1st time parents

[olivio123]

My daughter who has done everything the right way (got married then got pregant) has finally gone into labour,, although it is a slow one she is still in pain. Shes been up to the hospital 2x, 1st time at 8:30am then again at 7pm only to be turned away again, because shes still only 2cm diulated (fair enough). (She has a room booked for 4am). When they arrived at 7pm she was told she could of stayed, but her husband couldnt?? Im flabbergasted dont they like couples anymore its not exactly welcoming them is it. So rather then my daughter stay there all night on her own she has opted to go back home for another 8hrs in pain, im in bits at the moment im so angry.. This is Chester Hospital so much for marriages and couples aye!

Which would you choose stay in hospital alone or go back to your husband in pain.Not a fair choice really is it?

pickles77,ach it's good to be a bad un livin in sin
it's good to be living oer the brush
and it amuses my contrary side that someone thinks this is the wrong way.

I'm a bit about the fact that everyone should be abel to advocate for themselves in labour - although I did 0 - 4cm with a tens and breathing without much fuss and just wanted to be left alone to get on with it (I was induced) things changed after that. There was no break between my contractions from about 4cm to 10cm and then again during transisiton - not only was there no break there wasn't even an end to the first/second before the next one started. I was too busy following a slightly worried midwifes instructions to suck on the gas and air to do anything other than breathe and was incapable of speach. I did ask for an epidural (turns out during transition) but the whole thing had to be done through sign on my part and they had to keep nudging me to pay attention to what was being said as I couldn't concentrate on the words - DH had to do a lot of translation of what I was gesturing at so the medics definatly understood what I meant. Articulate and assertive was impossible, till I got to pushing, the contractions eased up, I got a break between and had a whole conversation with my midwife inbetween them and discussed a change from what was written in my birth plan for delivery of the placenta. Everyone is different!

Oh and can I blow your brain, I'm married AND reliant on state benefits - plans do not only go awry when in Labour!

thanks Scottishmummy

I did once work with wee holy willy biddy who was aghast I was living in sin
nuthin good will come aw it she used to say
face like a well smacked arse when her daughter got up nelly when unmarried and what's more the daughter had no intention of getting married