whats the longest anyone has bf for? anyone still doing it with lo's at school?

[prettylovebird]

ok i know dd is only 7 months,but, i want to bf her forever, and just wondering what it will be like when shes at school or preschool

Surely all that breastfeeding has stilted the talking anyway so according to that logic there can't possibly have an connection.

You can't refer to breastfeeding as creepy and then moan when people want to know why you used that word.

come on then, what do you mean by "creepy"?
I am genuinely interested especially as dd2 is doing this incredibly creepy thing right now (in between watching Dora )

i am going for a shower - not running away from this discussion!!!

Errr, you said that's my opinion and if you don't like it tough. That kind of says you are not open to dicussion.

Well. I am glad you are now willing to discuss it. I too must go for a shower at some point and drag myself away from this pc.

sorry should have been a , not a .

yes me too
I shall await your reply with great anticipation

I doubt a child of three or four saying they didnt want to breastfeed at that moment in time would be any different to a child of the same age saying they didnt want a beaker of cows milk, sometimes you just don't fancy it, doesn't mean you're willing to give it up completely.

Just to emphasise the point (as I was ignored )
I am one of the people who now thinks ebf (and bf past 6 months, which is what I used to consider extended) is a good thing, from reading threads about it on MN.
Which is why you should be careful about flippantly dismissing it as creepy, unnatural or disgusting (things I've read in the past, not necessarily on this thread). I don't mind people who explain why they have a problem with it, as theirs is a point of view like any other.

SPB, Me too, I fed DS until he was 8months, was planning on doing it til about 18months, but any longer I hadnt even considered.

This time round though I shall feed until we (my child and I) decide it's time to stop.

Can I join in ? I too have a feeling of creepiness when I see another older child (5 or 6) BFing. BUT THIS IS A REFLECTION OF MYSELF, NOT NOt a criticism of the mother doing it. Society makes me feel that something is 'wrong' or unconventional about it but its not very easy to examine ones own feelings on the subject when all of the pro bfers (of which I am onne by the way) are so incredibly defensive. I am very pro bf by the way, and think bfing should be normalised, and will go on to feed my DD2 until we are ready to stop (she is 11 months now).
Just to throw another iron in the fire - there is documented eveidence( I could get the refs if needed) proving that prolonged BF can lead to dental decay in certain societies......So there are downsides, too. Reasoned debate is the only way forward!!!!

Lucy, I'm glad you're able to see that it's you that is at fault as it were here, but can I ask you to refrain from using the word creepy?

I do agree that it is a fault in the society we live in, but that's the way it is portrayed, I have only ever seen two television programmes with bfing in, one was about extended bfing and showed a woman bfing her 7year old, then her husband Great light to show it in .

The other was bringing up baby when all but the supposed hippy dippy woman thought baby should have a bottle. It's sad.

victoria squalor, i am expressing how i feel an d wondering why i feel like that. there are obviously many out ther who do feelthe same. i am merely asking why. No offence meant.

i fed dd till 15months - i did get pressure to stop BUT i feel that i did actually stop because i felt it was time to as i felt uncomfortable that she asked for tittie[i call them tits therefore she called it tittie]

i fed ds till 2yrs - as i had decided as a newborn that i didn't feel comfortable seeing older children breastfeeding in public - i went 6m longer than origanally decided as i felt sad about stopping and knew about the benefits of extended feeding - i didn't b/f during the day or in public when ds was approx 16m

i'm sorry if my opinion/choice of words has offended anyone - that was not my intention - but in my defence i was answering the op who was feeding a little baby and sharing my experiences - i do promote b/feeding including extended / tandem etc , i do this as a volunteer on top of working full time - i'm a nice person - i work in a caring proffesion - i have been shot down for expressing my opinion and then being flippant - this is why i normally stay away from this board , it get's exttemely nasty

Thankyou maximmummy for exressing how I too, feel.

and by the way i think if someone wants to say they feel creepy that is up to them - creepy was defined by someone earlier but my interperatation would be :
a feeling of my skin creeping as if a spider was walking over it

I personally understand that people may be uncomfortable with extended bfing, especially if they havent done it themselves, as I said DP has even said to me about feeding after about a year old being 'strange', but that's ebcause peopel imagine a two year old coming along and getting on your breast, not a newborn baby growing up breastfeeding.

I just think the word 'creepy' insinuates so much and can be extremely hurtful.

maximumummuy, I told you what the word means, not an interpretation of it, it's actual meaning.

Should we not be asking why we feel uncomfortable about children asking for a feed? DS, at 2.7, has an evening feed and will also ask for a feed if he's feeling poorly or tired, or neglected because his little sister can have a feed every 2 hours, and I must admit that I sometimes feel a little uncomfortable when he asks. In public, I know exactly why I feel this way - I am afraid of the reaction from other people if I let him have a feed, and I am even anxious that people might overhear and say things to me that I would not want him (or me!) to hear. But when he asks at home it still sometimes makes me feel uncomfortable. And yet, when he asks for his bear, I don't feel at all uncomfortable. And it's only the same thing - he needs comfort and I can give it to him, either by fetching his bear or letting him latch on.

And I think the reason I feel uncomfortable is because I have been conditioned into thinking that I Shouldn't Be Doing This. He is Too Old. I am doing it For Me and Not For Him (and that really is not right, he definitely gets more out of bfing than I do!). Thinking about it now, this is completely irrational - comfort is comfort is comfort. Of course if anybody can give me a concrete reason for why it is actually cmopletely rational for me to feel a bit uncomfortable, I would like to hear it.

I think you answered your own question corriedale, you feel uncomfortable because it isn't seen as normal.

CorrieDale, don't forget the argument that when he can ask for it, he's too old.

ffs - i said that I felt my dd was old enough to stop when she could ask for it NOT that everyone had to stop feeding when a child could talk - don't be silly

You weren't shot down for expressing your opinion at all. And the nastiness has actually been coming from who have been very rude. I repeat, when you say it's creepy and tough can't you see that that is part of the nastiness you claim to have nothing to do with? You haven't yet said why it's creepy just that people are doing it for their own reasons but you cant say what these are.

Why would that be when they are able to ask for it? What about babies that sign for milk before they are able to talk or children who have speech delay?

Please don't start to be rude again.