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i think its time to give up

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gorge2003 · 05/12/2009 13:10

Have been trying to re-start my supply for 8 weeks after my dd refused to feed from 4 weeks (12 weeks now) have tried to get my supply going again...have tried everything..latching her on 6+ times a day...nothing

tried expressing 6+ times a day...nothing

tried fenugreek on top of this...nothing

last ditch attempt is to beg my doc for domperidone on tuesday (they wouldnt give it to me last time at 8 weeks)

but im thinking its time to give up!

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gorge2003 · 18/12/2009 20:46

Just an update for everyone, lots milk today, only have to lightly squeeze and it's dripping out! Think it's getting there!!!

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cleanandclothed · 18/12/2009 21:04

Just read this, that is fabulous, well done you!

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gorge2003 · 18/12/2009 22:17

proving that stupid doc that domperidone does work, along with perseverance and hard work!

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PrivetDancer · 18/12/2009 22:27

Oh that's fantastic!!! I would probably have given up long ago if I was you, v impressed by your perseverance! well done!!!

ninja · 18/12/2009 22:36

that's amazing - has the double come yet?

Is your daughter drinking any of it?

willowstar · 19/12/2009 00:07

I have nothing to add other than that I am really pleased for you that it is starting to happen and admire your tenacity...also think it is lovely how people on here have been so helpful, awww :-)

JetLiHallsWithBoughsOfHolly · 19/12/2009 17:39

That's fab news gorge - keep us posted
Is your daughter latching on now?

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gorge2003 · 19/12/2009 19:07

Ah yeah it arrived today ninja! Perfect! She will latch on fine but gets stroppy cos not enough yet!!!

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47doublechins · 19/12/2009 19:25

Why would you initiate breast milk with all sorts of prescription meds ?

A genuine question .

I had friends that couldn't BF.

I understand the trauma that accompanies that.
I saw it at first hand through my NCT group and then when I was co-opted onto the local hospital panel.

The one thing I learned is that it matters "not" how you feed your baby. The best result is an happy well fed baby; and a Happy Mummy.

Even if you resumed BF with all this chemical help/prescriptions; do you actually know, as a consequence, what your Baby is getting through any breast milk?

Breast is definately best.... but with the best will in the world we need to know when to let go.

Your child will suffer no ill consequences as a reult of being bottle fed.

He/She has got a brilliant Mum. Move on Sweatheart.

bedlambeast · 19/12/2009 19:56

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47doublechins · 19/12/2009 21:38

WHY ARE YOU JUST STRESSING YOURSELF OUT ?

Breast feeding doesn't always work.

Enjoy your Baby. If that means bottle feeding, do it.

TBecause you haven't breastfed; you haven't failed.

You've done your best.

That child will still be fantastic.

squashimodo · 19/12/2009 23:31

Hi Gorge, ,have been following your thread, you are doing so well.

tiktok · 19/12/2009 23:35

Caps on a talkboard are shouting, 47doublechins. Why shout at the OP?

Both your posts are unhelpful and unpleasant, and seriously under-informed.

It is for individual mothers to decide 'when to let go' , based on their knowledge of themselves and knowledge of how breastfeeding works and what may or may not help.

The OP is retrieving milk and that is clearly important to her, her well-being and that of her baby.

And you come on here, raining on her parade....unkind and uncalled for.

I dread to think what sort of 'hospital panel' you are on

thaliablogs · 19/12/2009 23:36

Gorge, I think you've done an amazing job. Well done.

kathryn2804 · 19/12/2009 23:37

Hear hear Tiktok, it's an amazing thing that gorge2003 is doing. Well done

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gorge2003 · 20/12/2009 10:26

If u had read the thread properly u would see I breastfed for 4 weeks....she had a bad week and wouldn't feed alot of babies do it, my milk disappeared in that time! Me and dd had such a special bond with brrastfeeding so that's why it is VERY important to me to get it going again. I'm not doing me or dd any harm I'm not stressing out anymore now it's working, whereas I was getting very distressed when nothing was happening! I am willing to do anything to make this work. Relactation is not uncommon! As a hospital board
member u should be encouraging people to carry on. But seriously what harm am I doing? I'm not taking loads of different meds I'm taking herbal fenugreek and domperidone. Both 100% safe!

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tiktok · 20/12/2009 11:38

I hope 47doublechins has the grace to come on and apologise....

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gorge2003 · 20/12/2009 14:38

yeah me too tiktok! was a tad uncalled for, after all im not doing anything wrong or unsafe!

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47doublechins · 21/12/2009 14:34

I apologise If I offended; I really didn't mean too.(blush).

I was trying to be supportive if it didn't work out... sort of look on the bright side sort post.

I was one of the lucky ones. DC came out, was placed out my breast, looked me in the eye for a moment, and then clamped my nipple like a crocodile (with attitude); and there she remained for 19 months.
Day in day out, 24/7 .

I just had experience of Women that beat themselves up because BF didn't work out; and it was hard to watch.

I'm sorry; I think it's my posting sytle; no offence was meant.

tiktok · 21/12/2009 15:17

OK, 47

It's not your 'posting style' that caused offence, but what you actually said....out of order

47doublechins · 21/12/2009 16:10

I'm terribly sorry.

I'm the first advocate of breastfeeding. I loved it, found it easy etc.etc.

I had a friend that stated in her suicide note that she had hung herself because she couldn't breastfeed "properly".
Hence I am a bit hyper-sensitive about breast feeding/bottle feeding issues. Obviously there were also severe PND issues in that situation; she was desperately ill and felt a further failure when she couldn't BF.

We all gave birth around Christmas; so we were all a bit busy.

I was just trying to put a "good" slant on it... OK you can't BF, but not putting chemicals into breastmilk kind of thing.

OK I failed miserably. Once again sincere apologies for any offence caused.

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gorge2003 · 21/12/2009 23:20

thanks for the apology, its not that i cant breastfeed though...we were fine she just had a bad week and wouldnt feed so my milk went, by the time she wanted 'boob' again the milk was gone....there is no harm in using domperidone to help it come back....Its working so thats all i care about!

I do feel that if she doesnt want it this time then thats the end but want to try once more!!!

tiktok...she is being a bit fussy and wont latch on...anything i can do to help her want to latch on?

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tiktok · 22/12/2009 08:29

Hang on in there, gorge - try not to fight with her if she resists latching on and just let her enjoy being close at the breast even if she doesn't want to actually feed much at times. Risk of a struggle is you put her off, so keeping chilled is important

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gorge2003 · 22/12/2009 11:21

thanks tik tok, will just let her cuddle in if she doesnt wanna latch!

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verylittlecarrot · 22/12/2009 12:21

47doublechins, I think it's important to acknowledge that you had the good grace to apologise, so thanks. And given your terribly sad experience I think I can understand your how your view has developed.

When anyone struggles to overcome challenges with anything of personal importance to them, whether it's getting a degree, learning to drive, giving up smoking, running a marathon or breastfeeding, one can either a. tell them it's just too hard, not to feel guilty, "it doesn't matter" and to give it up, or b. help them to find any and all resources at their disposal to succeed.

Who can possibly judge what lengths another person needs to go to in order to feel at peace with themselves that they have reached their own limits? With the kindest will in the world, imposing our own standards on someone else can do more harm than good. We each have our own priorities.