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Original poster

OMG - I can't believe the T***er on this thread!!

124 replies

bubblerock · 27/02/2007 14:41

HERE
The poor OP has had verbal abuse for BF in public and a guy on pg2 of the thread likens it to having a poo in public ! WTF???

OP posts:
BarryTook · 27/02/2007 14:43

you have to be logged in

can you copy and paste?

Original poster
bubblerock · 27/02/2007 14:55

Do you have to be logged in to read???

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Original poster
bubblerock · 27/02/2007 14:57

Here are some bits I've copied and pasted - not pleasant!

OP
"Iwent to our library this am. On the way back I stopped of at the coffee shop to feed DD 6 months. I m breast feeding her. I sat discretly in a corner when some bloke starts shouting I m a F ING B@*&" AND A DIRTY PERV...

I M SO upset..."

"No one said anything. The girl working there said I should use the loo in future!!! YUK."

Lots of support etc... but a couple of posts aren't

"Rightly or wrongly, at the minute some people find breast feeding in public to be offensive ... in particular some people find it a particular problem in retaurants and other eateries (yes I know all you are doing is feeding the sprog) ... the chap was definitely totally OTT but you must not have been as discrete as you thought you were (otherwise he would not have noticed).

Its just one of lifes little adventures and nothing to get overly upset about ... as everybody says we all know who the one is with the problem.
Ivan"

"Yeh, but in public?

Breast feeding may be natural, and there is nothing wrong with it, but so is having a cr@p. Societies norm is to do it in private."

"Don't be offended if I have a cr@p on the next table then."

"If the guy had politely pointed out your breast feeding in a public place was causing offence (which it does to many), would you have stopped and gone somewhere more appropriate i.e. somewhere private ?

If you cause someone offence by your conduct, that person is not the issue.
It is just like someone who feels they are being racially or sexually harassed by another persons actions. It is not the person doing the actions/conduct who is the judge of what is offensive, it is the person on the receiving end.

As you are now aware your breast feeding in public offends certain people, you should cease from doing it and do it in private."

OP posts:
ChaCha · 27/02/2007 15:05

How awful!!!!

olivo · 27/02/2007 15:06

Shock Angry

JodieG1 · 27/02/2007 15:08

What an idiot. I'd just love someone to make comments on me breastfeeding if I was out and needed to. I would gve them a piece of my mind. I was speaking to dh about this the other day and he said he'd have to smack them if it was a bloke and he was with me lol. He wasn't being serious but he would definitely say something as well.

Original poster
bubblerock · 27/02/2007 15:12

I've just been reading the thread and I'm gobsmacked at the comments - including 'bitty, bitty' !! I'm not posting on it, too annoyed.

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Ino · 27/02/2007 15:14

I've posted on it - ignorant people.

expatinscotland · 27/02/2007 15:14

Is England planning to bring legislation in, like Scotland, that makes it an offense to harrass a mother bfing in public and/or ask her to move on?

I sure do hope so!

Original poster
bubblerock · 27/02/2007 15:18

I hope so too ExP - can't come soon enough!

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TeeCee · 27/02/2007 15:21

What sort of chat forum is she getting posts like that? It sound like it's all fat middle aged men having a pop. Is this a parenting site, sorry couldn't open your link.

TeeCee · 27/02/2007 15:22

I'm visualising John McCruick types here.

Original poster
bubblerock · 27/02/2007 15:26

It's Moneysavingexpert, so a really broad range of people, I really would have expected a better response to the OP. It's in the forums under The Moneysavers Arms - discussions.

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twinklingstar · 27/02/2007 15:27

I wonder if people who react so strongly against a mother breastfeeding in public also protest about the images on the front covers of high-shelf magazines, which are quite publicly displayed and explicit? It is quite easy to explain to your child seeing a breastfeeding mum and baby that the baby is hungry - but what do you say when he points out the lady on that book up there hasn't got any knickers on?

lemonaid · 27/02/2007 15:30

If I had an account there, I'd be so tempted to post "Dear X -- your spouting ridiculous opinions in public offends me. You are not the judge of whether it is offensive, I am, so now I have made you aware of it you should cease doing it. Thanks."

shonaspurtle · 27/02/2007 15:30

It's moneysavingexpert so a bit o/t but gives a bit of an eyeopener to the number of people who clearly feel bf in public is antisocial. Even a lot of the ostensibly supportive posts are big on people being "discreet" and would prefer not to see it at all.

Am v glad I live in Scotland so can feel secure in knowing that the law is on my side. Wouldn't really help if some nutter started shouting at you though.

The fear of coming across this sort of attitude can really restrict a bf woman's freedom if she is not a confident person

shonaspurtle · 27/02/2007 15:32

Sorry, that post is a grammatical nightmare. Am v tired...

PrisonerCellBlockAitch · 27/02/2007 15:32

can someone tell me what the swear word is supposed to be in the OP as it is beginning to bother me..?

MrsBadger · 27/02/2007 15:33

surely the missing letters are 'oss'

Jillyadoodledoo · 27/02/2007 15:39

That is apalling!

I was at cheshire oaks outlet place the other weekend and ended up having to BF at one of the outdoor cafes. The people at the next table moved away , but nobody said anything to me - I kinda wish they had as I would have had a few choice words!

It really depresses me. There is a thread over on the Bf topic where someone's GP said 'well if you will insist on BFing'

Arrrggghhh

Rant over

grouchyoscar · 27/02/2007 15:52

Sad that some mindless t0055er feels that brests are soley for Page 3/Loaded/Nuts and chooses to objectify women. FFS it's the 21st century.

About 6 years in the Guardian there was a story about a woman who had dirty water from a shop keepers bucket thrown at her wile BFing in public

Utter utter cretins.

My BF Counsellor said she was once told to use the loo and she agreed...so long as the complainant had their sandwich there too.

I always make a point of congratulating those who BF in public. Keep it up ladies!

KathyMCMLXXII · 27/02/2007 15:53

There was a lovely comment on Mumsnet recently to the effect that those who think that bf equates to pooing clearly don't know one end of a baby from the other

grouchyoscar · 27/02/2007 15:56

excuse my typos (outraged fingers)

mammaduck · 27/02/2007 15:57

Ahem Kathy.

It was me who said the quip about not knowing one end of a baby from the other,

here at 20.08pm

Am totally and at this.

KathyMCMLXXII · 27/02/2007 16:00