Feel free to be outraged as I am fuming about this.
My best friend has been struggling with breastfeeding her PFB. Her health visitor has referred her to a breastfeeding councilor, which I am pleased and amazed at as I was never offered anything like that.
She is worried that her DD is slightly dropping on the charts and under ill advised pressure from her mum who keeps suggesting she try formula.
I have just called her and she seemed really low. I tried to do my best to help, letting her know how it can be hard at first but it may well happen that it clicks into place and becomes the naturally easy thing we are led to believe it is. But then mentioned that something she overheard on the maternity ward has been troubling her.
She went to the loo late at night and overheard two midwives talking, one of whom had been really helpful in showing her how to correctly position and latch etc. They were laughing and one said 'These white women just can't breastfeed, they have lost their mothering instinct. I bet half these babies are on formula tomorrow'
I feel so sad that this has upset her so much. Personally I would be furious and would have let them know I heard them and given them a piece of my mind, but I understand why she didn't. It seems so horribly unprofessional, and even if they were joking around it is worrying that people in that position could have such an attitude.