What to say to people who say "this formula is CLOSEST to breastmilk" -

[Lucy1977]

Hi

I don't want to cause offence to anyone, but in my mind an infant formula cannot be "closest" to breastmilk but I cant get my words together to explain this to people who say "I use "x" formula because it's supposed to be closest to breastmilk".

Anyone help?

Thanks
Lucy

MKG, please don't tell me they use something like this hideous

thing called a Hooter Hider

aha, or maybe you've just never noticed anyone bfing any other way - the nork-out-bottom-of-shirt approach popular in the UK (as opposed to unbuttoning) is so subtle that, as hunker says, most people don't even notice it's happening...

like no-ome would stare at the hooter hider!! and know exactly what you were doing!

I'm on a roll.....how about this weird looking thing?

Seriously, has anyone seen any mother using these oddities?

definitely, with many of my bf friends i'm often completely clueless they're feeding. and i'm abf-er myself!

rofl at those tent things! how insane!

How bizarre. I would have thought that one of those would make it perfectly obvious that something is going on underneath. At least if you can see the baby it's obvious it's breastfeeding and not anything else.

I have very large breasts and was rather concerned at first about everything falling out, but soon managed to keep it decent. You need that blase demeanour as well. Furtiveness attracts attention IMO.

pmsl at the hooter hider
"neither style nor modesty is compromised"
well, no, not if your "style" is "Complete Loon"

haha yes the blase demeanour
the wind changed and now I'm stuck like that

lockets.....or a rabbit?! Or a long string of silk scarves!

Or my entire holiday luggage.

Ker-azzzzzzzzy!

No tik tok, although that was a lovely ensemble . Most people use a receiving blaket.

nonono I am not breastfeeding
I am wrestling a small rodent in this flowery bag.
how discreet, that won't attract attention, no not one jot.

surely not for bigger babies MKG, once they are more active?

What's a receiving blanket?

looks a bit like mary poppins bag, i keep expecting a stand lamp to rise out of the top of it!

I think it would be more discreet to wear a very large brimmed hat with a neon sign on it, so people could see from far away.....'please do not come near - baby feeding alert'.

It could also have a siren on it.

Just in case someone was not paying attention.

I am going to market these, I think.

'Don't feel like a Tit! Wear our modest and stylish 'BoobyTrap Hats' and relax, knowing that no one will ever see your 'female assets!'

In several bright floral prints.

my sil uses a blanket with her 9 month old. Considering that here in the US the goal for a lot of women is 3-6 months (Not saying all, but a lot). People are shocked she's still bfing at all.

beckybrastraps,

The thin blankets you swaddle the baby in.

Seems a bit to cover them up.
You really, really don't need a blanket to stay discreet. I just hoiked up my top, dropped the cup of my bra and was away. No breat on display at all. And no need for a blanket.

a) you don't need a blanket to be discreet

b) you don't need to be discreet. Except of course in the USA, where you may well be arrested for feeding a baby. I can't see what the difference is, psychologically between this and a burkha to be frank. I think it's outrageous that nursing women have been so intimidated that they feel the need to get tit-burkhas in the USA.

And I'm curious about your scarring for life MKG. Do you get nightmares or something? Panic attacks? Was that just a turn of phrase, or do you really mean it?

I have to say that I DID want to be discreet because my breasts were not much to look at at the time. And there was so MUCH to look at!

Oh I wanted to be discreet as well, but couldn't be. I just wasn't very competent and the baby needed feeding, so...

I don't think I scarred anyone for life, but who knows.

turn of phrase really, but whenever I think of breastfeeding that is what first pops in my head. Am I afraid of bfing, no. Am I afraid of people who bfeed, no. Do I like to see it, no, but that's just me.