Countess - sometimes our bodies just let us down, no matter how hard we try. Mine has killed 2 out of 4 pregnancies, of perfectly healthy babies as my immune system would not tolerate them living and growing inside me. It wasn't my choice, but I would NEVER want to take someone else's choice away just because mine was restricted - thankfully drugs were the answer for me and I now have a regime that works BUT just cos my body screwed me up doesn't mean I'd want to restrict the access OR the awareness that other mothers could and should have about the drug regime that works - IYSWIM. It's ASPIRIN BTW, how simple!
For me the same goes for the information about feeding babies and children, if my body let me down it's not my fault, it's a bio-chemical condition that is involuntary, why prevent other women from accessing the information so that if they DO have a choice, they can make an informed one?
I felt guilty when I found out my firstborn son was dead inside me, when I called his father to tell him he had died, when I buried him, but now I don't feel guilty, even after the second baby died - it wasn't my fault. Now I feel angry, sad and disappointed at times, but I wouldn't ever want other women NOT to have access to the information to prevent them from being able to carry a pg to term IYSWIM. Step away from your guilt or bad feelings. If someone needs to take medication that prevents them from bf it's frustrating and annoying and all sorts of other things, but not an individuals fault, so let go of any bad feelings and enable other women access to the choices that were unavailable to you