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DH very unsupportive towards breastfeeding

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Applefruitcake · 28/02/2025 23:02

Has anyone else dealt with something like this? My dh has been really unsupportive throughout my breastfeeding journey. When ds was smaller, everytime he would cry, dh would say that its because of my milk and that i need to give him formula instead. For reference, ds was never really a fussy baby and only had colic symptoms a handful of times. He would police what im eating and tell me not to eat certain foods (and i obliged so i dont get blamed later on). We had a lot of issues with latching early on and I started off exclusively pumping. Dh made fun of me saying ds 'doesn't like my boobs' Then once we transitioned to nursing only, he kept on telling me that ds isn't getting enough milk eventhough there was no evidence to support that and tell me to give him a bottle of 'real milk'. Then once he reached 6 months, dh kept telling me I can stop now, ds doesn't need breastmilk anymore. Then told ds "you're too old for boobie now" (at 6 months!!) It's gotten to the point that I hide in another room when I'm breastfeeding so he doesn't make any comments.

I have tried to tell him that these comments are hurtful, but every time he says I'm being too sensitive and then starts again a few days later. I don't know if it's just him being over-protective of our ds (we're first time parents) or its some kind of jealousy. I was ideally hoping to let ds self-wean but the comments will only get worse as he gets older. I don't really know what I'm hoping from this post, just a rant and looking for support elsewhere I guess..

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PickledElectricity · 20/03/2025 15:14

Applefruitcake · 20/03/2025 11:16

Arghh I'm TIRED. So yesterday he told me again that I need to give ds two bottles of formula a day because he "read it online". I asked him for the link several times, he finally sent me a generic weaning guide then admitted he made it up 🙄

Your husband is a cunt.

Tell him to get out.

I breastfed for 19 months and I had a really tough time getting started. My DP was supportive, I would have fallen to pieces if he wasn't. I would have carried on longer but unfortunately with going back to work my supply dried up.

EternalFogInMyNotSoSpoltlessMind · 20/03/2025 15:40

AnxiouslyAwaitingSpring · 01/03/2025 03:54

I personally would say 6 months is way beyond breastfeeding age but that's just my own opinion. HOWEVER he is certainly being unkind about it and sounds like he needs to grow up.

The thing to remember though, is that he does have a right to comment on it. Obviously it's your body so you get the final say but when I had my DC, I made a point to make sure I took his input into consideration on everything as the baby was his too. He didn't push his agenda onto me like your DH is doing (my hormones would've had him running for his life!!) but I still considered his thoughts.
If your DH is concerned that your baby isn't being nourished sufficiently then surely he has a right to at least a proper discussion on it? Included in that would be a discussion on his approach to matters....!

The WHO recommend breastfeeding until babies are at least two.

ReadingSoManyThreads · 20/03/2025 16:25

Oh god, I HATE your husband!!!!!!!!!!! He gives me all the RAGE!

I breastfed both of my children until they naturally weaned (beyond 2yrs old!).

Ignore the ignorant cunt. You're doing the best for your child. He's deliberately trying to sabotage your breastfeeding relationship with your child which is abusive.

IButtleSir · 20/03/2025 16:47

AnxiouslyAwaitingSpring · 01/03/2025 03:54

I personally would say 6 months is way beyond breastfeeding age but that's just my own opinion. HOWEVER he is certainly being unkind about it and sounds like he needs to grow up.

The thing to remember though, is that he does have a right to comment on it. Obviously it's your body so you get the final say but when I had my DC, I made a point to make sure I took his input into consideration on everything as the baby was his too. He didn't push his agenda onto me like your DH is doing (my hormones would've had him running for his life!!) but I still considered his thoughts.
If your DH is concerned that your baby isn't being nourished sufficiently then surely he has a right to at least a proper discussion on it? Included in that would be a discussion on his approach to matters....!

I personally would say 6 months is way beyond breastfeeding age

Eh?!

Springhassprungthesunisout · 20/03/2025 17:04

Your DH sounds jealous that he doesn't have exclusive access to your breasts! Does he not realise what breasts are for?
I'd be giving him a stern talking to and get as much other family support as you can and speak to your health visitor.
He's an utter prick

An89 · 23/03/2025 19:42

Applefruitcake · 20/03/2025 11:16

Arghh I'm TIRED. So yesterday he told me again that I need to give ds two bottles of formula a day because he "read it online". I asked him for the link several times, he finally sent me a generic weaning guide then admitted he made it up 🙄

How old is DS? Is DS OK in terms of growth and wet nappies?
If so, you're doing everything absolutely right and you need to tell your husband that

Welshmonster · 09/05/2025 23:52

Just seen this. How are you doing? Hoping this crazy fool is now your ex!!

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