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Anyone else made to feel like a paedophile for breastfeeding past 6 months!

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cruisemum1 · 23/04/2007 16:47

getting miffed at peoples attitudes to bf past the 'required' 6 months. ds is only 7 mths ffs! makes me feel they think i'm a freak! grrrrrrr

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cruisemum1 · 23/04/2007 21:31

DawsonScot I would have loved to have been on the receiving end of that comment. I'm boiling over just thinking about it!

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whomovedmychocolate · 23/04/2007 21:31

Mangojuice - the formula and rusks thing - my MiL suggested this too! She said 'you are really cruel, not allowing DD to have rusks'. I pointed out that DD had just eaten roast beef and three veg and lots of bm and frankly I thought being forced to eat rusks WAS bloody cruel.

whomovedmychocolate · 23/04/2007 21:33

DawsonScot - I'm afraid I would have felt the need to yell: 'fuck off you old biddies, I am lactowoman' very loud and then spray them with breastmilk

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cruisemum1 · 23/04/2007 21:33

my mum - bless her - banged on and on about ds being hungry from the moment he came down the slipway...... She never had a prob with me bf him as a newborn, just finds it hard to understand now he is 7mths. I just cannot fathom it.....

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DawsonScot · 23/04/2007 21:33

crusiemum - I know its only now that I can think of suitable responses!

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cruisemum1 · 23/04/2007 21:34

wmmc - lol! i wish you had

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whomovedmychocolate · 23/04/2007 21:35

In fact DawsonScot - please be entertained by the last time I was reprimanded for breastfeeding here

DawsonScot · 23/04/2007 21:38

Dear whomovedmychocolate. Read the story. Thank you so so much - loved it.

Malaleche · 23/04/2007 21:41

What would people who are being negative say if we said something like ' the WHO recommends bfeeding exclusively till 6 months and continuing until at least one year.
Why do they say ' food is just for fun until theyre one' then?

I think people who criticise are just worried they are going to be criticised themsleves for not bfeeding - (i mean the ones who decided not to even bother with it because it wasnt the fashion and went straight on to formula, not the ones who wanted to but couldnt)

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cruisemum1 · 23/04/2007 21:42

WMMC - bravo!!! Good for you! But....please tell me it's not true. what is it with that generation? I just don't understand how anyone can possibly debate taht bf is not tailor made for your baby?! . Not many cows,goats,sheep out there offering a bottle of man-made, manufactured,milk are there? There is defo reason to ff too, i have as much respect for mums who ff as those who bf - we are all mums just the same, it's just peoples attitude to 'extended' bf that pisses me off

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worleyweightwatcher · 23/04/2007 21:44

im still bf ds2 at nearly 10mths. mil isnt happy i bf at all, (she actually went out and brought formula for ds1 when i bf him) but i work within the nhs and my collegues knew i was still bf when i came back, but cant understand why i still am now!!!

whomovedmychocolate · 23/04/2007 21:45

Cruisemum1 - I have my Lactivist 'Mummy milk is better than milk from any old cow' bag now with a brick in it to batter the biddies with.

Sadly, yes it is true and it's not the only time, but I'm getting fairly adept at staring down women (who tend to be 60+) who ought to know better.

I fed my DD on the land train at the Eden Project last week. Quite a few biddies were at this. I thought it was bloody hilarious because she broke off to yell 'weeeeee' as we started and then latched back on again.

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cruisemum1 · 23/04/2007 21:48

WMMC - lol! your dd sounds great!

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cruisemum1 · 23/04/2007 21:50

my ds has taken to using my nips as a plaything! he squeezes them until milk shoots out. He gets a short, sharp "No!" (just after the short, sharp "ouch!")

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whomovedmychocolate · 23/04/2007 21:51

cruisemum1 - as long as he doesn't have a friend who does the same you are fine - I can just see the playground 'milk wars' breaking out

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cruisemum1 · 23/04/2007 21:53

no chance of that happening. all his chums will have been weaned to ff and solids by 8 weeks....!

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whomovedmychocolate · 23/04/2007 21:58

You rebel!

What you mean you don't 'follow the herd'?

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cruisemum1 · 23/04/2007 22:00

never have - never will! off to bed now - n'nite all and thanks - i feel so much better

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OrmIrian · 24/04/2007 07:53

DS#2 is now 4 and he's still bfing at night. I must admit I stopped bfing in public when he reached 3 because I did feel a bit uncomfortable. I want him to stop before he goes to school but that will happen naturally I think.

bananabump · 24/04/2007 10:02

Whomovedmychocolate: I know I know, I'm a planner, I can't help it! I lost my Mum a couple of years before I got pregnant so I'm learning a lot from mumsnet since I can't ask her what she would have done. And I'm boring my boyfriend silly with my theories on breastfeeding, blw, real nappies etc

tibsy · 24/04/2007 10:35

i must admit, before i actually started bfing dd (8 mnths) (ds was ff), i did think that once dd got to a certain age, say 1, i would give up because it didnt seem right after that age
i dont think the various television programmes about ex bfing have shown it in a particularly good light. thats just my opinion.
however, i am happy to say that i intend to continue bfing dd for as long as she needs and wants it. i just love everything about it i'm just a little sad that i didnt perservere with ds past the first few days

mush4brains · 24/04/2007 10:52

My mum has asked me recently if I'm going to be one of those wierdos you see on TV who keeps bfing. She claims its not healthy for the childs self esteem- especially boys- she has no basis to this at all just she doesnt like it. Wouldnt mind but DS is only 6 months old- shes disgusted at the fact that I am feeding through pregnancy though & if necessary will tandem feed- she told me I am not an animal or from a tribe - I took great offence to say the least.

BabiesEverywhere · 24/04/2007 11:03

This thread came at a point when I was thinking about how long I will be breastfeeding my DD...currently 8 months old.

I intended originally to aim for 6 months and now I am thinking aty least a year. As I can't see the sense for us to stop a happy nursing relationship to start doing follow on milk.

Now at year, we could go straight to cows milk or carry on nursing and I have no idea what we will do. But thanks to reading thsi thread, I feel we are in the middle of our nursing relationship not at the end :

tibsy · 24/04/2007 11:06

mush, its hard when mums arent supportive isnt it? mine didnt breastfeed either my bro or myself past a few days and i must say i didnt get much support from her in the early days, kept insinuating that dd was starving she's now actually quite proud of me i think for continuing because she can see dd hasnt wasted away! (although i think she was secretly relieved when i started introducing solids ) she also has a friend who breastfed both her children to about 14months and mum didnt bat an eyelid at that, so there is hope!! i just kept giving her lots of info on bfing and evidence to support it, not that i should have to, but she is now quite educated on bfing and will hopefully be able to impart her knowledge to others
congrats on your pregnancy and good luck with the tandem feeding, am very interested in that as am planning to have another at some point (baby that is!)

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cruisemum1 · 24/04/2007 11:06

mush4brains at your mum!!!! attitudes like that are exactly what made me start this thread. what are thye like??!!

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