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Calling all night time feeders - always up feeding when we should be sleeping! Let's keep each other company PART 2!!

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Writerwannabe83 · 05/06/2014 21:14

I think to start the new thread off we should reintroduce ourselves and our babies for the sake of our own memories and also for any newbies who may join Smile

I have a 10 week old DS who is EBF. Has been sleeping through the night for the last week and I'm just waiting patiently for things to go downhill as I'm sure they will Smile

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Cannotbelieveit · 10/06/2014 22:34

Oh gosh sorry to hear that writer :-( scary

DS been asleep 30 mins and is in his cot. Hoping for a good stretch as I've got a friend, her little boy and my mum coming over tomorrow so would be nice to take the double pushchair out for a spin and not be completely knackered! Grin

puggywug81 · 10/06/2014 22:46

Glad everything is ok now writer that must have been terrifying.

McBaby · 10/06/2014 23:42

First fed of the night and it's only 11.30. Hoping it dissent go on all night!

mrsmugoo · 11/06/2014 00:54

Just done first feed - he lasted just over 4 hours and I slept for 3 of those.

He's done feeding now and should be back down by 1ish

beckiebee04 · 11/06/2014 01:11

Hey ppl, I ad my baby 1 week ago and a bit unsure what's right n wrong, my new born can polish off at least 3oz of milk in one feed, is this normal? Also when i feed her she makes the most horrendous noise like she's not gettin it quick - shall i change tests??I also express milk too, it seems she sleeps allllllll day, I wake her to feed of course but as soon as we take her up to bed she will not settle, no matter how much we feed her she won't, only she will sleep in my arms, and as soon as I put her in the crib next to the bed she is stirring, I end up taking her down stairs for another feed and put her in the Moses n she sleeps, how can I get round gettin her sleep upstairs? Somone said to take the Moses upstairs in the day? Hellllppppp lolConfused

mrsmugoo · 11/06/2014 01:12

Grrr, he was just back down and DH dropped something on the floor and woke him up. Annoying!

mrsmugoo · 11/06/2014 01:17

Beckie - I think it's quite normal for a newborn to only want to sleep on you, they basically think they are still inside you!

My son never once slept in his Moses basket in the day - as a newborn he slept on a pile of folded blankets in the corner of the L shaped sofa. Now he will only nap in my arms - he's 13 weeks! He never made the transition into his cot as he kept waking up so now we co-sleep. So just do whatever feels right to be close to your baby. And congratulations!

beckiebee04 · 11/06/2014 03:21

Thanks, she sleeps during the day in the Moses but at night she will only sleep in the Moses downstairs or in my arms ..

mrsmugoo · 11/06/2014 04:47

Up again, he lasted 3 hours which is incredible for a second stretch for him.

He was really unsettled after one boob and started crying so I changed his nappy to rule out discomfort and gripe water to help any wind. He took the other boob and is now drifting off in my arms but is quite fitful. If I can get him down I don't expect long!

Cannotbelieveit · 11/06/2014 04:49

First stretch til 2am 3.5 hours and then second stretch 2 hours! Only slept 2 hours of that as ds1 still teething and he's waking in pain lots xx

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Writerwannabe83 · 11/06/2014 05:30

Morning all Smile

Well DS slept for 8 hours so a much better night than I thought. He is feeding now and seems wide awake. He normally gives me lots of smiles when he wakes up but not today, I don't think he's forgiven me yet for dropping something on his head!! I'm hoping we will both get a couple more hours sleep once he's finished feeding.

welcome beckie - congratulations on your baby girl! Me and DH had the EXACT same problem with our DS - we'd forked out on a gorgeous crib and refused to sleep in it. After numerous days of trying we finally admitted defeat and accepted that he wasn't sleeping anywhere but his Moses Basket. So we have the Moses Basket in the living room during the day and carry it up to the bedroom at night. I honestly believe that after 9 weeks of being tucked up inside their mothers, a baby finds a crib just too spacious and they get scared.

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mrsmugoo · 11/06/2014 06:44

Up for the day here after another hour and a half here. A fab night by my standards plus my DH is up early and has offered to take him now so I can go back to sleep til nap time yay!

notadoctor · 11/06/2014 08:00

We had a good night too - a 5 hour stretch followed by a 3 hour stretch and DD1 was much more settled too. She has now totally dropped her daytime nap and has an earlier bedtime instead, a full day with no toddler free cup of tea time can be a bit full on but it means we get a longer evening and the new regime seems to be helping her to sleep a bit better again. Next step will be to finally get everyone sleeping in thier own beds! I miss spending a full night in bed with DH!

Cannot - poor DS and his teeth! Is it the back molars? They can be so painful!

Welcome Beckie - my DS in 10weeks and he will rarely be put down at all so you're doing well settling him in the Moses basket. I agree with Writer's suggestion of carrying the Moses from room to room with you.

Writer - glad DS is okay after his scare. I'm sure all our babies will have to forgive us much worse over the years!

notadoctor · 11/06/2014 08:01

Sorry Beckie - I meant her!

Cariad007 · 11/06/2014 08:05

Bad night here. DS was in bed by 930 so we had an early night too but then he proceeded to wake up 5 times during the night. Am so fucking over it. I feel and look shattered. Caught sight of myself in the mirror this morning and I just look haggard and exhausted and utterly shit. Just tried to feed DS and he was fidgeting and wouldn't feed. Only thing we did differently last night was to forget to give him Calpol for his cold. But I can't drug him to sleep every night? :(

McBaby · 11/06/2014 08:07

So tired second feed was at 3.30 and DD2 has been grunting since then. V annoyed with DP who slept through first feed and went for a run at 5.30 when I really needed an hour of sleep.

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Writerwannabe83 · 11/06/2014 08:37

DS did fall asleep after his feed so we hot another 2 hours sleep.

cariad - I'm so sorry you are going through this? It's no wonder you are so tired? How old is your DS again? Do you have anyone who can help you? I remember when we gave Calpol to DS when he was really irritable after his jabs and it was like a magic potion!! He slept really well and went the longest he ever had (up until that night anyway). Unsurprisingly my Dzh suggested we give him a dose every night but I managed to talk him out of it. However,in your situation I can absolutely understand why you'd be tempted!! Does he want feeding ever time he wakes?

Oh dear mcbaby - hope you let DP know he's in your bad books!!

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Cariad007 · 11/06/2014 09:08

Thanks Writer, unfortunately I have no one to help me out as my family are in Oz, my friends are all at work, DP's sisters live up north and his parents are next to useless even though they only live an hour away. Basically they aren't really baby people and haven't been around a baby since DP was born nearly 26 years ago. Whereas my parents have always been around kids - nephews, nieces, grandnieces, grand kids etc. Although DP's parents are fond of DS they always have to be encouraged to visit and aren't as comfortable holding him as my parents are. I don't hold it against them, that's just how they are but I just feel so isolated.

DP has tried taking DS a few times when he wakes at night but he can never settle as it's always me he wants. I guess I really should get out of the house more but various health issues means it's tricky for me to get the pram down the stairs and a senile upstairs neighbour means DP can't leave it down there before work in case she decides to vandalise it. And DS screamed blue murder every time I put him in a sling so that's a no go too.

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Writerwannabe83 · 11/06/2014 09:22

I sympathise with baby only settling with the mother - I have the same problem. However, I didn't help myself as I took on that role and didn't really give DH a chance to develop those skills. I realised one day that the soothing of DS was now expected of me and DH was getting an easy ride. I made the decision to just give DS to my DH and say, "Here you go, your turn to settle him". Whereas normally I would immediately intervene if DS got upset whilst with DH but now I wait at least 15 minutes before I go and take over. I have also told my DH what he needs to do to calm DS (as his methods were questionable) and for the first time last week DH actually managed together DS fall asleep.

I'm not excusing men, but in some cases I really don't think that parenting babies comes naturally to them!

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mrsmugoo · 11/06/2014 09:34

My son only settles for me, but that's because I do bedtime, night wakings and naps as there is always feeding involved and DS has never taken a bottle.

When we start sleep training in a couple of months I will involve DH then as he will not be fed to sleep forever then it can be interchangeable.

KateTheShrew · 11/06/2014 09:34

Finally, FINALLY, a decent night's sleep! DS slept 8.30-11.30, and then woke for next feed at 3.20. Had a pretty marathon feed until just after 4!!

I managed to get back to sleep by about 5 (good by my standards) and then DS woke again at 6. I offered him a feed but he wasn't really interested so we put him back in his bed next and he went back to sleep til 7.30, which is super late for him. Then DH took him and I slept until 8.30. Amazing. In sure it'll never be repeated but I'm grateful to have caught up on a bit of sleep.

writer I'm so glad your DS is OK. That must have been so scary for you.

cariad, I don't have any helpful suggestions I'm afraid, just sympathy. Many's the morning I've caught sight of myself in the mirror and thought, "who is that? She looks frightful. Oh. Shit. It's me." I hope you can at least have a bit of a lazy day, although I know how difficult that is with a baby.

mrsmugoo · 11/06/2014 09:35

Ahh amazing Kate - we had almost exactly the same wakings except it was 12:40 and 4:30. I feel great today woohoo!

OwlinaTree · 11/06/2014 09:53

Morning all. We had a good night, the boy slept till 630 fed and a bit of a play with daddy then dropped off again. He's still asleep! I'll have to wake him soon.

He was a nightmare last night tho. Since 5pm he was screaming or feeding. It's so exhausting isn't it? I really think I need to try to get him to sleep earlier somehow. Has anyone tried putting the baby to bed half an hour earlier each day? Any suggestions?

Cariad007 · 11/06/2014 10:01

I have booked DS and myself into a baby massage class this afternoon so at least that will get us out of the house. He's usually pretty good when we are out and about so hopefully he won't decide to be contrary and scream the place down! And after that I'll take him to the baby clinic to be weighed and hopefully the health visitor might have some advice re his sleep patterns.

Thanks again for the virtual tea and sympathy all :)

mrsmugoo · 11/06/2014 10:07

DH is away for a week with work from today. Tonight I have MIL staying over to help out. I'm going to my parents Friday to Monday so will get to hand DS over to GPs a lot!