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why should i be made to feel bad for still bf ds

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mehdismummy · 20/04/2008 14:08

i am so so sick of getting strange looks off people because i still bf(2.3years) i dont bf in public and he only really has it at night also sometimes if he is tired or upset. He is a happy healthy contented little boy(see pics) and it really annoys me when you encounter negativity. My gp and health visitor are both guilty of the look. The final straw which started this rant was when my boss(i use the term loosely) said i should not still be feeding him. This is all because i tell him i cant go and get pissed because i bf. Anyone want to join an extended bf thread?

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ellideb · 20/04/2008 17:51

Do you know what is so touching about this thread? How strongly it comes across just how much you all adore your Lo's. I get a sense of a lionesses protectiveness over your babies and that nothing could ever come between the love you have and give to your babies. Especially whilst BF. It really moves me and fills me with exitement and happiness that soon I will be able to experience those feelings too. Nothing comes between a mother's love and her babies. Who cares about the looks and what anyone else thinks mehdismummy, they don't understand, nor will they. Their loss.

StarlightMcKenzie · 20/04/2008 17:57

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lackaDAISYcal · 20/04/2008 17:57

awwwww, that had me nearly in tears ellideb.......soppy

lackaDAISYcal · 20/04/2008 17:57

pmsl starlight, that broke the spell

StarlightMcKenzie · 20/04/2008 17:59

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ellideb · 20/04/2008 18:12

Oops sorry, lackadaisycal didn't mean to have anyone in tears, pesky hormones! done enough upsetting people tonight hee hee!

I've been quite emotional myself recently too, I was having a disagreement with DP yesterday over me wanting needing to get a sun bed. It was being offered for free through the local freecycle, hence the attraction I think, despite the fact WE HAVE NO SPACE. I was getting quite annoyed he wouldn't agree to it and said it's my choice, not his if I want to put myself at risk, I'll care about me thankyou very much. and he answered, I'll care about you too. It totally through me off track and had me in tears, just because he cared. I couldn't stop crying all night then! it's those hormones!

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lackaDAISYcal · 20/04/2008 18:21

aw ellideb, that's lovely of your DP

ellideb · 20/04/2008 18:24

He is lovely starlight I'm so lucky to have him.

Do you know what really annoyed/made me laugh me the other day? I went into the sunbed shop just to make enquiries and the woman in charge told me a story about studies done on a pregnant woman who was sunbathing to see how the sunlight affected the foetus. She said when her belly was exposed to the sun the foetus shielded its eyes from the sun.

I didn't know whether to laugh out loud or tell her to stop being so ridiculous. Needless to say I won't be booking my sessions there! She did however recommend Johnssons tanning lotion so maybe we could get some of that? My legs are so white now starlight I think they would reflect the sun anyhow. Don't get me started on the blue veins!

kittywise · 20/04/2008 18:28

ds3 has just turned one and the hv is obviously not impressed with the fact that not only is he still feeding LOADS but that I don't want him to stop either.

She got really excited when I mentioned he had the odd bit of formula. She started foaming about him getting anaemic .
I fully intend to feed him until he wants to stop, which I hope won't be for a while yet.

StarlightMcKenzie · 20/04/2008 18:32

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minster · 20/04/2008 18:38

I've never understood how you could possibly make a child breast feed

ellideb do you believe that cow's/goat's/soya milk has any place in a child's diet after they are a year or so old? If so why would they be preferable to human milk?

motherhurdicure my dd called breastfeeding 'ooosh' & my ds asks for 'mbaba'

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mehdismummy · 20/04/2008 18:38

aah bless you elli. I tell you nothing prepares you for the love you feel for your child. So excited for all you september massive! Now bugger off back to your own thread!

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StarlightMcKenzie · 20/04/2008 18:44

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mehdismummy · 20/04/2008 18:48

will be there to stalk ellie!

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ellideb · 20/04/2008 21:21

Nice speaking to you all, off back to my own thread now, been hijacking too long!

StealthPolarBear · 20/04/2008 21:38

and not even from the same side
you really didn't think that one through

Jessie3 · 20/04/2008 21:59

My 2.4 ds calls it 'noo'!

mawbroon · 20/04/2008 22:02

Oh I think this might be a thread for me to join. DS is 2.6 tomorrow and still feeding on demand.

I am having a dillema about weaning as I am ttc and apart from a very early miscarriage in Jan, I've had no luck in well over a year. I have been charting and have found that I am ovulating much later in my cycle, leaving me with a very short luteal phase which is no use for implantation.

So, I am waiting on my copy of How Weaning Happens, but in the meantime have been doing "never offer, never refuse". DS is fly. He now feeds more than ever, so I don't think he is anywhere near ready to wean. He is the type of child who just suddenly does stuff (walking, talking, potty training) so I wouldn't be surprised if he just gives up one day He also has food allergies so I would like to leave him to it.

We feed out and about anywhere btw and nobody has ever said anything.

milou2 · 20/04/2008 22:21

That's a great book, still on my shelf even though both my ds are ancient now.

I thought I was going to feed for 6 months too, because my mother had fed me for that long. Well it turned out to be 2 yrs+.

Then I was all emotional when my ds2 was 18 months old and still feeding, "only 6 more months.." How wrong could I be! He went on til 4+.

I feel all odd when I see a mother with a rooting babe in a cafe, she can't know I'm supportive, just sees a 44yr old stranger with a surprisingly smiley face.

allytjd · 20/04/2008 22:52

Feeling nostalgic reading this, DS3 was weaned a year ago at rising three, because I wanted to sort out contraception and he was tailing off naturally anyway. I agree about children stopping when they want to, my older boys both got fed up of BFing at one even though I would have continued.
One funny story though, DS3 stayed the night )at 2.5) with my mum when DH and I stayed in a posh hotel for tenth wedding anniversary, he ended up in her bed and in the morning he started to pull her nightie up saying "boobie time now Granny", luckily my mum (who is v. flat-chested)thought it was funny rather than offensive!

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mehdismummy · 20/04/2008 23:43

what lovely stories. Note to elli. I will find you!

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harpomarx · 20/04/2008 23:50

mehdismummy

have only skipped through the thread.

fuck 'em is what I say.

a friend of mine bf her dd till about 4 in the way you describe, just at night. I admit i was a bit at the time but that was cos i hadn't had a kid myself.

i bf my own till just over 1 - would happily have continued feeing before bed if she had wanted to. she didn't.

and the friend above was by no means a militant earth mother bfing type ( a down to earth northern glam puss with a high-flying job in fact), she just loved her dd and wanted to bond with her as much as possible and didn't feel like stopping the bfing until she could reason with her that she was probably too old, i think it was when she started school.

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mehdismummy · 21/04/2008 00:05

hi harpo. Thanks. I thought i was the only mad one up for a minute there!

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harpomarx · 21/04/2008 00:07

starting to feel like that myself mm, think i'll probably be hitting the sack soon though. Would be in bed already if i hadn't have fallen asleep at 7.30 putting dd to bed and then woke up again at 9!