im getting so sick of being told, bf in public is alright as long as its discreet! grrr

[milkgoddessmakesthefinestmilk]

well its not always that easy to do it discreatly.how fucking rude to say do not flaunt it

grr!!!
yes im cousin was asking me if i fed in public, i said yes, her and her husband started going on about how bf should be donediscrectly

they fucking asked me

i tried to explain that i dont believe any woman does it to flaunt it,he pipes up one i meet did. and went on to tell a really lame story of someone daring to bf in his presence.she had the attitude of i can do this anywhere, oh course she did ffs

i tried to explain its not that easy for some women to be discreet, and it was probably just a new mum, struggling really hard to do the best thing for her baby.

but they wouldnt listen to me,
started turning into a row
i am really fucking angry about this

for discreet bottle feeding

Bouncingturtle I know two women who put themselves through the mill expressing so they can give baby a bottle of EBM when they're out.

Thing is, showing women how to feed relatively discreetly isn't going to change this.

Changing attitudes is.

It's all very well Bridie saying that acting 'indiscreetly' might put people off breastfeeding - but how else do you change attitudes? Unless a huge bunch of us start breastfeeding when and where and how we want - like Bouncingturtle - then this attitude of be discreet hide it don't show too much flesh make sure no one's looking cover up quickly before someone comes - will just continue.

Millwall supporters giving Turtle's DS their vote of approval

LOL at chip's link - what is the point of those??

Reverse, I agree - the more women bf when and where and how the hell they want to, the better. We will, in that situation, see in everyday life that women can do it in all sorts of ways and it will cease to be an issue for mothers who feel nervous about it. No one will think 'OHMYGOD, I can't breastfeed, you need to take your top off and expose yourself, helphelphelp, I can't do it.'

I can only suppose they are to stop judgey types seeing you've put tea / coke / ribena in the bottle...

I've just read the OP but I agree with it totally. I'm also fed up of the attitude 'I'm all for breastfeeding as long as.....'
or 'I agree with breastfeeding BUT....'

There's always a But isn't there, always a condition.

I like the 'walking discreetly' comment - that's a good analogy!

yes belgo, actually they said it in such a begrudging way well errr bf is alright if its not flauted and its done discreetly

as if there where so big abd gracious to say its alright

its not alright, its fantastic for the BABY and the mum

you whats really pissed me off about this? they f'ing well asked me!!

why do that? where they hopeing for me to say, oh yeah everytime i feed in public im always getting abused in the street etc

when i told them that yes i had bf in public and hav had nothing but positive responses
they just looked at me like as if i must of been lying

I have orange and peach fruit shoot in my left nork, you know

I've never encountered any negative reactions to me bfing in public, though may I have but not noticed

I have known a lot of breastfeeding mothers in my time, and the ones who won't do it in public are the ones who stop doing it first.

Prudish attitudes about "discreet" feeding therefore deny babies the perfect food that is breastmilk, depriving them of antibodies against disease and the comfort of breastfeeding.

People who think their own warped oversensitivity to seeing women breastfeed is more important than the health of these babies, are so monumentally self-absorbed they deserve absolutely no consideration at all. And there are fewer people like this than this thread implies.

Milkgoddess, are you thinking of showing this thread to your cousin's husband?

I wonder if your cousin's husband would mention "discreet" wn he saw the same pair of boobis nude sunbathing? I think not!

Inetersting that if boobs and nipples are on show in the sun it's ok, but if that woman sat up and fed her baby it would cause gasps of shock horror ( until she'd finished, and lay back down to nude sunbathe)

Must have something to do with mouth proximity - wonder what the acceptable distance is, 1 metre? 10 metres?

I'm intrigued at the idea of blatant breastfeeding. Could someone please tell me how one practices this?
I have large norks so bear that in mind!
am imagining a neon or fluorescent tube sign announcing impending exposure of said tit.
Circus style waving of said tit.
Loud and sumptuous latching on of wailing infant as you throw off your top to truly enlighten the world to your task.

I have big boobs too - H cup - and echo everything that's been said about two-handed feeding and the inevitability of flesh on show. My boobs were bigger than DS' head for many months. He was rubbish at latching to start with, so I had to guide him, and watch really carefully. It was not subtle or discreet. I was still dignity-free, so didn't really care - although I did try to minimise the amount of flesh on show. My feeding pillow helped with that - although it also advertised what I was doing!

Fortunately, the only person who ever seemed to get embarrassed was my FIL. And if I do it again, probably the only thing that I'll change is to wear a boob tube under my boobs - because sometimes it was a bit too chilly!

Piffle, I think it would also involve a sandwich board and a herald with a trumpet, maybe some contortionists for pre-show entertainment

Loved your posting reversethepolarity.I have felt twinges of embarrassment when feeding due to 32H norks and dresses that unbutton (rather than lift up tops).Makes me feel really angry that I do but there you go.Bought a little cover up sheet thing to wear when I had a newborn so I could avoid having the whole breast on display,now useless anyway as she pulls it away crossly and peers out .Mainly bothered in places where there are a lot of men.Sad isn't it? I love to see other women feeding both norks out or no-it looks beautiful and makes me feel less awkward.There seem to be so many of us all feeling like we should hide away,the more we feed everywhere the more we support each other.
On the other note Don't know if I'm more shocked by the twelve men or Aberaeron.That must have been one sore rear end(Aber is v. stoney)

Totally agree with OP! (and in shock and awe at Reversethepolarity's 32K breasts )

I can mostly feed discretely but DD does like to come off and have a chat with the person sitting behind her!

I can't stand these sorts of things. I mean, who are they really for, the mother? Or everyone else? I'd be far less embarrassed flashing both my boobs than wearing a fecking Christmas tree skirt around my neck!

They'd be much more shock & awe inducing if they didn't want to make best friends with my stomach.

I can't bear those titty tent things either!

rtp mine also nestle comfortably upon my soft rounded tummy. If we ever met we would need to shake hands side on
32hh here with overspill at times!

Lol - although I do actually have to hug slightly side on if there's another normous-norked woman in the equation.

ew i waasn't planning on showing him this thrad, i was just ranting really, but getting a few ideas what to say to him next time i see him

Ohhhh, don't start me on this!

There is more tittage on display in most pubs on a Sturday night than in your average breastfeeding group!!

As for those "Hooter Hider" type things, aaaarrrrrgghhhhh %$ %&?@:+%*&

Monkies

Say it with style

or this one

finally

one for your little one

Monkies

My DS (now 2.6) is fond of shouting out "Milkies squirt out ketchup!" I can't now be discreet even if I were to cover us both with a blanket.

I can now feed discreetly. DS can't. But in the early days I did need to flash a lot (and incidentally shout abuse at passers by) just to achieve latch-on.

Have never had a problem, though the man in the fishing boat museum in Unst told me there was a coach party in who might be more prudish than he was.

Excessive embarrassment over bodies causes no end of problems. I also know women who wouldn't swim whilst pregnant for fear of people seeing their fat arse. Even though they desperately wanted the support of the water and the exercise

yes here here, v v well put ex

three cheers for that lady !!

thanks for all the funny links
i love if my bf offens you, feel free to put a blanket over your head

im actually gonna order on of those bibs for dd lol