My local radio station was discussing breast feeding in a restaurant last night, and the DJ said..........................................

[waterfalls]

Yes I know its natural, but so is taking a pee and I would'nt do that in the middle of the restaurant, the mothers should do it in the bathroom

I wonder how many complaint letters he can expect in the next few days.

I've never seen someone breastfeed in public with everything on full show. And I've been keeping my eyes peeled so to speak for about 7 years now!

geekgirl, showing affection and breastfeeding are both the most natural thing in the world and neither should be stifled just discreet. Must find another word for discreet.

I dont want to see anybodies bare flesh regardless of their activity - so I take it you would object to cleavage, bare arms, mini skirts etc etc? As for gay men kissing, I have to parp myself here.

I once walked into a coffee bar, double fronted full glass shop. I glanced in the window, as you do before you approach the door and there it was in full view facing the high street a hooter about to be launched into a little angels face. My dh couldnt help but pass comment.

Callisto, i thought I could smell something!! PARP

Ahhh, now I see, you're just after a reaction Tenalady, a bit of a troll on the quiet huh?

me? no i never fight, just lightening the mood.

Tenalady, you're missing my point: If you don't like it, Just Don't Look. Easy, problem solved. Applies to everything.

Oh for goodness sake....the only bf away from home you approve of is the sort you actually aren't aware of.

I have never seen anyone 'get their breasts out' - ever. But I accept that I have not been everywhere in the country. Maybe there are some women who show a lot more flesh than the 'invisible' feeders you are in favour of, tenalady, but so what???

If you don't like it, then move.

I feel the same way about gay people snogging in public as I do seeing straight people snog in public - I want to say 'get a room'!!

But there is nothing inappropriate about a mother feeding her baby, and as your levels of approval depend on her doing it so you don't even flippin know what she is doing even when you are sat right next to her.....then either your 'standards' are way too high, or you are a judgemental prig.

Which is it? You decide!!

Oh, I dont but its that first glimpse that stays with you.

"...there it was in full view facing the high street a hooter about to be launched into a little angels face. My dh couldnt help but pass comment."

Of course he could help passing comment. It's easy. You just don't say anything. He maybe couldn't help but notice but that's something different,

You make it sound like its something repulsive tenalady?

Standards very high.

Judgemental prig trying to masquerade as someone warm and caring. The worst sort. Now I really am parping myself off this thread for good.

What about mothers who cant offord proper nursing bras etc, that must make breasfeeding less..............disceet (as you put it) so I expect they cant avoid having more on show, if they dont care, ehy should anyone else? good on them I say.

Not read all thread, but has this DJ bloke apologised yet, either on air on by email???

Oops - just scrolled down and see the reply!! Love the comment about cheap jibes over his age.

I then sent this email:

Dear Graham

Thanks for the swift reply.
I agree that you are entitled to your views on this subject, just as I am entitled to disagree with them, but I am intrigued to know why you would not wish to witness breastfeeding in a restaurant? After all the baby is simply being fed and the mother's breasts are being used for their intended purpose. It may be easier for you not to look than for the mother to have to interupt her meal and leave her table to ease your sensibilities.

Yours sincerely

and then I got this reply:

Hi Carmen

Looks like we are not going to agree on this one
But it does make for a great debate

Regards

Graham

So it doesn't look like Graham really is interested in having a debate as he refuses to offer an explanation as to why he objects to seeing a woman breastfeeding in a restaurant.

Perhaps someone should explain to him the term "mammal"?

I cant even acknowledge I'm afraid why it would make anyone uncomfortable. Boobs are there purely for one purpose, to feed a child - why would this be "uncomfortable"?. Funny how a bottle which is a plastic boob with a plastic nipple (oh that would be the exact copy of a boob then!) filled with milk from a random cows udder which we know isnt as good for a baby as its own mothers milk is perfectly acceptable and doesnt evoke any feelings of discomfort (well in this guy!) yet a baby receiving what it was intended to direct from its mothers "udder" is something that should be hidden? purlease!

I would never express to take out because I didnt expect mine to make do with a breast substitute when the real thing was availible, purely to appease small minded people who apparently have nothing better to do than oggle a woman feeding her child! - simple solution is dont look, perhaps he could eat his dinner in the toilet.

Deja vu??? How many discussions can we have on breastfeeding in public fgs?

I personally think it is lovely to see a little baby snuggling in feeding and its mum beaming down (usually), if you find it repulsive or an 'affront' it says more about you than the mother imo.

I find muffin tops and cracked heels repulsive but I just look away, I don't poke the owners and ask them to be more discrete (sp?).

Breastfeed or subject those around you to a screaming hungry baby? I never saw it as a choice. DD couldn't take a bottle at all. She used to open her mouth too wide, then look all shocked and scared when she couldn't latch on to the bottle, then the screaming would start.

With DS 4 years later, I never bothered stressing myself trying to get him on a bottle. I just breastfed him whenever he needed it. Not one person ever objected directly to me. Perhaps I looked a bit fierce.

just wondering how tenaladys dh feels about magazines at eye level in shops with womens breasts exposed for all to see. are they ok because a baby isn't feeding from them?
and 'hooters'?? for gods sake....humpphhh.

I was a bit of an arse over breast feeding. I used to feed the DSs anywhere that I needed to if thet were hungrey. Was in a family pub once and baby was hungrey so i fed him at the table whilst also trying to eat my lunch before it went cold. A couple complained to the manager (who was huge and scary and covered in tatoos - totally the sort that I thought wouldnt approve... my fault for being stereotypical) but he came over and said "you just ignore them love, if your babys' hungrey then you feed him" and then in a loud voice says 'And whoever doesnt like it can leave" Fab!

Although another time at another place a waitress told me I wasnt 'allowed' to feed my bavy there... I asked her whether she planned to pysically detach him... she had no answer and left us alone.

Apols for my spelling!

Well done LadyT. Perhaps you looked a bit fierce too!