The teacher pushed my child

[NaziaN]

Hi, a teacher used abusive language and then pushed my child out of her classroom in front of my daughter’s friends. My daughter then argued with the teacher for pushing her. My daughter is now suspended from school because the head teacher did not believe her or her 2 friends. The school cameras cover outside the classroom but not inside the classroom. I have contacted the police and they said that they will visit me in 2 days. My daughter has been upset and been crying ever since, because it was her last day in year 8 in school and they were going to have a party. I feel that the staff at school are covering for the teacher’s behaviour to make they school not look bad.
Im just confused, how school has been very unfair with my child.

Who knows, maybe this will mean your DC behaves better in the future?

And this is why we have a teaching crisis…

I suggest you take your dc into school today, ask for the teacher involved and then tell your disrespectful child to apologise.
And in 10 years you may find you have raised a decent adult.

We need the full story. What was your DD doing that triggered this? Was she herded out or pushed? Did she fall over? Was she hurt (other than feelings). There is a sense of responsibility that your DD (and you) needs to take in this situation as well.

This is why next week, after 15 years as a primary school TA, I am walking out of the door for the last time.
The children cannot be disciplined and they know it. They run rings round school staff, terrorising their classmates in the process.
Parents back them up, make excuses for them, argue with us that their darling could emphatically not have done such and such and we must be lying. (seriously, why would we lie, I have much better things to occupy my time with than making up lies about children’s behaviour and wasting my time talking to parents about it ….)
When you try to pull a child up for unsafe, rude or unkind behaviour, the response is a shrug, an eye roll and a “my mum lets me”. This is primary school…..
Will be walking away with not a single backwards glance. 😊

Bravo 👏

@LaMarschallin

its an Indian/Pakastani name.

It does go on you know.

My daughter told me about a girl at their school who was kung fu kicked by a needlework teacher who then put the girl in a figure four leg lock. After that the Head of Geography took over, beat the girl over the head with a metal chair and then leapt off a table to body-slam her. Finally, they both attacked the girl with baseball bats.

Unfortunately, none of this turned up on the CCTV.

You called the police? My god that seems like an extreme overreaction. Your daughter is most probably lying I am afraid. I saw it countless times at school where pupils rightly got told off and were outraged that anyone would dare challenge them and sometimes concocted stories about how the teacher was aggressive or abusive to them. How about you don’t get into a situation where you have to be ejected from a classroom in the first place? Teachers aren’t idiots - they don’t go round randomly assaulting kids.

It's parents like this the rest of us will have to thank for our kids having NO teachers left. How on earth can they do their job with parents so ridiculous as this and the kids are so disgusting to deal with. I despair.

That’s a shame that it wasn’t caught on CCTV. It’s so weird how all the instances of severe beatings never manage to make it onto the tapes. Must be a conspiracy of some kind.

Thanks to parents like you all of the decent teachers are leaving.

You called the police because your child was clearly being a nightmare and the teacher put them out of the class?

Maybe you need to look at your child a bit closer and use some discipline because kids are not suspended for no reason.

@KatiesMumWoof

its an Indian/Pakastani name.

Ah! Thanks for the education

Still feel (hope!) the thread's a wind up.

I think there may be some language issues here. Enshrined in law is teachers’ right to touch children for several reasons including “to maintain good order”. As a teenager whose teacher has touched them to guide them out of the room, either they may not have the language to describe this or choose to use the emotive pushed. Same as children of all ages using shouted etc to mean “used a stern / disappointed voice”.

Sounds like your child was being a hole.

Your DD was probably being a little shit.

I feel for teachers these days. My kids are earjy 20s now and most parents wouldn’t have dreamed of marching into school to see a teacher unless something very serious had occurred.

Listening to my teacher friends it now seems like a daily occurrence over the most trivial of things.

Given the amount of abuse both physically and mentally towards teachers nowadays I'm not surprised when I hear stories like this. Apparently it's always the teachers fault too.

Nightmare child won't leave classroom, most likely.

Don't waste police time on this.

Can we have a bit more background info please ?

These were also my thoughts. Is there no evidence at all?

You are justifying verbal and physical abuse from an adult whom is in a trusted position of Care.

Any teacher that is doing that has lost control .

@NaziaN come on, what happened in the period prior to your DD being ejected?

Early secondary kids are buggaroos with years 8/9 when they're full on hormonal and not yet under GCSE pressure the worst.

My DP was an agency teacher until she retired this year. Kids doing stuff from being overtly disruptive and rude through to low level stuff like constantly twanging a ruler were a daily occurence. If she intervened phsically, for example to remove the ruler from the kid twanging it the kid would claim they were assaulted.

OP you do know that the police officers who turn up can have words with both you and your daughter?

In other words tell your daughter to behave at school unless she wants to end up in a young offenders institute (luckily the girls ones aren't as bad as Feltham) and you not to solely believe your child.

My daughter wrote a note to say that she was allowed to use the toilet , I understand she cannot lie but that does not give the right to anyone to push a child. I know that children lie and I have asked her so many times and I even said that if she is lying then she will be in big trouble by me and her dad. I even said that she could be in trouble by the police. She started crying and wished that she never told us. I feel really bad that she feels that her parents don’t believe her.
I just can’t let it slide. I need to be able to protect her. As a parent I believe that if any of your child went through this then you would do the same as what I did.

My daughter previously had been bullied in this school by other children before. It was one of her friend. She wanted my daughter to do her homework for her, which she did but then my daughter refused to do it, she never told me about it but then I found out after when she was speaking to her Doctor. I went to school many times to complain but it never stopped. I wrote emails, had meeting with the teachers but it still continued. Then finally when I confronted one of the parents, we ended up in an argument and after that all the bullying stopped. During this bullying period my daughter used to come home and cry in her bedroom, she even said to me that she wished she was never born. This is very difficult for a parent to hear something like this.