Orgasm during childbirth?! Tell me this is a lie!!

[kitegirl]

A friend of mine has a very competitive MIL. This friend has just given birth to her first, a nightmare labour with every possible intervention you could imagine (she's cool about it, bless her). Her MIL won't stop going on how amazing all her births were, saying how she just 'breathed the babies out' and how all her births were such ecstatic, spiritual experiences that she actually had an orgasm during each one!

Now I know a birth can be enjoyable, but an orgasm??? I've never heard this happening. Is this a case of one-upmanship? I told my friend that there's only one place to find out and that's Mumsnet... so what do you think?

so did those of you who think it's "inappropriate" never have an orgasm while pg? I don't get why it's different during birth tbh.

Am I alone in thinking it a little...odd for a woman to be discussing orgasms (in childbirth or elsewhere) with MIL??

Yes,well said Rhubarb.
Spot on.

NP,do you think these blokes really thought you would give 'em a quickie or were they teasing?
Did they do it in shameless fashion?
How old were they?
Am intrigued

My EX MIL dropped ex H out so easily that he fell into the toilet pan... hahahahahaha!! (Shame she fished him out really...)

Eeeewwwwww my mum is like this too. I know for a fact she didn't ever have an orgasm during childbirth because if she had she would have gone on and on about it.

It's not the thing itself - I have heard it happens and I'm sure it does (though I'd rather it didn't happen to me because I'd rather keep sex separate from baby stuff). But what is eewwwww here is the MIL thinking it's something her DIL wants to hear about! [bleugh] What is it with some older women and their incessant TMI sharing?

no, moondog. you're also not alone in not reading my posts

Well it's NOT orgasmic sex Rhubarb of course. It's something quite different. I didn't seek an orgasm, I mean I didn't take my vibrator into the delivery room or anything so are you suggesting I should somehow have STOPPED myself?? or that I am a pervert.
Actually there are lots of parallels between sex and childbirth if you care to look further into it.
Hormonal etc.

Oops,sorry SP
Reading too fast m'dear.

oh all ages MD

cut from the same cloth though

one particular man used to throw the sheets back and cry "look what you made me DO" and shoot his load over the nurse

Actually.. perhaps I am a fraud.. as I relied on orgasms.. and lots of them.. to kick start my last two labours.. but that was a means to an end thing! There doesn't seem to be any real call to be climaxing when you are 1. in extreme excruciated bloody sodding awful pain 2. You are concentrating very hard on what is commonly considered to be one of the most difficult/exhausting physical feats humans ever attempt/achieve 3. You mind is on your new baby and 4. The room is full of people FGS!

Of bloody hell NP! Yuck.
So,would they ask in furtive fashion or was it very boldly put??

Oh NP! Ick.

Well orgasms do relieve period pains.....
But it's true,that sex and orgasm during childbirth website is largely penned by beirdy weirdy pasty American living in log cabins in Wyoming.

Actually CarolinaMoose, no I didn't so there!

I'm sorry but I feel it debases childbirth. Just as women who say that breastfeeding turns them on debases the act of breastfeeding. When you are giving birth you are getting very painful contractions and you are getting ready to deliver this new little pink innocent being into the world - to try and bring sex into it really does baffle me.

If you have had an orgasm during childbirth with no "help" at all, it just happened, then whoopee for you! We just don't want to know about it!

I wish I could find that website, you should see some of the shite men have written in there - and yes, anal sex does come into it.

CM, having sex and orgasming during pg is compleeeetley different to when giving birth.

cluck, I dont think anyone thinks theres anything 'wrong' about it if it just happened.

And cluckcluck, I'm not the only one who finds it a bit disturbing so why not address us all instead of just me?

they would just sneakily whisper it as you were giving them their morning cuppa, or sometimes helping them in the shower or whatever, jsut whenever it took their fancy i suppose

or you would catch them mid-wank and they would 'invite' you to 'finish me off'

the man i mentioned before was only in his 30's !

i need to lie down..

No.. I suppose you could just pretend you were howling with distress and try not to yell "Yes.. yess.. YESSSSS!" and nobody would even notice!

Orgasms are, in essence, contractions of the uterus (and vagina etc). As your uterus is contracting during labour, and there is a great deal of pressure on your pelvic floor/clitoris, it is hardly surprising that some women might feel aroused.
Oxytocin is released during orgasm/arousal and during labour (hence SJ starting her labour with orgasms).
[strokes beard knowledgeably]

Cluckcluck didn't actually she she orgasmed while giving birth, she said she experienced "something like orgasm" - I'd imagine more a combination of hormones/relief rather than a full-on-ground-juddering jobbie

Did it irritate you NP?
I would have been enraged!
I have a nurse friend who told me she was (informally) taught a swift flicking technique to er....cut recalcitrant patients back down to size.