Sadly one of my close friends had avery similar experiance to LGJ, a baby born 3 months premature, 2 days struggling to express while seriously ill, then her aorta burst and she was sent to a hospital across the country from her child. they both almost died.
you know what, she could care less what he was fed because against all the odds 3 years later she has a fit and healthy little boy and is still alive (although ill) to see him grow.
yes bf is a great start in life but ffs.... it's a few weeeks to a few years of their life and then it's over and done with and there are other issues that to contend with and worry yourself sick about until they too pale into insignifigance.
when your ds is grown LGJ, will your really give a flying shit how he was fed? why would you? he's alive, he's well and most importantly YOU DO THE BEST YOU CAN FOR HIM AND ALWAYS HAVE!
you know i have great respect for you LGJ but there really is no reason in the world to get so upset about this issue.
Yes bm is great for babies.
feeding a toddler all organic is the best choice... how many people do that? or give a shit? surely it should be as important in peoples minds to continue feeding kids the finest on offer, why do people suddenly stop getting so upset about it when they get older? imo it's because as they get bigger and tougher we start to realise they're not the delicate little creatures we think they are... they won't dissolve if fed the wrong thing and we're not damaging them for life if we don't bf and blw on purely organic veg
we gain perspective as they get older. we all have things we regret doing or not doing when our babies were little but if you carry those regrets around for the next 20 years you're going to miss out on alot of great moments with your kids... so what's the point?