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Night feeders thread part 3 - Up all night feeding? Come join! [title edited by MNHQ]

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mrsmugoo · 08/07/2014 20:45

Part 3!

Quick recap - DS, 17 weeks, EBF (stubborn little bottle refuser), crap sleeper! Super knackered Mummy, surviving on 1-2 hour sleeps :(

So I am hoping for a better night tonight seeing as bedtime went smoothly. Last night was hideous and I've eaten a twirl, a bounty and a salted caramel brownie today just to get through the day!

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mrsmugoo · 10/07/2014 01:38

Awake AGAIN

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mrsmugoo · 10/07/2014 01:39

I actually haven't slept a wink tonight. I'm starting to lose the plot now. I neeeeeeed to sleep.

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johull · 10/07/2014 02:35

Mrs- I thought mine was bad. If hoped for a 3am wake instead I got the usual 1:40. Gutted. Sending a tired hug Hmm

Nottinghill1 · 10/07/2014 03:17

I'm up now also 3am feed,feel guilty as I've just raided the biscuit tin!

puggywug81 · 10/07/2014 03:59

Up here too bit not because of baby he's fast asleep, oh and dog are snoring like wild animals peed off at both of themes I'm up early for an appointment grrrr!

Writerwannabe83 · 10/07/2014 05:17

Oh cariad - you have my complete sympathies. I hope you are ok Thanks x

DS went just over 7.5 hours. He's just having his morning feed and then back in the Crib he goes. I think he will go back to sleep but I doubt I will as it's far too light outside.

Cannotbelieveit · 10/07/2014 05:51

Thankfully he did 7.5 hours after the previous nights appallingness!! Let's hope he goes back for a couple hours as DS1 will be up in hour or so

Batmam · 10/07/2014 07:55

???? to Cariad and mrsm!Confused

After two shocking nights last night was a big improvement, DS woke three times but went back to sleep after each feed. Somehow I feel more tired than I did yesterday though, probably accumulation tiredness from the last 6 weeks (if that's even a real term!)

Writerwannabe83 · 10/07/2014 08:26

batmam - I remember some time last week DS had a brilliant night and I got the most sleep I'd ever had but I was still absolutely exhausted for the whole day, I felt the most tired that I'd felt in months.

DS went back to sleep very quickly after his feed this morning and slept for another 2hrs 45 minutes and thankfully I managed to drift off too. He's having another feed now but he keeps falling asleep - I think he's making up for the fact that he didn't sleep during the day yesterday.

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mrsmugoo · 10/07/2014 08:37

I ended up in the spare room in tears at 2:30 in exasperation. DH said he would let me sleep til 5

I don't know what went on in the end but he woke me at 6:30 and I gave DS a feed send got back in my bed with him and cuddled up til 8:30!

DH said it took ages but DS did fall asleep by himself in his cot eventually at 3-something (little sod!)

So he went over 4 hours without crying for a feed when I wasn't around.

I just don't know how to handle this. Between him waking up all night for no reason and my insomnia I'm really losing the plot!

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Writerwannabe83 · 10/07/2014 08:43

When you say he went 4 hours without a feed when you aren't around, do you think could be something to work on?

I.e do you think the reason he wakes up so much during the night is perhaps because he can smell you and your milk?

I'm just trying to find a possible reason for why the one night you weren't nearby he slept so well?

If this is the case would you ever consider moving him into his own room early? Or if not, maybe you should spend every night in the spare room?

As you said, lack of sleep must be making you lose the plot and there is only so much you can take.

missbluebird · 10/07/2014 09:44

It could be smelling the milk. By accident the other night my DH was passing the room when DS woke and he went to settle him. He had a cuddle and went straight back to sleep. If I had have seen to him he would have had a feed before going back down.

Saying that I have not altered a thing since! I think next time DH has a week of annual leave might try the spare room and let DH sleep in with DS. He can bring him to me if he really does need a feed (he is refusing a bottle).

We had two hourly feeds last night again. MIL is walking DS this morning while I am at hairdressers...nearly cancelled and went back to bed!

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mrsmugoo · 10/07/2014 10:18

I really don't know, all I do know is I fed him at 2 before going to the spare room. He fell asleep by himself gone 3 and DH didn't come get me to feed him again til 6. So he must have been tired when be dropped off but he only slept about 2.5 hours, nothing major!

I have thought about moving him to his own room, especially now we have a video monitor and he's self settling, but our spare room is nowhere near ready for him.

DH has said for me to sleep in the spare room this weekend and he will just bring him into me for feeding. I never know if he wakes out of hunger or not - he always feeds when offered!

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Cariad007 · 10/07/2014 10:32

Thanks for the sympathy all. Last night was a bit better, although it took me hours to fall asleep. I kept DS in the bed with me and he only woke once I think. But I put it down to the three doses of Calpol I gave him yesterday as he seemed to be in pain from teething. He then slept til about 9.30 this morning. Looks grim outside so not sure we will get a chance for a walk.

Saw 2 flats yesterday which were nice so now trying to decide which to go for. It comes down to ground floor, garden and no dishwasher near an only okay school or first floor, tiny balcony and dishwasher near a very good school. Although chances are we will probably have to move again by the time DS is of school age. Decisions, decisions...

Cariad007 · 10/07/2014 12:24

Update, we decided on the flat with the garden as it was bigger and not as crowded with stuff as the other flat. So less for inquisitive DS to get into once he's crawling. He won't be starting school til sept 2017 so I doubt we will still be in London by then. Now all I have to do is find affordable childcare, sigh...

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mrsmugoo · 10/07/2014 13:07

Sometimes I have to pinch myself when I realise affordable childcare is actually something that I have to consider in my life now.

I didn't even know I was pregnant this time a year ago! DS was a (very) happy accident!

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Cariad007 · 10/07/2014 13:12

I don't understand how it can be so bloody expensive. If you can find somewhere in London that charges £1000 per month you're lucky!

TwentiethCenturyGirl · 10/07/2014 13:16

Don't get me started on childcare - we were paying more that our mortgage for DD1's nursery and I've got my head firmly stuck in the sand about the cost of two!

It sounds like it might be worth thinking about moving mini mugoo into his own room. How soon could it (and you!) be ready? DD's room is ready and waiting and I think we're going to go for it a couple of weeks. I was holding off on it in case of a shocking 16 week sleep regression but we seem to have swerved it this time (touch wood), so think it might be time. DD1 had been in her own room for about 8 weeks by this stage, so don't know why I've been so wary.

Oh and good call on the garden Cariad - this time next summer I bet you'll be so glad you made that choice!

KateTheShrew · 10/07/2014 13:24

Aagh, childcare! I'm going back to work 2 days per week at the end of September and we haven't sorted anytyhing yet. When are you back to work cariad and mugoo?

Glad you found a flat you like cariad

FrankelandFilly · 10/07/2014 13:29

Glad the flat is sorted Cariad

I'm not going back to work till my maternity leave is up next March, but we put DD down for the nursery we wanted when she was 10 weeks old! Good thing we did as they had no space available until May 2015, and that was only 3 days a week! She can't go full-time till September 2015 Shock I haven't decided if I am going back full or part time yet but we figured it was better to out her down for full time hours and then decide not to use them! than the other way round.

Cariad007 · 10/07/2014 13:53

Yikes I am going back in March too but didn't put DS down for a nursery as we weren't sure where we'd be living. I've found one reasonably priced nursery so I guess I should put his name down ASAP. Annoyingly the nearest local authority nurseries to us are in a different borough so we don't qualify for subsidised places. The ones in our borough are at least 20 mins away. Bloody red tape!

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mrsmugoo · 10/07/2014 14:08

As soon as we can get the blackout lining in the curtains he's going in his own room!

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Batmam · 10/07/2014 14:09

Yep I'd say garden trumps dishwasher Cariad, good choice!

I hadn't thought that DS might be waking because I am there. I haven't done the DH/spare room thing yet as I thought it wouldn't be worth it as DS wakes so often for feeds DH would just be bringing him in to me non stop...would be interesting to see if he'd actually settle back to sleep if there were no chance of boob! Those who do this do you wake up engorged?

Cariad007 · 10/07/2014 14:45

DS has only once slept long enough for me to get engorged. I went to bed as me and woke up as Dolly Parton! I might try the different room thing once we move too but given how paranoid I am I'd probably never sleep for worry!

Writerwannabe83 · 10/07/2014 15:00

I get emotional just thinking about putting DS in his own room Sad Grin