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The house is trashed yet again and I'm fed up of being beaten up by my own son ..

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Purplerainbow · 21/07/2017 09:30

I don't even know why I'm writing this, I just need a vent. 11 year old ds has asd and anxiety. Today is his last day of primary school. This morning my house has literally been turned upside down and trashed. I have holes in doors that I can't afford to replace (I rent) he's pushed me into the work top, punched me in the stomach, tried to break my arm and thrown hard objects into the back of my head. School has to take his sibling as it wasn't safe here...

This is because I wouldn't give him him tablet. They aren't allowed them before school. He went on it whilst I was in the shower and I knew he was anxious and sad about today and the tablet is always his 'go To' to distract. Repeatedly told him in warnings when he had to get dressed. Wouldn't get dressed so I took tablet away. Then this all kicked off.

I left his dad when they were babies because of DV. That was a long time ago. If he was an adult, I wouldn't be expected to put up with this but because 'it's change' and 'oh it's to be expected' I just have to suck it up.

What hurts most is he CAN be a lovely lovely boy. But when this devil raises his head makes me want to give up Sad

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thereallochnessmonster · 21/07/2017 11:45

I'd ban tablet use too unless he can control himself when he comes off it, tbh.

Does he behave like this at school, or just with you, OP?

thereallochnessmonster · 21/07/2017 11:50

This is interesting: www.autism.org.uk/technology

Does he use apps for children with autism on the ipad? What does he do on there?

Also see www.psychologytoday.com/blog/mental-wealth/201612/autism-and-screen-time-special-brains-special-risks

and

www.psychologytoday.com/blog/behind-online-behavior/201604/what-screen-time-can-really-do-kids-brains

Purplerainbow · 21/07/2017 12:34

He's the same where ever he is although I get it worse. I'm well aware of the risks of screens and the pros and cons...

He mainly watches videos. He also likes mine craft. The only app I know of for autism is the mine craft one but he doesn't go on that one. What other ones are there?

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thereallochnessmonster · 21/07/2017 12:50

There eseem to be plenty.

Some are in the first link I gave above, and some are here - www.parenting.com/gallery/autism-apps

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