whats the longest anyone has bf for? anyone still doing it with lo's at school?

[prettylovebird]

ok i know dd is only 7 months,but, i want to bf her forever, and just wondering what it will be like when shes at school or preschool

You might but lots of people would find it very offensive.

I will referee but not partake.

Behave monkey trousers

"I am very [hmmm] about the suggestion extended bf causes speech problems. I think it's quite a nasty little aspersion to cast"

oh don't worry it is total bolleaux why would exercising your jaw and tongue lead to issues with speech development?

it is indeed misleading, sometimes nasty to make judgements about things based on a very small sample such as the poster speaking about speech delays did

for instance, it would really be quite unpleasant and unfair for me to draw conclusions based on the apparent literacy levels of the extended bfers on here and those who have put themselves in the opposing camp, just from the posts on this thread

i am sure we all agree that would prove NOTHING, nothing at all

Oh I know it's bolleaux, just speech problems are my personal hobby horse so misinformation bugs me (guess that you extended bfers must feel much the same at times...)

norty franny

wow, im thread of the day,

You certainly are!

Franny - I am loving your (apparent pregnancy?) sharpened wit atm

Matilda/puppy - i think people who say extended (not my turn of phrase - to me its just "breastfeeding") breastfeeding "weird, unnecessary", etc are fuckwits who know nothing beyond their own hang ups and prejudices. But that's just my opinion. Freedom of speech an all that.

Personally, I didnt choose to "extend" b/feed my son, I just didnt give him a deadline for stopping. He stopped when he was ready. His speech "mummy, that was delicious booby", was perfect then, and still is now. Perhaps you 'experts' on NOT "extend" b/feeding could give me a good reason for stopping b/feeding before they want to?

Oral fixations? Like smoking? Or chewing gum? Or biting nails? nah, only children under 5-6 do that. Plays havoc with their teeth and speech.

Thing is, those who have so firmly cast their hats into the "ewwwwwwwww" ring are unlikely to have their minds changed on this - the very most we can hope for is a slight bit of doubt and a hesitation before saying "ewwwwwwwwwww" either on here again or in RL.

It's the lurkers I post for on threads like this - those who find MN on searches about extended bf, or finding breastfeeding weird, or whatever. Some of them have become posters after a while and said they have found this sort of thread changed their minds about bf in a very positive way, so I think it's worth doing still.

eeeeeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwww at "eeeeeeeeeeew ring".

Oh god is this another wind up thread like the one on fruit shoots or sunny delight?

ta VVV, am feeling moderately human again after grey nausea / tiredness for a month of two

Hunker EXACTLY. I couldn't think of a way to say that without sounding pompous. Bloody LOADS of people lurk here, it is astonishing how many emails I get every time we have a thread on heuristic play and I put my email address on there. This isn't just a place to chat and let off steam, people actually READ what we say and use it as a source of information, they base decisions on it. I'm not happy to let misguided statements about bfing stand.

Did I manage it without sounding pompous?

I do think it's interesting there's a disparity between what is an allowable response on a bf thread and what is an appropriate response on a ff thread.

In general, on MN, and elsewhere, with a few notable exceptions, it's the comments about bf that are the most unpleasant - and if people object, there's usually an "Oh, ffs, get a sense of humour" response.

Oh the early pg tiredness when you apparently have nothing to show for it...I remember it well! Glad you are feeling better.

What do you think the lurkers think of those making the ignorant comments????

well i am bf at two years and quite frankly dont care what people think. Not worth debating its up to individual at the end of the day. Will bf as long as ds and i want to. Its not anyone else business. Love little britain think they are un pc about everything prob why its funny. Well well monkeytrousers fancy finding you winding up people on here. You naughty naughty durham minx. My geordie mate says its because there is nothing else to do up there! Nice pics by the way. Dh is very max beasley by the way surprised you found a man to live up to your perfect standards! I tell you if my dh looked like yours i would not be on mn mine however has locked me in my bedroom whilst he reads the quran and finds out how to take over the planet!!

yes, of course, many many people lurk here, never saw the point myself
BUT I must say I was very cheered by reading hercules' posts about feeding till four, when i was feeling extremely isolated about bf.

vv i shouldn't think they can tell the difference. i had no clue whatsoever about bf until i couldnt do it. then i got some help and i could. there you are lurkers, is all there is to it. but with a lot of pain and angst.

My DP looks at me like mI'm crackers when I say I'm feeding this baby til at least two, I tell him to fuck off.
It;s quite simple

AGree hunker. Political Correctness hasn't quite made it as far as breastfeeding yet. Still, not far off, it's covered racism and sexuality quite well so far so I am quite optimistic.

I think I may have come up with a nonce word.....

Mammophobia, or indeed Lactophobia

hmmm, yes.
I am a bit of a hard nut myself but I have been very upset by some very nasty unpleasant comments on here.
it is all very well saying "oh well if it was me I wouldn't pay any attention" but that doesn't give you carte blanche to say hurtful things. it dones't absolve you from responsibility.
a few months ago, on here, some poster said there was "nothing more creepy than a two year old asking for a feed"
I must say her remarks still occur to me now, whenever my two year old asks for a feed.
I think, oh someone thinks this is there is nothing more creepy than this?

It's hard when you have somebody's words in your mind when you're doing something you'd previously done without a backwards glance, isn't it, Harpsi?

It's why I'm pissed off I ever read anything by nobody whatsoever about not making eye contact with tiny babies at night. I did, but each time, I thought, "There's a school of thought that says this is wrong". (School of "thought"...!).

As for the poster who likened bf a 4yo to child abuse, well...

bf dd1 until she self weaned at 2.3.,a few weeks before dd2 was born.I had stopped feeding in the day as she wasn't eating a whole lot,and I think looking back,she may have thought that I was not so keen on her feeding (not intended,but was preg and knackered so not very on it).feeds slipped to evening and morning only,then once every couple of days,by the time baby was born she had only fed once in a few weeks.When I came out of hospital and she saw the baby feeding I told her it was for her too but she said that she was a big girl and didn't want to bf any more.Made me sad actually,but also a bit relieved as bfing baby round the clock.am still feeding at 8m and I guess I will leave it up to her when to stop.My pal resorted to stop and grow on her nipples at 3.5 !

yes, I felt (feel) invaded by someone else's nasty little thoughts.
if you have these unpleasant thoughts, keep them to yourself, eh