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What did you say when asked to stop BFing in public?

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Karmamother · 25/04/2006 22:41

I need a list of witty retorts to throw at neanderthals who might be upset by the sight of me BFing. You know the ones I mean... the stuff you never think of at the time.
I'm going to memorise them cos I think they're going to come in handy. I want to BF in public as much as possible, if only to see how long it takes to be asked to leave the premises.
BTW, I managed it at the rugby club the other week.Grin No-one minded.

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Karmamother · 26/04/2006 10:29

Listen, I come from Newcastle & on a Saturday night you can see acres of norks for free. In fact, it's a tourist attraction. Nobody seems to mind that at all.

As someone pointed out the other day, its only rude if you can see the nipple. Grin

Yes, it was a man, & his DP is pg & intends to BF so I wait in anticipation!!

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oliveoil · 26/04/2006 10:29

I breastfed draped in cloths as my stomach is for my eyes only and not to be viewed.

Caligula · 26/04/2006 10:32

Did she really shit in the street? Shock

I hope she took her pooper scooper with her.

Caligula · 26/04/2006 10:32

I thought it was just a wee.

Agree, my belly's scarier than my boobs.

moondog · 26/04/2006 10:35

Nonoe ever challenged (love that word!) me,annoyingly.
Did Paula really shit in the street?? Grin
I thought it was a wee!
Was it caught on camera?

moondog · 26/04/2006 10:36

snigger Cal!

PiccadillyCircus · 26/04/2006 10:37

I think it was just a wee.

Caligula · 26/04/2006 10:38

Ooh I do hope so. How can we encourage irresponsible dog owners to pick up their dog's crap if our athletes are leaving their droppings in the street? Grin

Caligula · 26/04/2006 10:39

DD wanted to crap in the street yesterday and I wouldn't let her.

Racers · 26/04/2006 10:56

Am also in the 'steel myself for the argument but never need to' camp. It's just never happened and I've also bf'ed all over the place. I've had some odd looks but no-one has been brave enough to say anything, even if they wanted to, which I'm not sure they have.
I agree, you probably don't have to think up something witty - just be calm and clear about your position.

(and, yes, I believe it was a poo. wees are done all the time and can be done whilst still running if necessary - bleaurgh!)

lazycow · 26/04/2006 11:00

ffs - Can everyone stop going on about how you can breastfeed so discreetly.

Some of us with size f cups and unco-operative babies have a real problem with that. Ds from the age of 5 months was an on/off stare around sort of baby and who loved pulling my top higher to expose a lot of flesh. I also have very large nipples so latching ds on without showing them was pretty much impossible.

Anopther favourite of his was to nuzzle or complain and I'd try and latch him on assuming he was hungry. He then decide that he disn't want to feed after all as there was something more interesting going on somewhere else or maybe he was tired instead of humgry. He would then arch his back - scream and wail leaving me waving a large dark pointed milk shooting nipple at the nice people on the table next to me.

My 'discreet' attempts to encourage ds to latch on (as of course breastfeeding always calms a baby) resulted in a baby who was absolutely screaming and the entire establishment watching me in horror/fascination - with me getting redder and redder. This happened a few times before I decided I'd had enough of public breastfeeding. Admitedly no-one ever said anything to me though . I think they were too shocked by the sight of a screaming arching baby having a nipple waved at it's mouth by a red faced woman.

lazycow · 26/04/2006 11:01

Sorry about typos - too many to fix

Caligula · 26/04/2006 11:05

LOL at the description of red faced woman waving norks at arching baby!

Really, she pooped on the road! I'm so shocked! I thought it was a wee and couldn't understand what the fuss was about. Sorry to keep on about this, but did she remove the offending ahem, waste product? Or did other runners step in it?

Grin
Greensleeves · 26/04/2006 11:07

Aer we really SURE it was a shite? She can't have hung around to clean it up either. Dirty cow.

tiktok · 26/04/2006 11:07

I am going to pretend I am not at all interested in Paula Radcliffe's poos.

tiktok · 26/04/2006 11:09

lol at pooper scooping your own!!

Where would she put the little poly bag? Would she have to carry it all the way to the finish line and swap it for a medal???

Caligula · 26/04/2006 11:09

No, do they really? Why don't they go before the race? Do they wear incontinence pants? Do men?

tiktok · 26/04/2006 11:11

Wee while running, you mean, Calig?
Yes, they do, and because lady-wee trickles rather than whooshes, it just runs down the leg and no one notices among the sweat.

I am not sure about men....maybe they let it trickle, too. But I can;t see that it would trickle down in an unobvious way. Anyone got a dh handy to ask him?

ProfYaffle · 26/04/2006 11:14

DH's ex used to run a lot and apparently took loo roll out with her and used to poop behind hedges on a regulsr basis. Ick.

Caligula · 26/04/2006 11:18

Not privet hedges, I hope.

marthamoo · 26/04/2006 11:20

I always used to sit there thinking up witty/scathing put-downs for anyone who challenged me too...and it never happened. Like ProfYaffle I long for the day when I can step in and defend some other breast-feeding Mum from ignorant passers-by...that's not happened yet either Grin

The only person I have known (as opposed to read about - like the woman who had dirty water thrown over her and her baby a few years ago by a shop-keeper Angry) have a negative comment was a friend a few years back who was feeding her dd on a park bench. A man sat next to her and was leering somewhat, and as he got up to leave he said "I'd like to try some of that.." She didn't come up with a witty put-down as she said she did feel quite threatened and upset Sad

Caligula · 26/04/2006 11:22

Good god. How could anyone be so cruel as to throw water all over a baby? I hope he got prosecuted for assault.

marthamoo · 26/04/2006 11:26

I can't remember all the details, Caligula - I have an idea it was down South, and the woman sat down on a wall outside this man's shop to feed her baby...and he threw a bowl of dirty water over them Shock Got to go and pick up ds2 - wonder if anyone else can remember the follow-up?

tiktok · 26/04/2006 11:29

I think it was about five years ago, martha...his story was she was using one the bollards outside his shop ie private property to lean on and he objected, and when he used a bucket of water to swill the front, some of it 'accidentally' got onto her.

It was all over the papers at the time....sparked one of those boring 'is it ok to bf in public?' debates.

RedZuleika · 26/04/2006 12:31

Lazycow: I laugh at your size Fs and wave my size H mammaries in your face!

(And yes, it is just about possible to get 32/34 H bras...)