Those of you who ff your baby -

[tasja]

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Hmm, could you tell I couldn't be bothered to read all about the cancer risk statistics. In fact, still can't.

Formula and breastmilk and cow's milk and goat's milk are all milk so as far as I am concerned they are all relatively similar. Formula is better now than its ever been - formula poo used to be green now that's scary. Formula milk is not breastmilk. But its still milk and still nourishes our kids. And so I still maintain it is not the most important decision you can make regarding bring up your kids - and hope that reassures some people that choosing to ff isn't the end of the world.

Regarding this gloomy thread: of course everyone can post wherever but it is a shame that people already feel terrible and then can't get any help without being told they are terrible. Bounty is good for an area on formula feeding where you can ask all the questions on bottles you want. And there was a fantastic Leche league counsellor thread on the breastfeeding bit too last time i looked.

But mama, I'm not!!

Is your OP sarcastic or do you really mean it?

If you read Mamawhite's OP and not just the thread title I think you'll see she's not being sarcastic Desiderata. And I was, am still am to a point, racked with guilt for a very long time.

"and still am"

The website I linked to - unsuccesfully, I don't know why it doesn't show up, sorry - explained how infant feeding is linked to cancer in the mother...and I gave it only in response to someone who asked for it, and who said they had looked for the info and would 'love' to know more about it.

I am careful on threads like this only to respond to questions, or to refute misunderstandings or misinformation.

I do think women who want to seek support from fellow formula feeders are entitled to do so; I have already stated I don't have an issue with that. I also provided a link to MOBI which is a brilliant internet support for women who have had insurmountable problems with breastfeeding and are very sad about it.

If people want not to have a conversation, in case other people come in and ask questions which other people answer, then I suggest a 'talk board' is not where they ought to be!

Desiderata, once again you reveal some strange notions - where does it say the 'recommended minimum' time to breastfeed is six weeks? How does that make people feel who only fed for one day, or one week, or one month? There is no 'recommended minimum' - the idea is empty of all sense. Any breastfeeding makes some difference - there is an NCT flyer which has all the research on this.

I ff all 3 of mine, I hated bf and was rubbish at it. Wouldnt say I am proud of it but not ashamed of it either, we live in a free society where you can make your own decisions to fit in with your own family. Am very proud of my 3 strong boys, and I dont think ff has done them any harm at all.

I think it's very telling that those who don't feel guilty about ff describe it as a decision or choice. Those who do feel guilty feel there was no choice. I guess that's the difference.