im getting so sick of being told, bf in public is alright as long as its discreet! grrr

[milkgoddessmakesthefinestmilk]

well its not always that easy to do it discreatly.how fucking rude to say do not flaunt it

grr!!!
yes im cousin was asking me if i fed in public, i said yes, her and her husband started going on about how bf should be donediscrectly

they fucking asked me

i tried to explain that i dont believe any woman does it to flaunt it,he pipes up one i meet did. and went on to tell a really lame story of someone daring to bf in his presence.she had the attitude of i can do this anywhere, oh course she did ffs

i tried to explain its not that easy for some women to be discreet, and it was probably just a new mum, struggling really hard to do the best thing for her baby.

but they wouldnt listen to me,
started turning into a row
i am really fucking angry about this

I was hugely indiscreet when feeding ds at first...seemed to need to take my top off to see what I was doing! Didn't stop me though and I, thankfully, got way more discrete as the months went on.

With dd I was more concerned about exposing my flabby midriff!

I could never be discreet as all mine loved pulling my top everywhere, squirming, looking around with my nipple in their mouth. I hated it for the first child, but for the others I just concentrated on nothing but them while I was doing it, or stared out the starers it a kinf of 'fuck with me if you dare - I 've had no sleep for 2 years' way - both approaches worked stunningly. family who questioned it I would just reply 'it's not about you' and leave it at that.

oooh yess tass - I second the stomach comment!

I agree with you milkgoddess.

And I'm even more sick of being told that bfing in public ought to be 'discrete'

Your cousin's DH is obviously a big fat arse.

Campaign for Brazen Breastfeeding, anyone?

Oh I'm getting sick of the fact that even has to be discussed!

It's the most farking normal thing to do in the world and fuck all to do with anyone else except the parents and the baby.

and I think your cousin and her DH should move to Bournemouth. Apparently there is a very accommodating Costa Coffee down that way they'd like.

My cousin (who was quite barking mad) used to strip to the waist to BF. Both boobs out.

She really did it just to shock.

In all sorts of ways she was an utter pain in the arse and V bad press for breast feeders in general.

She wasn't doing it to 'promote BF' she was doing it to embarrass (and Before I'm told I'm wrong, remember that I know her and that you don't!)

One of my friends wouldn't bf in public because for her it was a 2 handed job (didn't believe her until I sat with her in a baby change cubicle), it is one of the few times I've been glad of being non-endowed on the norkage front as for me discreet feeding after the first few weeks was easy.

Yes sure most women just love having their norks stared at as they go about their everyday business.........

Tis insanity.

Ooh, BitLessTiredNow - I like that - 'it's not about you'. I'll remember that one.

xx

Perhaps the offended people should look away and stare at the apparently much less offensive porn mags that clutter up the shops?

oooh yes me too

There is a lot of subtle encouragement to be discreet, I find. Eg reassureance to new mothers that "you CAN bf discreetly".

It winds me up immensely.

it sounds like the op's cousin was using it as a poor argument because he feels uncomfortable - boobs should be lust objects/in the sun rather than anything else - anything else is dodgy. just avoid them.
they sound like dinosaurs

I have seen some women who seem to think it is their right so make it as obvious as possible, having both breasts fully out in public isnt really neccessary (it wasnt twins). Yes its a mums and babies right to bf when required and I dont want people to see my boobs just as much as they dont want to see mine(well some perverts might)but people that go ott gives breastfeeders a bad name

I have remonstrated with ds2 on several occasions to be discreet, but his disturbing desire to notice and inspect the world around him are impossible to work with.
So to anyone I've inadvertently flashed a milky nipple at. Apologies

I met a friend in the park the other day who has 19 mo twins. One of them jumped up for a quick feed and of course the other one wanted to as well, so there she was with a toddler on each knee and her top pulled up to her neck, naked to the waist. She looked fantastic.
When she saw my 18 mo staring in wonder she said 'She's looking to see if a third nipple will appear!'.
There was an old boy in a flat cap on the bench right beside her, who I think she knew slightly, who then initiated a conversation about people with more than two nipples, it was hilarious!
No-one was embarrassed or uncomfortable. That's how it should be.

how do you all know these overenthusastic public breastfeeders?

I have worked and so forth with quite a lot of new mothers now, and know a lot of mad hippy mothers also

yet have somehow missed out on these fabulous milky nipple flaunters

Yes filly - not to doubt MB or orangehead, but people like that are surely in a tiny minority. I'm the most brazen public bf-er I know, and whilst I might flash one nipple I never flash two.

(Obv. flashing two when you have twins is probably unavoidable and not at all indicative of exhibitionism.)

oh no I am not doubting anyone

I'd just quite like to meet them

Sadly such things don't happen round here, ohhhh no

Oh I wouldn't be at all surprized if people like my cousin are in a tiny minority, but she used to take off her jumper and expose both breasts to feed her single child (she didn't waer a bra)

Did it in front of my father just to annoy really.

But as I said she was (and is) a nut job of the finest water

lol lol at your bonkers cousin MB.

She has sex with 12 men on Aberaeron beach once......

She does sound like a right pain MB, and I'm sure if I saw her doing that I'd be a bit , but I'd still rather see that than some poor first-time mother cowering in a corner, sweaty and embarrassed, desperately trying to be 'discreet'. I remember taking DS1 on a train when he was quite newborn, and being mortified when he wanted a feed. I'd have given anything to not be the only breastfeeding woman in the village at that point.

....granted there isn't that much to do in Aberaeron, but even so.......