup.
Same as above but replace okra with whole chicken (or do both) and add lots of fresh ginger. Make lots of stock and drink/eat troughout day.

Massage your tummy lightly in circular motion (clockwise) starting from the navel and going outwards. Then pressure downward from stomack to groin.

I do hope you manage to have your poo. There is nothing worse.

Try fibogel sachets- they worked a treat for me after having both dds. (Lots of stitces on both occasions)

You do realise the whole of Mumsnet is holding it's breath waiting for your relieved pooey pronouncement don't you?

Pecka, one thing - pelvic floor exercises. Can you manage a few? It really helps.

I could feel a sort of bulge after I had ds2 as well, it didn't last long though - I thought I was stuck with it. It is just basically that when you push out a baby, you stretch the walls of the vagina quite a bit and it takes them a while to 'regroup' as it were. So anything in the back passage or the bladder will push the wall inwards into the vagina, as the wall isn't very strong atm. Does that make sense? I think it is called a slight rectocele when it affects that side, a cystocele when it is the other side ie the bladder pushes against the vagina. (I had that the first time!)

Keep doing the exercises and it will really help you get back to normal.

I also found that because of the bulge, I was actually producing bigger poos for a few weeks. This scared me a bit as I figured it might be permanent, but actually he is 7 months now and my poos are normal again

The prob with the bigger poos was the shock to my poor arse - it caused a little fissure/crack which thankfully now has also gone (I think)

It just takes time, you will be fine in a few months.

Did you do it yet?

..and for anyone who knows me, that wasn't me then, that was someone who stole my name in order to post something embarrassing. I have never, ahem, had a problem, ahem, with that sort of thing

LOLOLOL at FA

I've always been able to feel number twos through my fanjo and have never had any pelvic floor isshoos

How it is a weakness in the pelvic floor?

Surely the one is right behind the other?

Have only skim read so this may have already been said but Shakeysgirl it sounds as if you may have a prolapse (rectocele). You should really see your Gp, to get referred to a gynaecologist/physio to sort it out.

MP I think the PFEs just help with general control/relaxation etc in that area - he actual weakness is in the walls of the vag.

I only say do pFEs as they encourage bloodflow and general good idea for that area. HTH

hmm I'm not so sure

it's pretty much my experience too shakeysgirl and I live in gyae's offices because I've got a dodgy fanjo skin condition

they say my fanjo is fine

and whole crowds of people have observed it

and I thought half the point of double penetration was that each man could feel the other person's appendage (NB I am basing this on having read perfectly respectable books by Irvin Welsh, not living in internet pornland BTW)

err by which I mean that surely the two passages are right next to each other so what is in one would be felt in the other

from poo to double penetration

only on mumsnet!!

maybe it is normal, in as much as it happens to a lot of women, but i thought rectocele was treatable, and should be sorted?

feeling poo through the back wall of the vagina is surely not very pleasant anyway?

well my impression on MN is that not many women faff around with mirrors and delve into their fanjos

so most wouldn't notice

ok have read briefly on rectocele

I don't have a BULGE into my fanjo wall, it's just that any number 2's which are parked there can be felt by hand

should one wish to do so

am very glad to say, i have never had that problem

Pecka.... get some natural bran to pop on your cereal.

You will feel it, remember the wall between the anus and vagina isn't that thick.

How's the feeding going?

Hi everyone!!

Mars, feeding going beautifully. Any soreness has now completely gone, latch brilliant, engorgement gone. Milk came on day 2, yellow poos on day 3 and generally perfect.

However little pickle is far more settled in the day than the night

Ok. Poo

I have tried again this morning and feeling upset again, was support tear with toilet roll, tried feet up on bin, horsey blowing etc etc and managed to get a bit of it out but by no means all - prob about 10%

It now hurts more than it did before and I briefly accidently felt my whole bits down there and it doesnt feel nice , I darent look but Im sure I have done something to my tear.

Eat your apricots etc. Take a magazine, sit on the loo and read. The more you think about poo-ing the harder (pardon the pun) it is!

I would say that I'll be thinking of you... but babe that's possibly a step too far!

Eat your apricots etc. Take a magazine, sit on the loo and read. The more you think about poo-ing the harder (pardon the pun) it is!

I would say that I'll be thinking of you... but babe that's possibly a step too far!

It really pains me to be in a position to offer this advice but I'd 3rd the recommendation to do it in a warm bath. It's the thing in real life that I will take to the grave but since no-one on here knows me, I am passing on the advice. It was the only way for me. It wasn't painful doing it in the bath. I was able to stand up and have a shower afterwards so the ick factor did not last for more than a nano second.

It's got to be better than suffering and no worse than someone having a poo in a birthing pool whilst in labour. The only difference is it is yours to deal with and clean up afterwards. I don't think you can call the midwife in with a sieve to help you out here

Oh poor you. Fybogel and loads and load of water. I was constipated after dd1 and it was worse than the birth without doubt. Also a bit of light exercise got me going. (I had to rush back from a walk so don't go too far from the house) Good Luck.

Can you get your midwife out, ask her to give you an enema and check your tear. I had horrible problems due to a grim episiotomy and piles combination - if you get it checked and sorted you will feel a lot better. Coleslaw was my saviour! Fybogel did nothing for me, my midwife said that in some people it seemed to act like the wallpaper paste it appears to be.