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Horrible experience breastfeeding in boots.

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nomorelostweekends · 30/05/2009 20:31

So despite their fantastic breastfeeding policy, it appears that Boots has not got its act together in ensuring that staff are familiar with it. Yesterday I went into a city centre branch without a feeding room and asked to use one of the chairs in the pharmacy waiting area to feed DD2 (tho not sure why I asked in hindsight). The assistant refused, saying that methadone users picked up their prescriptions in the same area. I then asked her if there was someone else I could feed in the store. She stated that the store did not have feeding facilities and directed me to another branch in the city centre. I told her that I didn?t want to walk to the other branch. DD was screaming, I was very hot and the town centre was very busy. I said I was happy to feed anywhere in the store, didn?t care if people saw me and just needed a chair. The assistant repeated that there were no feeding facilities in the store and that I should go to the other one.

By this point there were loads of other customers waiting and I was getting really stressed. I asked if I could use the pharmacists consulting room, which the store has. She initially refused, then agreed to ask the pharmacist. The pharmacist came over and said I could not use the room as she was not sure if they were insured and that was not its purpose. I was about to give up and leave when the pharmacist said she would speak to the manager. The manager obviously said it was fine because I was then taken to the room, although the staff member taking me was very preoccupied by the fact it had a window( thought this was odd at the time, but following later events it made sense!)

Once in the room a member of staff came in and said she was waiting behind the door but that she would have her back to me! I started to feed and over heard the staff member waiting outside the door having a conversation with a man, who I assumed was a member of staff (the room was not in a public area). During this conversation the man clearly said ?She can breastfeed me if she wants?- the member of staff by the door then said ?sush, she can hear you?.. As I left I asked the staff member standing outside the door if the man was a member of Boots staff. She was evasive, but asked if I heard the ?comments?, (suggesting he had made more). Then she said ?sorry, you shouldn?t have heard that, then said ?you know what men are like? and finally asked me not to take it any further (I assumed this meant not to complain).

I rang Boots this morning to explain what happened and am waiting for a response. Am interested to know if anyone else has tried to feed in stores without feeding rooms and how they have got on? Have to say, I have done it once before, 3 years ago in a different branch and they couldn?t have been more helpful. So its not all bad.

OP posts:
Grendle · 30/05/2009 22:25

I'm so sorry you had an awful experience . I feel what you asked was totally reasonable, especially given their publicised policy. The treatment you received was appaulling and I would certainly encourage you to complain, if possible in writing.

The response of some people on this thread really saddens me.

Horton · 30/05/2009 22:26

Complain. Horrible treatment from people who should know better.

And next time, don't ask, just sit down and get on with it. You'll be fine.

TheCrackFox · 30/05/2009 22:37

Complain, complain, complain.

FWIW, in future do do ask permission, just do it. I never had anyone challenge me when I was BF.

Catla · 30/05/2009 22:38

good for you for asking IMO, I was struggling today to find somewhere to feed DD as I'm not fully comfortable to get 'em out anywhere only cos DD tends to be nosy and pull herself off and leave me exposed!! ended up in a slightly discreet corner of M&S coffee shop! in view of the policy Boots hold you would have been hopeful of a better response, they're not upholding what they promise so you're right to complain, simple as. xx

Catla · 30/05/2009 22:40

Just to add, I didnt' ask permission and I don't think you NEED to ask permission however, it you're taking up a chair it's only polite whether it be for bf or anything else xx

DitaVonCheese · 30/05/2009 23:21

I'm so sorry you had such a bad experience, especially as I am the OP of the Boots thread, so feel a bit responsible Deffo complain, that is appalling treatment.

I am also sorry about the negative comments you've received on here

piscesmoon · 30/05/2009 23:30

I would take it further. Write to head office and complain.

willowthewispa · 30/05/2009 23:34

How ridiculous of them not to give you a chair! As if methadone users would care

slowreadingprogress · 30/05/2009 23:46

on first reading of the title I wondered how on earth your chosen footwear could make feeding so hard! Sorry. It's late!

Agree btw boots were crap in dealing with you that way.

GothAnneGeddes · 31/05/2009 03:24

Definitely complain. I can't believe anyone is being horrible. It's such an awful feeling when your baby is screaming for a feed. Plus the weather at the moment is so hot.

For a shop to act in such a way is tantamount to denying the baby of food. It's cruel.

Why do people have this idea that bf-ing is something like a fashionable hobbies for mums? It's the essential feeding of a vulnerable baby.

StealthPolarBear · 31/05/2009 08:20

MC - why do you think someone needed to guard the door so she could feed?
Presumably as it's the pharmacist's consulting room, only the pharmacist needed to know she was in there so not to use it. Which is a bit in itself -they'd rather have that out of action than a BREASTFEEDING WOMAN ON FULL VIEW in their store!

FairMidden · 31/05/2009 08:30

MC that was spectacularly rude, so much so that I reread it in the hope that it was tongue in cheek - sadly it seems not.

I hardly think asking if it OK to use a chair is unreasonable - it's simply polite IMO. In fact, I think in a situation where the chair has been put there for a set purpose it would be far more out of line to simply seat yourself without asking. BF or not it is irrelevant.

NMLW, at least your complaint will hopefully lead to the store's staff wisening up a little bit

OmicronPersei8 · 31/05/2009 08:36

What an awful experience! Especially considering their breastfeeding policy. I guess it shows that it's one thing to have a policy, another to enforce it. Complain as high as you can - all Boots stores should retrain their staff about their existing policy if it's possible to have a branch where they are so obviously ignorant of it.

I seem to recall that the NCT can help with this kind of complaint - maybe this could help if you are a bit busy with a 5 week old?

MadameCastafiore · 31/05/2009 09:00

Oh for gooodness sake - there was a chair - she asked if she could use it and wasn't told no!

The whole point to me of breastfeeding other than the benefits for the child are that it is portable and easy and convienient - you don't have to have anywhere special just a chair or as someone else said stand up. And the wanting a private corner or a special room does breastfeeding activists more of a disservice by acting as though it is something odd or something that can't be done in public - get them out to feed your child and be proud of what you are doing for your baby - what is natural after all.

I think the scream and scream and scream until I am sick attitude is rideculous - and I am not the only one. Your baby was crying - babies do that - they don't explode in a couple of seconds if their needs are not met - and it is hot, it will get hotter as it is summer.

And there was a knob working there - by all means mention his comments but really I think your attitude stinks - they need to provide a chair - they did that but you chose not to use it. Not once did they say she couldn't breastfeed in FULL VIEW OF THE WHOLE STORE.

warthog · 31/05/2009 09:05

MadameCastafiore, she was told she wasn't allowed use the chair.

SoupDragon · 31/05/2009 09:05

Read the OP, MC. The assistant refused to let her use the chair.

TrinityRhino · 31/05/2009 09:07

I'm a little confused as to why the comments would bother you
I wouldn't have asked
I wouldn't have even thought to ask
I would have sat on the chair and fed
no chair...I would have sat on the floor if I had desperately wanted to stay in the cool shop because of the heat outside

I think you made unneccesary fuss tbh

FairMidden · 31/05/2009 09:08

MC, as well as rude you obviously don't read properly.

SoupDragon · 31/05/2009 09:09

I think the comments bothered the Op because they appear to have been made by a member of staff, judging by the response/behaviour of the other assistant.

SoupDragon · 31/05/2009 09:10

It's bad because of Boots' own Breastfeeding policy

MadameCastafiore · 31/05/2009 09:11

Oh for gods sake - what was the assistant going to do - jump up and sit on the chair herself, pull her off the chair with baby just about to explode from not being fed for a couple of munutes and the thermometer reaching rideculously high temperatures?

They say that chairs have to be provided - there was one there - stop making a huge issue out of something that is not and sit and feed your kid before it explodes (and no they don't do that if they are not fed that very minute!)

FairMidden · 31/05/2009 09:11

And has everyone forgotten what it's like to have a 5 week old baby? I really don't think the OP made an "unnecessary fuss" by asking for a chair.

warthog · 31/05/2009 09:11

well if boots goes around trumpeting their amazing breastfeeding policy, then they should stick to it.

op has a right to make a fuss. the staff were rather unhelpful, to say the least, never mind the bloke.

TrinityRhino · 31/05/2009 09:12

fair enough but a member of staff can be an equally rude person as a a passer by

some people are rude and/or have an innappropriate sense of humour

its better for your blood pressure and outlook on life to let the comments slide off your back like water off a duck

rasputin · 31/05/2009 09:13

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