How to stay awake during night feeds part 10!

[abi2790]

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[Emilythornesbff]

soyo it's miserable isn't it.
Second feed here and ds has also been up twice.
Hope you've managed to get some sleep.

Ppl who get sleep at night have absolutely no idea what this does to you. None whatsoever. None.

[Emilythornesbff]

And [rant alert!]
The thing I really hate is that you can't talk to anyone else (apart from you fab lot) about it, because it's all: " just leave them to cry, you're making a rod for your back, mine never did that.... Bla bla bollocks" it's so isolating.
So thank goodness for you guys, really.

[SoYo]

'You're making a rod for your own back' & 'you're spoiling her' make me so angry! 1. Who the fuck are you to judge my parenting style when I'm the only one that knows my child inside out because I'm with her practically every bloody second, 2. How in Gods name do you spoil a newborn baby, which she was when these comments started, who has no idea of cause & effect and 3. So what if I am, in what world is that a helpful comment to a tired new mum who's obviously just trying to do her best for her child!

Anyway, rant over. Bubs has been in her Moses basket since 1ish but making lots of wakey moany grant noises all night so I don't think either of us are well rested! She's got terrible wind & it looks like tummy ache with her wriggling & drawing legs up, no dirty nappy since Monday after 2-3 a day before that so I'm not surprised!

Hope it's been quiet because everyone else has had a full night of sleep (rather than been too tired to post).

[Anypants]

You're absolutely right em - people are often ready to criticise and offer their advice but not so willing to take LO off your hands for a couple of hours while you catch up on some sleep.
First feed here since the 11.30 shenanigans but she's been squirming fir a while so notuch 'decent' sleep for me and DH sat up to watch a film (16 blocks?) so he'll be complaining that he's tired too

and

[Anypants]

notuch? Obviously, I mean 'not much'. tired.com.

[HadALittleFaithBaby]

2nd feed of the night here (other one at 2). She's been going since 5, when I tried it to settle her she was wide awake in the Moses basket. I've brought her through to the living room to not disturb DH. I was worried I'd dose off as well! Feeding now and hoping she'll dose off again.

[Anypants]

Aaaargh - can't keep my eyes open but it seems DD can! She is so resistant to sleep - i'm going to have to keep her awake longer today so she gets more tired.
I'll just keep shushing and rocking until she goes, for now (yes - I am an awful mother for 'spoiling' my child with cuddles)

[abi2790]

Morning ladies. Ds was up at 1 and we had 2 transfer fails but luckily I left him in his cot after the second one and he fell asleep after 5 minutes.

I think I've got a blocked duct (god knows how since it feels like Ds is attached to me 24/7).

As for the sleep comments I feel like punching anyone that says "give him formula and he'll sleep better" "and solids will get him sleeping through." Oh yeah because those tiny spoonfuls of food are really going to fill him overnight .

[Emilythornesbff]

Morning.
Poor sleep deprived girls.
Sorry for setting off a group rant

Hope you all get some rest..
Fwiw I "spoiled" my ds (still do ). He is the happiest little toddler imagineable and he now sleeps through - most nights.

[HadALittleFaithBaby]

abi my DH keeps pushing formula because he believes that!

After feeding til 5.45 I could not get DD to transfer into her Moses basket. Finally got more kip from 7 til now (oh yes multiple attempts) by co-sleeping with her. That recent report scared me a bit but I figure if I'm set up right (I don't have the duvet etc) it's ok for an hour or so if I'm dozing.

You can't spoil a newborn baby. Fact. With the transfer issues my baby spends most of her day in a sling with me. She's cosy and content, I have two hands free! Win/win.

[larlemucker]

Morning ladies.
Didn't post last night as batt flat.

Went to see Star Trek while baby larle was at his aunties. Fab film, could have watched again as soon as it had finished!!

Baby larle woke up when we got home, about 11.15 and fed to sleep. Successful transfer at 11.55.
He then woke at 1.30, I remember looking at the clock and I ate my banana but that's about it!! Don't remember picking him up, feeding him or transferring!!

DH woke me at 5.15 to tell me it was 5.15 and DS hadn't been up! Ever had that feeling when you wake up and you're not sure where they are? Spilt second of panic till I saw him asleep in the cot.

Think he slept for about 5/6 hours!! Don't know if his cousin wore him out, if it was the apple and bottle of ebm or my DSis's magic touch! Feel very refreshed this morning though.

emily totally agree. My MIL told me DS had a 'spoilt cry' when he was 6 weeks old! How the hell can a 6 week old be spoilt??? Giving a baby attention when they cry is NOT spoiling them. And I've heard the whole leave them to cry crap. I can't do that, not when he is so young and still needs night feeds.

Beautiful day here today, going to the farmers market to get fruit/veg and then off for a walk I think

Hope you all have good days and catch up on sleep

[abi2790]

I know that feeling larle. Since day one I wake up every night thinking Ds is under the duvet. I throw the duvet off the bed searching for him and I've shouted Dp up a few times.thinking he's underneath him. I don't have a clue why I started doing it. I guess it's motherly instinct gone mad?! The funny thing is when I do co-sleep I wake up stiff as a brick as I haven't moved an inch!

[abi2790]

Oh and to add to that post I think I'm still half asleep when I'm doing it as consciously I know he's sound asleep in his cot. Does anyone else do that? Or am I insane haha?

[SoYo]

I do exactly the same abi, I m regularly convinced she's under the duvet when she's in the bed! We did some cosleeping last night & I ache like hell today because I don't move a muscle either.

[larlemucker]

Same here, massive panic that DS is under duvet, esp when I know I've fed him but can't remember putting him back in his cot.

Also same when we do co-sleep I don't move and wake up really sore!!

Gorge day here today. Baby larle has lived being in the garden with no nappy on!!

[Emilythornesbff]

So pleased you had a good day larle
Oh the fear when I accidentally fall asleep feeding. [guilty face].

Dd settled in her cot-clever girl.
Wishing you all a good night.
Em

[SoYo]

We've been at a wedding all day & just got home. Madam absolutely loved all the music & people watching but hasn't slept which usually makes for a disturbed night. I'm hoping she'll go down now. Fingers crossed!

[larlemucker]

Quiet tonight.
Hope that means people are sleeping.

Baby larle has just peed all over daddy and the floor, any other time of day and it would have been really funny!

Not having a great night here, DS was awake an hour after putting him to bed. Fed then transfer fail so fed again and co-slept till now as I couldn't keep my eyes open earlier.
Back in cot now though, hopefully!

[abi2790]

Ds slept from 9 until now! We had a bit of trouble getting him to sleep so I thought we were in for a bad night. My boobs feel like I have 2 bricks tied toy chest now though!

[Emilythornesbff]

Hi.
Didn't post as too tired. 2 or 3 feeds I think plus DS up a few times as he's a bit poorly.dh snoring

[larlemucker]

Transfer fail last night so ended up co-sleeping all night. Woken up with a sore arm as baby larle was asleep on it!
Will I ever get a undisturbed nights sleep?

[Anypants]

Morning all - sorry if you had a cr*ppy night.
Didn't get DD to bed until 10pm, as we went out for dinner with family (and she screamed for half an hour while I tried to feed her because the restaurant was ridiculously hot ). However, she woke a bit at about 1.30 and then went straight back to sleep on her own until 7.30! I feel sooooooo much better today for not getting up twice by now
Right - time for

[abi2790]

Not had a great day today. Ds rolled off the bed this morning whilst with Dp . He's fine but I feel awful. Plus I gave him some sweet potato batons and because he hasn't learnt the art of swallowing very well he tries to cough it back out which then resulted in projectile vomit .

[larlemucker]

Oh no abi, how old is DS? Hope he is ok.

We've been for a walk in the sunshine and played dodge the tourist!!
MIL on her way round for tea and scrabble. I HAVE to beat her or DH, I always come last!!

[abi2790]

He's almost six months larle. He's his normal happy self so I'm assuming he's fine but that doesn't make me feel any less guilty!

As for the vomit, when does weaning get easier?!