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Pregnant and Nursing Support Thread

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TinkerBellesMum · 25/07/2008 10:06

I thought I'd start up a support group, for those of us pregnant, with an older nursling. If you are pregnant at the moment or tandeming or have done in the past and want to add your support, please post!

I'm 12 weeks pregnant and have a 2 and a week year old. One of the first things I noticed about being pregnant was my nipples felt bruised like she'd bitten me. 8 weeks later not much has changed and I'm still spending every feed saying "gentle please".

Someone please tell me it gets easier!

I'm also starting to feel quite full and hard.

I keep getting told by my family I'll have problems tandem feeding "and how many mothers do you know who have done it?" My dad was grilling me the other day about tandeming and when I'll stop Tink nursing. He's a radiographer. I made him agree with me "Well, you know yourself that when the adult teeth come through because they're in a totally different order to the milk teeth the jaw changes shape" "Yes and around the same time the soft spot in the jaw fuses" "That change makes it impossible for them to continue nursing, that's why they got called milk teeth" lol how could he argue when he'd just backed my argument up!

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TinkerBellesMum · 11/10/2008 18:08

pst it's PT

Feel free to join in if you can multi-task!

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PinkTulips · 11/10/2008 19:26

ello o&u, please do join in, we seem to have hijacked this thread yet again

TBM, we already are multi tasking..... after all, we're growing a person while MNing..... that counts right?

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TinkerBellesMum · 11/10/2008 19:28

No hi-jacking, it's a support group, we can talk about what we want

I was thinking of O&U knitting lentils and chatting as rather clever multi tasking!

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onwardandupward · 11/10/2008 22:13

It's about as clever as you're likely to get from me this weekend [yawning with tiredness emoticon]

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TinkerBellesMum · 11/10/2008 22:45

Awww, we'll let you off!

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PinkTulips · 12/10/2008 10:57

feck, it's freezing and ds has a vicious cold. want to offer him a bf as it might help him but it's so cold i don't want his freakishly cold hands touching me

i lose lentil points for admitting that don't i?

BabiesEverywhere · 12/10/2008 13:58

whomovedmychocolate, Sounds like tandem nursing is going well for you

I did/have been engorged despite tandem nursing for the first 6 weeks.

Especially at night, I have have very painfully full breasts...one night I dashed downstairs and grapped the hand pump and expressed 4ozs out...I felt better (though I avoided expressing in general as it will encourage more milk supply)

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TinkerBellesMum · 12/10/2008 14:16

Put some gloves on him PT and wrap yourselves up in a blanket or quilt. Tink loves it when I bring a quilt into the living room, sometimes she gets one and we just curl up on the sofa wrapped up, I love feeding her like that.

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BabiesEverywhere · 12/10/2008 14:23

Great ideas Tink.

DD, DS and I all have a bad cold, so both kids want to nurse pretty much all the time and we are all coughing and sneezing over each other...joy !!!

DH has escaped being ill so far, which means he get to make food and cups of tea.

Febes · 12/10/2008 15:47

DD and I are both sick too! Had a rubbish day dispite the beautiful weather. Think I might need a day off tomorrow which is a shame as Monday is my best today at work. Much rather have thursday off I class I cover on thursday is evil. DD is feeding more which is reasuring as I was so close to thinking about stopping last week as she seemed to go off me but now I'm so glad as I feel I am really helping her by feeding and it seems to unblock her nose.

Febes · 13/10/2008 19:28

Have I killed the thread????

BabiesEverywhere · 14/10/2008 09:09

You haven't kill the thread

We are feeling a bit better today and wondering whether we should go out & potential cough near people or stay inside and have toddler DD go slowly mad ?

Febes · 14/10/2008 09:38

I am also still sick. I dropped DD off at the childminder as I'm paying anyway and she is much better and getting verybored at home with me. I was good to have her with me for the last 3 days feeding her 3 times a day. i have dropped the formula feed at night again and its made no difference.

Did anyone elses Dcs notice when you fell pregnant. DD started biting me as soon as I fell PG. She knew before I did. My nipples feel ok now not so tender.

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TinkerBellesMum · 14/10/2008 18:15

Febes, it was probably because you were tender more than you were being bitten. I posted on an FB group to say how much pain I was in, I didn't check back in and the next time I did someone was asking me if I was pregnant, I was 7 weeks and just tested between posts!

Missing my baby at the moment, my breasts don't seem so sore either so I'm hoping I'm not drying up

Did anyone see my thread about my scan yesterday? I'm feeling a little about that too.

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CantSleepWontSleep · 14/10/2008 21:34

Just getting this back onto my threads to remind me to catch up tomorrow, as I haven't read since going into hospital.

CantSleepWontSleep · 15/10/2008 07:51

Just had a quick read through. Haven't read about your scan yet tbm - what's up?

Re expressing pre-birth, I tried to because of my gest diabetes, but wasn't successful. I never was much of an expresser though.

Now I've had my baby (did you guys see my childbirth and/or birth anouncement threads?) I can confirm that my milk did come in quicker than last time, so I wouldn't expect you'd need frozen supplies built up.

Ds is 5 days old now, and I haven't felt engorged at all, and am not even needing to use breast pads yet.

I'm trying to keep dd to her usual 3 feeds a day, whilst giving ds free access. This is causing some jealousy, but I want to establish some boundaries from the word go, as I know how prone dd is to want to feed incessantly given the chance.

Febes · 15/10/2008 09:18

Oh a new babe!! Congrats I have 6 months to go and I can't wait. How old is your DD? Mine will be 18 months when LO is born. Good to hear you haven't had to use breast pads yet. I leaked so much for the first 5 months with DD and it was horrid I could do with out that this time.

CantSleepWontSleep · 15/10/2008 09:23

Thanks Febes. DD is 2yrs 8months.

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TinkerBellesMum · 15/10/2008 12:56

My scan was on another thread. There is a notch in the left uterine Doppler, someone (on here because the hospital didn't) explained it's the blood flowing back during a beat so the baby isn't getting enough oxygenated blood. She's also dropped to 10th %ile. They're more concerned about her weight at the moment (which, according to the poster who explained the notch could be related) and are going to rescan in 2 weeks (they can't do it sooner because it wouldn't tell them anything) to see if she is still on the same line or dropping. They've not told me what the next step is from there which I'm finding hard because I like to know a couple of steps in advance.

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Febes · 15/10/2008 13:46

Oh no TBM! How many weeks are you? It must be hard not knowing what comes next. . I guess you have to try to stay positive and know LOs are strong.

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TinkerBellesMum · 15/10/2008 14:02

I'm 24 weeks, will be just off 27 weeks when I have the next scan. If she's not behaving I can see at that late stage they will be starting to look into steroids and thinking about bringing things forward. It's only 4 weeks away from when Tink was born and I've been aiming for that long.

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Lionstar · 17/10/2008 22:20

TBM will keep all fingers and toes crossed for you, hope you get better news at the next scan.

Just had my booking appointment with my lovely midwife and the subject came up about whether I breastfed before. So I volunteered that I was still bf at 20 months, and she heartily approved! In fact we spent a bit of time chatting about rates of bf, and she thought that the 'official' lines about bf are getting somehow confused or mixed up, because she has seen a big surge in mothers giving up totally at 6 months. She thought it possibly due to the wording of 'exclusive bf for 6 months' - making 6 months the target to achieve, rather than the 1 year that the health bodies actually recommend.

I mentioned that I have got some great advice from parenting forums on the internet, and she said 'Oh, do you use Mumsnet?' Well I'm always pleased to hear that HCPs are aware of Mumsnet, and she went on to say that Mumsnet often comes up in their department meetings as a reference to a place where topics very close to their heart are discussed in a 'normal and rational' way. Yay to them (and to Mumsnet)!

Febes · 18/10/2008 12:31

I agree Lionstar- So many people BF for 6 months and then seem to stop over night. At my 6 week check up with DD the female doc told me to only feed until 6 months as after that there is no real benfit and it just makes the mum tired. .

I'm down to one feed a day again first thing in the morning now but DD still seems to enjoy it and doesn't seem to want anymore (11 months) I am a bit worried about her milk intake so have started giving her a milk drink in the evening -its cows milk with a tiny spoon of milo stirred in do you think thats bad? She drinks it really well and I've tried formual and straight cows milk and she would only thake half the amount. She bites my boobs in the evening if I try to feed her so I don't think she wants that.

Febes · 18/10/2008 18:27

I just read on another thread that Tinkerbells mum is in Labour they are trying to slow her down. Everyone think healthy baby thoughts.

CantSleepWontSleep · 18/10/2008 18:48

I just came on to say the same thing Febes. Thread here.