Calling all night time feeders - always up feeding when we should be sleeping! Let's keep each other company PART 2!!

[Writerwannabe83]

I think to start the new thread off we should reintroduce ourselves and our babies for the sake of our own memories and also for any newbies who may join

I have a 10 week old DS who is EBF. Has been sleeping through the night for the last week and I'm just waiting patiently for things to go downhill as I'm sure they will

Hi writer, well it is typical of him to have a brilliant night (10-5) followed by a shit one but the last two are like newborn nights again maybe he is too hot - our room is hard to cool down. He has short sleeve vest and pyjama bottoms, maybe I'll try just vest tomorrow. I'm hoping it's a case of him being thirsty rather than me having a poor supply in the evenings...

I bet it will be because he's thirsty if you think he may be too warm. It was because my DS was acting thirsty that made me wonder if he was too warm as he'd wake up, feed for about 2 minutes and then go back to sleep again. Our bedroom is so warm but I would never want to leave the window open overnight because of DS - not that there is ever a breeze anyway. All I sleep in is a nursing bra and a light night shirt that I don't even do up. I don't have the quilt over my body either, just over my feet, and I still feel too warm. I guessed that if that's how warm I was feeling, DS was probably the same.

We do have the window open sometimes as it feels unbearably close but the road outside is bloody noisy! Could also be a growth spurt, isn't there one around 16 weeks?

16 weeks is classic sleep regression time. There's loads online about it but I think babies have a big developmental leap around this time and it can send their sleep potty for a bit. Some babies seem troubled by it and some don't.

It turned DD1 from a good sleeper to a rubbish sleeper for ages, although I think some of this wasn't helped by the fact she was my PFB and wasn't allowed to squeak for a second so didn't have a clue how to get back to sleep herself!

Midnight we have good followed by bad but don't think it's regression for us yet as DS will only turn 7 weeks on Saturday. However it's a bit of a comfort that I know he can do 8 hours!!

Sorry to read about some tough nights on here. The breakdowns are awful too, you just feel like you can't do anything right. We're all doing a brilliant job though, keep that in mind.

We've had two really good nights here, yesterday DD slept till 6am and this morning she went till 6.30! Of course she's 14.5 weeks so this may just be lulling me into a false sense of security before the dreaded 16 weeks hit us like a freight train!

Yeah my little boy has seemed so much more aware of everything in last week. I think he has realised we are just out of reach and gets upset when he wakes up alone.

I have had a few bad arse o clock breakdowns since his birth, so much so that I scared myself and my husband, but this week I've been too exhausted to rage! Making myself get up and smile at my baby may be tiring but going off on one is more so. And connecting in a positive way makes the exhaustion slightly easier to deal with. The worst is when you realise you've nodded off while feeding...scary.

It's really tough dealing with sleep deprivation (it is used as torture) and I think we should be impressed with ourselves for keeping a small human alive and happy whilst feeling awful in ourselves (though I did ask my LO to shut up at 4am and feel very guilty).

I've told DS to shut up on more than one occasion, I imagine we all have. As long as we feel bad afterwards then I think we can be forgiven

Another bad night here too. DS was up every two hours and I had an attack of insomnia so couldn't sleep at all. And yes, I too have shouted at him to shut up on occasion.

All those who have bad nights, what is their sleep like in the day??

Commiserations everyone eh had bad nights! Us too, unfortunately. Up at midnight, 2am and then 4.30-6am(!) I couldn't get back to sleep easily after 2am and so was totally shattered. Fortunately we're still at my parents' and so DM got up with him while I snatched an extra hour. DS had just had a lovely long nap which I haven't been able to take advantage of cos I've had to spend the last hour sending emails trying to sort out various cock-ups to do with my return to work in September. Grrrr

cariad I so, so feel for you! Not being able to sleep when you're exhausted is the worst. It happens to me frequently too

Morning all, sad to see the breakdowns and bad nights :( perhaps they're teaching our patience to stretch? I know with DD it feels like I get just to the point of breaking then I get some slack.

Writer I find the worse she sleeps in the day, the worse it is at night, and I'm sorry about your MIL

Nights are getting a bit better again this end - waking up about 10 11 for a feed and we're usually still up, then another 2 feeds spread evenly. If her last feed is 5 or 6am she'll stay awake but be happy to be left for an hour or so.

Hi ladies - not a bad night here. Asleep by 8:15 and up to feed at 12:30 and 3:30. Up for the day at 5:50. These early starts are quite annoying but it's the payoff for only two night feeds I guess.

Writer - DS's sleeps for 40 minutes after 90 minutes wake time. He's on his third sleep now!

I'm trying to stop him comfort sucking to sleep but even if he doesn't do that he needs to feed to wind him down. I'm also trying to put him down more instead of having him sleep on me but it often turns into a battle as he pretty much always wakes up when I try to place him down.

Normally my baby sleeps very well on the day (not in his cot so I can't join in) but this has no bearing on night sleep. He seems to randomly choose which nights are good!

Mrsmugoo - my baby also has a habit of seeming asleep on me or husband and then waking as soon as put down. We have yet to master self settling...

Sometimes DS is awake for most of the day but other days he seems to sleep loads

So far:

Last night he slept from 22.30pm - 05.45am

After he woke at 05.45am he had a quick feed and was back asleep by 06.15am. He then slept for another 2 hours and 15 minutes, waking at 08.30am.

He was awake for an hour, fell asleep at 09.30am and slept for over another hour, not waking up at 10.45am.

He then fell asleep two hours later at 12.45pm and is still asleep now, almost two hours later.

This means in the last 16 hours he has been asleep for about 13 of them.
Surely this isn't normal???

I know we always mention them as a solution. But maybe it's a growth spurt writer? They do their growing while they're asleep so the developmental periods are usually identified as lots of feeding and lots of sleep.

I'm just worried he's a bit poorly....

Or maybe I'm just overthinking it....

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Sorry, my iPad is playing up!

I think with babies the key is not to take any one day in isolation. If he's still the same tomorrow maybe give your health visitor a call, but I'd have thought if he was ill he'd probably sleep less, not more.

Writer - my baby was like this the other day and today has been awake all day! They are mysterious!

Writer, I would kill for DS to have a day like that from time to time!