DD 14 has her ASD assessment Fri . What to expect ?

[Tinkerbellexxx]

Just that really . We've waited 16 months. The pre assessment form was huge . It said to expect 90 mins to 2 hours but the link the sent for info doesn't work.
Just interested to know others experience if you wouldn't mind sharing?
DD will be an utter delight because she masks so well .... she even has an American accent and we live in Cheshire ish ! Will they be able to somehow tell do you think .
I'd like to talk her through what will happen.
TIA

There's a stigma there for sure - it's one reason why I make a point of professionally being open about my own diagnosis - and the change you can see in someone who is speaking quite negatively about their autism, when you open up that you're there as a professional person - and YOU are autistic as well can be quite marked at times. I'm open about the things I find difficult and how I work around them and really do encourage it as a way of understanding what you find hard rather than anything negative.

For my own kids - one is diagnosed, one is awaiting it - I've just dripped away at it little by little so it's never been a big thing... this is an element of your sister being autistic as to why she's behaving in a way you're finding difficult to understand... now this element is just your sister winding you up for the sheer hell of it... this is you just having a grump so your sister's existence is annoying to you - and we tackle and explain each scenario appropriately. I hope I've done OK with that in that when I mentioned to DD1 that she was on the waiting list for assessment after her sister's diagnosis, she just grunted "OK, cool" and went back to wittering on about who had fallen out with each other at school.

@Rinkko thank you again. He's being a real twat today, just playing on his "emotional state" to be a dick to me and his sister. I'm afraid I don't like him very much right now. I'm trying to have patience and understanding but he's doing nothing at all to help his situation.

Honestly with my DS we found that 15 was the peak age for twattishness. It really was grim and just an unremitting, unrewarding slog. He is 19 now and things have improved massively as he has got older. Not from us doing anything different, but just from him getting older. Fingers crossed you find the same. It is very hard.

Thank you. It's really nice to feel someone gets it. X