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Things my hv said at dd's 6 month review yesterday

103 replies

bumbleweed · 25/04/2006 18:20

Just a bit surprised what I got at dd's 6 month review visit from the health visitor yesterday - I was feeling quite pleased for making it to 26 weeks bf after a rocky start and a few hiccups along the way. Am enjoying starting to wean, and am very tired from dd's night-time wakings and looking for a bit of support. I felt like I got told off all round.

" Oh why didnt you start weaning at 4 months, didnt you know the WHO guidelines are aimed at third world countries and not ours?" (but surely our government's doctors and experts wouldnt have adopted those guidelines then and published loads of information on them would they?)

"But babies dont need feeding during the night once they reach 6 months, its a habit - only a very small minority of babies dont sleep through the night by 6 months!" (oh right, what a bad mother for creating a habit by feeding my hungry baby ..)

"Dont give her too much sweet food or she wont take savoury" (we're talking apple and banana here not cadbury's cream eggs)

"Try to get her onto 4 tablespoons of food, 3 times a day within a few weeks" (Shock but we're only a week into solids and at the moment she's just tasting the food and getting used to swallowing it and feeling it in her mouth..)

"Babies get all the milk they need in the first 5 minutes, you can break them off after that if you want, the rest is just for comfort" ( .. but what about the hindmilk?)

No wonder people are totally confused by the subject of feeding and weaning - the advice is contradictory and confusing even to the well-informed.

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MumtoBen · 25/04/2006 18:25

Very pleased now that the hvs where I live don't give any checks after 6 weeks if this is the kind of advice you get!

panicpants · 25/04/2006 18:27

Mine was surprised when I said my ds at 7mths hadn't started to crawl yet (!)

moondog · 25/04/2006 18:27

Bumbleweed,what a load of shit!
I would write them down and send them to the trust head with a letter of complaint.
Oooh,wait unti lHunker gets wind of this!

Did you say anything back, esp. re first point??

panicpants · 25/04/2006 18:29

AND then preceeded to take notes when she asked me all the safety questions like

Have you a stair gate fitted? No he's not crawling yet.
Fireguard? No he's not crawling yet.
Safty plugs? No he's not cawling yet.
Cupboard door things? No he's not crawling yet.

Wanted to thump her

Psychobabble · 25/04/2006 18:32

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Elf1981 · 25/04/2006 18:42

Took my DD to HV last week, wanted her weighing and said I was concerned as for three mornings she'd made attempts to feed but broken off and given up even after half hour of trying. I personally thought that 8:00 at night to 10:00 the following morning when she eventually gave in and had EBM in a bottle was too long without liquids.
The HV said "give her breakfast, they wean themselves off the breast around this time"
"she has brekkie, I'm not worried about food, its the liquid I am concerned about" says I
"well, shes probably weaning herself off it" is the reply
"okay, well, I was just making sure she was okay, it just seems like a long time without a drink"
"up her brekkie. hmmm, she's what, 6 1/5 months, probably a bit too young for rice crispies yet..."
WTF?!! Rice bloody crispies?!!!

PMSL about the creme egg bits, did you say that?! I would have done!

You are totally right about how its easy for people to be confused. HV's need to be universal in what they preach.

WFIW, do what you feel is best and know that the love and instinct that you have about your dd is always worth more than x amount of years training or working as a HV.

Also my DD has been on solids since 5 months old and it's only recently that she has had brekkie and some lunch. usually it was just brekkie, and just milk over the weekends!!

hunkermunkfish · 25/04/2006 18:47

Oh, FGS!

Where in the name of all things holy do they find these women?!

I'd be tempted to get together some information and organise another appointment to talk to her about it - but I'm a bolshy old so and so...

Is there another HV you can see?

They all seem to quote this "feeding in the night after six months is having you on" which is sad, I think.

Oh bloody bloody hell - no wonder mums find it so hard when the "support" they get is so rubbish.

schneebly · 25/04/2006 18:50

Shock at ignorance of HV!

moondog · 25/04/2006 18:52

That was quite calm for her....

Angeliz · 25/04/2006 18:57

That is presicely (sp) why i have never taken dd2 to see a Health Visitor.
Angry
Glad you sound like a confident woman bumbleweed. It's the poor nervous ones i feel for, some H.V's must leave vulnerable women in a messAngry

ggglimpopo · 25/04/2006 19:19

Wink at hunker

arfy · 25/04/2006 19:23

oh FFS silly bint. handing out totally wrong advice - probably is worth complaining about it.

And I've never really understood what's wrong with babies getting comfort from breastfeeding. flipping convenient if you ask me!

bumbleweed · 25/04/2006 19:54

I know - total pile of crap!

I actually didnt want to get into confrontation with hv as she was really very encouraging and supportive in early days when I teetered on the brink of pnd and formula.

It was like .. well, she's 6 months now, did she not overnight suddenly develop amazing sleep skills and a humongous appetite for toast?

Elf, I totally know what you mean ... I had similar with dd refusing to bf due to distraction and when I sought advice to coax her back was told "she's self-weaning, just switch to the bottle". WTF is that about - we are trying to follow the best research-based advice about feeding our children and the blooming health professionals are working against rather than with us.

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purplemonkeydishwasher · 25/04/2006 19:58

holy crap....there must be a school for crap HVs. mine's ignorant as well....

bumbleweed · 25/04/2006 19:58

panicpants - that safety stuff must be on the script ...

I also got, "well she's quite vocal but not really babbling yet ... have you tried talking to her while facing her so she can see your mouth moving?"

Talk about the blindingly blooming obvious (okay I know not to some people and that is really sad and should be helped) .. but you only have to be in my house 2 minutes to realise we are not those people by a long shot!

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Caligula · 25/04/2006 20:07

I honestly wonder when and where they learn all this shite. Are they qualified nurses?

panicpants · 25/04/2006 20:10

yeah I know bumbleweed, still bloody annoying though.

dreamingoflamu · 25/04/2006 20:10

I'm all het up now with your hv - its outrageous!! What is petrifying is how common it is - what the hell is going on! I was told I was overfeeding my son - but he's fully breastfed said I, i didn't think you could overfeed a breastfed baby - but she insisted and just left me feeling useless when I had gone for support about sleep!! I was fuming and vowed never to return. I'm fuming now just remembering. Good on you for ignoring her.

busybusybee · 25/04/2006 20:22

LOL at feeding a baby a Creme egg

When my utterly useless HV suggested I give ds a rusk I said:
"I think I would prefer to give him a doughnut they are lower in sugar!"

That shut her up :o

hermykne · 25/04/2006 20:27

bumbleweed i am shocked, its just pathetic how people esp professionals, dont get the facts correct. and they dont seem ot want to have the correct facts or realistic ones.

well onde oyu

panicpants · 25/04/2006 20:28

My hv suggested I give ds dairylee at his review Shock

LeahE · 25/04/2006 20:34
Shock

Must say ours were very good and spot on with weaning advice and general attitude towards bf, but Angry at this kind of episode.

alexsmum · 25/04/2006 20:38

my hv asked if i had been feeding ds1 chocolate.he was about 3 months oldShockshe went on to say'well what are you feeding him on'?
he was a big boy and couldn't believe he was just getting breast milk.

Bozza · 25/04/2006 20:39

TBH I've never had any advice from the hv re weaning DD. I think DH was asked if she was taking lumps at 7 months - only been weaned a month. As it happens she had had couscous with bits the previous evening so that counted. Wink

tortoiseshell · 25/04/2006 20:41

My HV had a classic one - at 4 months or so she suggested trying some finger food - a fish finger is a great starter finger food she said......

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