OMFG.
No one has suggested birth is not an important time for the father, or that he shouldn't be prepared to participate and take choices in relevant ways, like cutting the cord. So what are you talking about? Where's the point you're trying to argue against there? How are you in a minority?
Are you actually trying to suggest that a choice to cut the cord equates to a choice to change the terms of your relationship not long after birth? Maybe you should have discussed your intentions to be 'firmer' with your class? Their responses might have been interesting, don't you think?
You perceive wrongly about people here putting forward a 'feminist view'. No-one is discussing ideology or politics or talking from such a standpoint. People, with relevant experience, are doing you the big favour of taking the time to share their experience - from a very practical and personal perspective.
Above all, people are posting with humanity, compassion and generosity. All things sadly lacking from your portrayal of yourself.
It says so much about your 'rights focused' approach, intransigence and your desperation to be 'right' that you perceive disagreement in terms of ideological conflict and need to be able to package up and shunt away all views you don't like, in a neatly labelled box.
As I have tried to explain, the time when you were just two adults, responsible only for yourselves, was the time to make any changes to your relationship. You've had ten years. It's too late now.
Now, you reap what you've sown. You fall back on the basics that underpin your relationship. You could both be about to drag yourselves through a year of sleep deprivation, with a baby as your priority and your own interests falling by the wayside. Sleep varies a lot, could be more, or less. That's not the best condition in which to have meaningful discussions about your relationship.
You're still just not getting that the coming months and years (not just those first few weeks) will not be about you and what you want.
This disingenuous 'haven't had a baby before' twaddle is more 'poor little me, indulge me' crap. It's irrelevant to the point you're making. You want to control your wife's behaviour. You haven't been able to before but now, you think you can use her the line of 'oh but it's best for the baby, see, I'm thinking about the baby' to manipulate - emotionally blackmail, to use your wording - her into doing what you want.
Your idea that 'nipping her unreasonableness in the bud' will reduce stress for the baby is just bollocks. You think she's going to bow her head and submit to you, rather than arguing and being upset by your controlling behaviour? You still haven't understood that how she feels is much more important to the baby's well being than you feeling you are right and in charge?
Frankly, you sound like you're trying to train an animal. Her behaviour, your management of her behaviour. Her unreasonableness - oh but never yours. How often do you apologise for your behaviour?
You've placed her in a vulnerable position, not just for a few weeks but for eighteen plus years, during which she is going to prioritise her child over herself and try to maintain a stable home environment.
Now, rather than supporting her, being delighted with and for her, and accepting the relationship you have - or showing any evidence of actually loving her - you've decided to take advantage of her changed priorities to attack her, disrespect and undermine her feelings on an important issue for her, and hoping you'll be able to achieve a change you couldn't when she was on top form and free to leave.
On however minor a level, you are giving us a case study in why abusive behaviour increases in the post-natal phase. Because selfish, power-hungry men decide to take advantage of their wife's vulnerability and massively curtailed personal freedom to shift the power in their relationship.