Gutted as a parent

[annabanana88]

My son was on his way home from school the other day when he was attacked by another boy whilst another vile child filmed and laughed. My son repeatedly asked to go home whilst this was happening. He was told to kneel down and apologise ( which he did ) then he had his nose burst while he knelt there. My son had never even seen this boy before. When my boy got home he was covered in blood, his face swollen, burst nose and lip. I found out who this boy is and got a hold of the video then went to the police...they later informed me that they'd caught up with him but there was nothing they could do as he's just under 12 years old. So this little sh*t brutally assaulted my boy but will face no consequences because he's under 12 years old? Where do they draw the line?? No wonder folk take matters into their own hands if this is the ' laws ' answer to serious situations! I don't even know what I expect from posting this, I think I just needed to rant and maybe hear from anyone who's been in a similar situation...I'm heartbroken and can't get the images out of my head, totally feel like I failed my child because I wasn't there to protect him.

Oh FFS. So threatening violence in front of a clearly violent child is going to solve what exactly? And where do you think this Would have learnt such behaviour? Get a grip.
I know people are saying this other child is a little shit or even the c word. But let’s stop for a minute- if a child under 12 is being as brutal and violent, someone somewhere has and is failing this child. That would be the line I’d be taking- social services, MP, school, high school they’re about to go to etc. Yes be angry on behalf of your child but also be concerned about the perpetrator- is this a cry for help? Are they acting out something they’ve experienced or witnessed. If they’re truly too young to prosecute then they are young enough to be protected and for this to be investigated further. Childrens Panel any good?

I'd be straight to his door to speak to his parents and I'd be warning them if he ever laid another finger on my son it will be the last words I'd be having

Oh I am so sorry, that broke my heart. What vile children, they should be held accountable as they knew what they did.

I am so so sorry this happened to your son. I hope he recovers quickly from his injuries. I agree with pp report it to all and sundry, school, pta, locally etc. it may also be an idea to get him to learn some self defence. I only suggest that in order to help him with his confidence etc.

@SNWannabe really easy to say ‘FFS’ and give diplomatic advice when it’s not your kid’s face that has been smashed up. I’m sure if it happened to your child you’d have no qualms about calling him what he is, a little shit.

I remember one of my sons being bullied, so I got hold of the little darling and whispered in his ear if he every touch my son again I would go round to his mums when he was at school and rip her head off and roll it down the street!! Apparently years later he told my then 6ft4 inches son in a pub that I had terrified him and he would not go near any of us again, he asked is your Mum still a psychopath. To which my son said well I would not cross her!!

any way different times

Hugs OP. A similar thing happened to my son at a similar age (he’s now an adult but it’s still fresh in my mind). My son knew the boy who was from the same school. The police did go and speak to the boy’s mum and said they would visit the school and speak to the boy there also (but never did, despite me pursuing it). I remember speaking to my son about how he would like the situation dealt with although I appreciate it was ultimately up to me as an adult to act on his behalf. I wanted him to feel like he had some input. How is your son now? X

I just wanted to say I'm so sorry reading this! If anyone did this to my boys I would be devastated. Hugs for you both.

This!!

That’s horrific OP, I can understand why you feel so heartbroken. I hope your son is recovering well.

Absolutely infuriating the police didn’t take any action.

That is so awful op. What a nasty little shit and totally crap that the Police wont take it any further.

My DS was bullied and I got hold of the little shit and told him to make sure he looked over his shoulder for the rest of his sad little life. As I bear a grudge for a very long time.

@ditalini I think I'm going to be in the same club as you regarding the grudge on this one. After reading some of the comments I have a few ideas to expose this little cretin for what he is. I can almost guarantee if he isn't stopped he will end up doing the same again or worse and that absolutely can't be allowed to happen.

A cry for help? Are you serious?
A 12 year old knows this isn't right.

Put it on your town Facebook page with your sons identity hidden.

Have you told the school?

@Quitelikeit it really is awful isn't it?? I've cried so many times over what happened to my son, waking in the night and staring into space for what feels like an eternity thinking about it. Yes the parents are usually just as bad...a child like my sons attacker has been dragged up.

@Smartiepants79 I know what school he goes to...the police caught up with him there. In my opinion a " strong talking to " just isn't enough for the brutal attack he carried out on my son. I'll be devastated if I find out he does that to another kid.

I can't believe it has been suggested that you post the video onto social media. How would any of us feel if we were brutally attacked, forced to kneel and apologise to our attackers? How would you feel if you being humiliated like that were all over social media?

OP, your son will feel humiliated. He has big psychological as well as physical scars to heal.

Its unpopular view on here but I too would wonder what his attackers' home life is like that they have such an absence of empathy that they did something like that. Its a brutal attack, designed to degrade as well as hurt. I don't think that is normal.

I can’t add anything in terms of advice but I agree with those saying go back and challenge the police. But I just wanted to say I am so, so sorry this happened to your son. Just horrific. 💐😞

Sorry for what happened to your DS. Get him joined up to a boxing club. He’ll have so much more confidence if he knows how to defend himself in future.

This is so awful! Your poor son. It's so unfair that the police won't do anything further. Is this had happened to an adult it would be a different story! I do agree with the fact that the attacking child has probably had a difficult life but that's of absolutely no comfort to your son or yourself I'm sure.

I agree with this or Kriv Maga or some form of martial art.

My son is absolutely tiny compared to his peers so I have him in self defence so he has some idea of how to defend himself if needed.

Hi Op
I have a good friend who is seriously into Martial Arts,

I think your son joining a Martial Arts class will beneficial to him a lot,
Improve his cofindence and he will make friends too sooner and later

Try it,

Also if he lacks cofindence try and encourage him to enrol on cofindence boosting activities he could enjoy lots of activities out there for him, He will have fun too

Hi Op
I totally agree with@imagiantwitch really good idea and combined this with your son taking martial Arts self defence training Op @annabanana88

Krav marga is excellent martial Arts self defense training sessions
As its used by Israeli police force Op @annabanana88