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My 12 year old took an overdose

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elliejjtiny · 22/02/2021 13:21

I don't know why, it's totally out of the blue. He threw up this morning and said he had a headache and I just thought it was a migraine, then school phoned and said he'd e-mailed his friend to say he wanted to die. I got dh to talk to him and he immediately spotted he had taken something. They've gone to a and e and I'm just trying to keep it together for the other dc.

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freckles20 · 22/02/2021 19:56

OP there is a wonderful charity called Papyrus who offer support for young people and their carers who are affected by suicidal feelings.

Wishing you strength.

typicalvalues · 22/02/2021 20:07

Hopefully it's not a strong enough dose. Please God his heart remains normal throughout the night.

SplendidSuns1000 · 22/02/2021 20:11

Offering a hand hold and unmumsnetty hug, OP. Hope everything is okay and your boy gets support. x

hotchocolateismything · 22/02/2021 20:21

Wish you and your baby all the best in the world xxx

RJnomore1 · 23/02/2021 11:19

How are things today??

Fortyfifty · 23/02/2021 11:24

How scary for you OP. I'm sorry to hear your boy is not well. Hopefully he will physically recover get the help he needs. Its never nice to hear of it happening at any age but 12 sounds so young still. Thank goodness his friend contacted the school to report what your son had written.

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elliejjtiny · 23/02/2021 14:00

Thankyou. He's physically a lot better and out of hdu. I managed to find the email he'd sent to his friend and it was awful, really graphic about what he'd done. The school phoned me this morning and I said that I'd read the email and was his friend ok etc because I thought she must be so upset. School reassured me that she was getting support and they'd told her parents. School rang me back a few minutes later to double check the name I gave and it wasn't the same person. So the pastoral teacher had to get off the phone quick to phone the parents of the girl I told them about. I don't know if he's emailed anyone else from school which is a worry.

He is waiting to see someone from the mental health team who is tied up with an emergency at the moment. So it all depends on that. I'm desperate to see ds and dh and have them home but at the same time I'm scared he will do it again.

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RJnomore1 · 23/02/2021 20:54

It’s awful isn’t it, that knot in your stomach and you feel on the verge constantly. However you know how he feels now and you can help and support him plus he should get support from services. You will feel better once you are able to see him.

Zombiedropoutmum · 23/02/2021 21:02

My child who is also 12, was admitted to hospital this morning after taking an overdose. I understand how you must be feeling. I'm going between anger and crying. It's just not right that a child should be thinking about suicide, let alone going through with it. I hope you your child gets the help he needs and wishing you the best.

TheVolturi · 23/02/2021 21:09

How absolutely awful for you all op, my heart breaks for you and him. I really hope you can get to the bottom of it all and get him some support.

TheFancyPants · 23/02/2021 21:11

Sending you a hug, how awful for you. My heart goes out to your family and anyone else suffering with a child who has anxiety

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elliejjtiny · 26/02/2021 22:13

Thankyou everyone. @Zombiedropoutmum I'm so sorry this is happening to you too. How are you and your child doing?

Ds came home on Tuesday evening. I managed to have a proper talk with dh when the dc were all in bed on Tuesday. I asked him to tell me everything that happened and it was scary hearing how close he came to not surviving. The big children's hospital was on standby in case he needed to be in picu (our local hospital doesn't have a picu) and he had the rubber things stuck on his chest because the Drs thought they were going to have to shock him. The Drs said that the quick action of his friends and his fast metabolism saved his life.

He saw the cahms nurse and he was happy to talk about the wii game he was playing but he got upset when he was asked questions about how he was feeling etc. Not knowing what upset him enough to do this has been really scary. I don't know how to help him and I'm worried about whether he will get enough help when he gets back to school. He has already said he doesn't want counselling or to talk about his feelings.

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onedayatatime2021 · 12/05/2021 13:10

Hi @elliejjtiny I hope your son is ok and continues to be safe as you navigate this chapter. My 12 year old daughter took an overdose a couple of weeks back. I don’t have any useful answers I’m afraid but I wanted to say I hope you are all ok

onedayatatime2021 · 12/05/2021 13:16

Hello, I noticed you had said once you knew you what your sons anxiety was you could find the right support. Would you possibly advise the process you went through - CAMHS or private please? My daughter took and overdose a couple of weeks ago, aside from my fear for her, I am tying myself in knots with trying to find the appropriate route to help her. She has just started with CAMHS but given how stretched they are I’m scared it will not be sufficient to resolve it and we shall be back in this situation again in the not too distant future. Whilst my daughter seems to have happy moments these are amongst long periods of her ‘dead inside’ stares and odd I’m avoiding engaging in conversation smiles. I just want to do the right things

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