whats the longest anyone has bf for? anyone still doing it with lo's at school?

[prettylovebird]

ok i know dd is only 7 months,but, i want to bf her forever, and just wondering what it will be like when shes at school or preschool

personally i don't find little britian funny at all, its just dull repetative catchphrases, nothing intelligent or witty about it.
maybe that why it doesn't appeal to most longterm bfers?

i started this thread, to get advice from people that have bf longterm and to ask them about there experiences, well its certainly given me an insight into the the crap these mums have to face, and i salute them, they certainly have my upmost respect

well done, all you lovely mummy's, what a fantastic job you have done, giving your lo's all mother natures finest.

hope your all as proud as you bloody well should be

well done harpsi you are doing a great job. I love bf and and i know people who have nothing better to do than stick their noses into other peoples business. Upset you but dont let it. You have given your dc unconditional love for two years. You are a great mummy so dont let what other people think bother you especially strangers! keep up the good work. And yes mt i lay awake worrying about what you and trolley think!

I think it's terribly sad that people think it's okay to judge breastfeeding after a certain age, especially with their comments re abuse etc.

It's fucking ridiculous tbh, I can understand the weird feeling peopel may ahve about bfing if they havent bf, just as I can understand people being a bit hmm about extended bfing, but when it leads to what may as well be comparing grabbng some random child and shoving them on your boob it just shows their lack of intelligence, these children didnt start bfing at 3/4/5 etc, they were newborn babies, that still like to bf, where the heck is the harm in that????

VS, I think there are a lot of people who use having a go at extended bf as the acceptable face of having a go at bf fullstop, really.

Not suggesting they're on this thread, oh no. But I do think that's the case for some.

You know hunker, I believe you're probably right, could you imagine the uproar if people said kissing your child goodnight after a certain age was abuse, because supposedly mature intellectual adults couldnt get round the fact that there is more than one way to show love and more than one acceptable way to physically interact with your child, feeding being the one you would imagine to have the most support.

hunker, u are wrong as far as i'm concerned but i know u would prefer to think otherwise so please do keep this post on file in your "poor breastfeeders get a really hard time on MN" file and quote it out of context for the next ten years.

well i fed ds up until he self weaned at 2 and 4 months old. i was happy to carry on as long as he was.

I think women should bf as long as they and their children want to continue. But I think I may feel uncomfortable seeing a child aged four or five bfing - simply because I have never seen that before. Before I had children, I was uncomfortable with bfing a child older then one year or so - but fortunately my feeling have changed.

Anna - it's interesting what you say about the adults you know who have had dummies as children - in particular I'm interested in how you know that they had dummies - I wouldn't have a clue which of my friends had dummies as children, and I would never think to ask, I simply couldn't care less.

Oh she'll keep the thread, not just your posts, dont you worry.

It wont be taken out of context at all.

PM, thanks for thinking so highly of me

i breastfed dd till 15months by which time she couuld talk[very well] and i found it creepy her asking for tittie also people were starting to mutter . . . .my mum mainly

10 yrs later i had ds who i fed for 2yrs he never had a bottle [not even ebm] being older i didn't care if people muttered and told mum to feck off mind her own business - i stopped at 2yrs because i myself found older children[2+] being fed on demand a bit creepy - just my honest opinion, don't shoot me down - as when ds was a newborn i saw a child at b/f group just help himself, he was about 2.5 yrs, and it made me uncomfortable - so i made the decision then that i'd have a cut off point at 18m but the nearer it got the more upset i felt so i extended it to 2yrs - i think ds would happily still be feeding now[3yrs] - he is boob obsessed!!!!

also he is very very rarely ill - unlike his friends who always seem to be poorly with something or other[none of them were b/f]

How do babies learn to call it titty though? Mine have always asked for milk (DS2 asked for moof before he could say milk, but still...!) or milks.

Hunker, my lovely, the majority know what good work you are doing for mothers and infant feeding. There'll always be a small, ignorant minority that wont listen to reason.

belgo -yes, funnily enough if I saw a 4 year old feeding now I now I would find that initially a little strange (and I bf till 4 and 3). It's because I guess it is unusual to see it and you know that lots of people will think it's wrong I guess. I know of course it isnt.
When dd was 3 and ds was 4 I would never have fed them in public due to the reactions I would have got and/or that I knew people would be thinking what other posters have alread said on this thread. I would have hated my kids to think they were doing something weird and they of course would have been aware at that age of other peoples' reactions.
Yet it people did publicly bf older children then eventually it would become socially accepted.
I remember talking to a woman who was Irish white and married to an Asian. SHe got married in the 70's. As a couple they got all sorts of comments and had to deal with other peoples' ignorance. DH and I are also a mixed racial couple but have had very little prejudice as people (where we live anyway) see couples like us all the time and so it has become socially accepted.
Just read the last few pages on the formula thread. People are objecting to breastfeeders there and how they should stay away from formula threads and not be trying to educate them. On this thread though we have lots of people who are anti bf yet feel it's been okay to make fun and insult.

having now read more of the thread - which seems to have turned really nasty - i wish i hadn't posted as i expect i'll be told off for finding older children feeding. . . . but i'm entitlede to my views so if you don't like them tough sorry

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PM, you've seen my blog?

Feel free to look for judgemental stuff on there from me. There isn't any.

maximummy - of course you are entitled to your view. I don't think anyone has said you are not. It is the exbf who have been told to stop saying what they think.
It would be just good manners for people not to be insulting.

maximummy - of course you are entitled to your view. I don't think anyone has said you are not. It is the exbf who have been told to stop saying what they think.
It would be just good manners for people not to be insulting.

It's doing things like posting tough crossing it out. You are shutting yourself off to debate and discussing it. And also adding a sad face as if you have been insulted here.

Before reading the bf threads on MN (before I was pregnant) I assumed that no-one breastfed their babies after 6 months, and definitely not after a year - why on earth would you? It's been threads like this that have made me see that people do and the reasons why.
Just answering the "Well if you're happy just do it but why come and post on MN about it?" point.

sabire and others have really been got at on the formula thread yet noone has said I find formual feeding weird and if you don't like it, tough.

MM, it is unfortunate you chose to use the word "creepy" and also unfortunate that you posted without reading the whole thread, and, as Herc says, you seem to have shut yourself off from any debate about why it is people in the UK find seeing children bfing odd, even those who have bfed for what many would consider to be an extended period of time.

If I may, can I ask how you felt when your mother put pressure on you to stop? Do you think that informed your feelings about bf? How would/did you feel if someone called you bfing your, say, 14mo "creepy"?

It's about being careful with the words you choose and, above all, being kind.

unfortunately when posting it can very easily be taken the wrong way - maybe the use of smileys/sad faces etc is silly but to say i should've read the whole thread before posting there are 248 posts i do have kids and other things to do!!!
i did b/f both my kids - i suffered mastitus both times but carried on through it - i am/was a bloody good b/feeder but i am entitled to my opinions about feeding older kids - i have found most self-wean by about three anyway - some mum's do prolong it for their own needs - i never said i think it's abusive

and i'm a b/f peer-supporter and would never share my views about extended feeding in r/l - perhaps we all get a bit bolder on-line

You see I disagree with you. You don't want me to put my view across. It's tough. Hardly debate. If I try to explain why I disagree with you, you'll say I'm not allowing you to have an opinion.
But you can say you think there is something wrong with how I chose to bring to my kids and I shouldn't try to defend that.