whats the longest anyone has bf for? anyone still doing it with lo's at school?

[prettylovebird]

ok i know dd is only 7 months,but, i want to bf her forever, and just wondering what it will be like when shes at school or preschool

No, I talk about breastfeeding in rl too.

So, maximummummy, you are entitled to your views and if I don't like them (i.e. if I am hurt and offended by them, then "tough"?
as you have clearly considered carefully the impact of your hurtful and insulting remarks and decided you don't actually give a shit, what do you think that says about you as a person?
I think the conclusions are obvious, tbh, however, as I do care about other people's feelings, I shall keep them to myself rather than risk hurting you .
might I suggest, though, that you consider trying a little courtesy, a few manners, atolerance and understanding in the future? parading intolerant and hung up attitudes about breastfeeding with pride and making insulting remarks about other women's private feeding choices get us nowhere, really.

But you're not really 'sharing' your views. That would imply you were open to discussion. You want to state them and it's tough to anyone who disagrees.

some mum's do prolong it for their own needs

What "needs" would those be? I keep reading comments like this and find it utterly bizarre.

Interesting that you are bf supporter but think mums bf for their own needs. I've aleady said I didn't enjoy bf. How could a mother force a child to bf? What would those 'needs' be? Are you willing to expand or would you rather insult instead?

these b/feeding threads get totally out of hand - what is the point of getting so upset at what a stranger thinks?

Where's your evidence for mums doing it for their own needs? I'm assuming you have known as you don't want to discuss it and so probably haven't engaged in discussion before with any one who has fed past your own comfort zone. Yet you feel equipped to have a valid opinion on it which we should respect.
I don't think there are any mums on mumsnet who have ever said they bf for their own needs and I've had countless discussions with other mums who exbf over the years and never heard that before.

"some mum's do prolong it for their own needs"

I know what maximummummy means;
along with the accusation of "creepiness" I think the meaning is extremely clear.
interesting though that your definition of "creepy" and "for mum's own needs" starts from when you chose to stop
you are v keen on your right to make your own opinion heard.
what about other people's choices?
is it possible they might be valid?

Arggh. Yes, they do get out of hand when people are happy to insult others yet don't want to be questioned on this. You can't then moan when you're part of the cause!

I'm not upset with your opinion on my breastfeeding. I'm annoyed a little that you feel it's okay to be insulting and yet close yourself off to discussion.

'Creepy' There are many words that I could think of to describe how extended bfing would feel to someone who hasnt done it, how about 'strange' as in different? Or 'uncomfortable' because it's not something you're used to?

Creepy (if you look up the definition of it) implies horror or fear, just think about the words you use it's really not that hard, this is the internet fgs you can take an hour to type out your point if need be, it's not like rl when the first word that comes in to your head comes out of your mouth.

"what is the point of getting so upset at what a stranger thinks"
I think this has been dealt with in some detail below maximummummy
lots of people read these boards
lots of lurkers read these boards
lots of people has said pretty clearly that they are affected by being told that other people think it is "creepy"
you can't absolve yourself of responsibility - you can say what you like of course but people will be hurt and upset and this will affect their feeding choices.
I can't believe as a bf supporter you don't understand this.

i never said a mother forced a child to feed - but self-weaning is when a child naturally drops feeds, sometimes a mother will encourage the child to feed when that feed could've been dropped

what "creepy" means, and what "mums do it for their own needs" means, is that the woman is doing it for a sexual reason.

How do you know that? Are you guessing?
Actually if children were allowed to self wean then the age would be somewhere around 6 years old I believe if you compare us to other mammals. I forced both my kids to wean earlier than they would have stopped naturally.

maximummummy, even if that is true (and how oculd you possibly know about a woman's relationship with her child) so what??
why shouldn't a child be encouraged to feed?
is it damaging?
how?
who are you to judge, really?

Surely when a child starts to self-wean if a mother is encouraging them to still feed it's because she is unaware that the child is self-weaning and likely thinks s/he may be poorly or off their milk for some other reason and is encouraging them because there si nothing to say that at that moment in time they are self-weaning???

Would you not encourage your child to drink milk if they went off it for a few days??

o my god - harpischord , i think you are getting carried away with yourself here! i have never ever ever implied or thought that anyone extends breastfeeding for sexual needs - i'm absolutely horrified that you have written that

That's what happens though when you refuse to expand on why you think it's creepy or weird. The discussion goes on without you and people try to guess what you meant.

victorian squalor - i'm talking about self-weaning at an age when most children would be able to talk and therefore have a disscussion about it if they felt poorly

So what are those 'needs' you are talking about then? And what are you basing it on?

oh come off it, maximummummy.
ok then - why is it creepy?
what is creepy about a 15 month old baby asking for a feed? is it creepy if she asks for a cuddle or a kiss?

you used the word twice (and you are not the only one). what do you mean by it?

But my kids were no where near self weaning at 3 or 4 and were talking fluently. As I said, self weaning would naturally happen usually much older than this.

self weaning has nothing to do with the ability to talk.

i haven't refused to explain or expand on my views - i'm a slow typer this is a fast moving "discussion" and i've been told to think about what words i use not just type the first thing that comes into my head