Warning: I am on a proper computer for once so this post is long and self-justifying
Thanks susie good to hear the hemming tip - my mum wouldn't have a clue how to do that either but I am sure the local drycleaners who alter all my trousers cos I am a shortarse would enjoy that bit of business (!)
DH did bedtime and so no issue with boobing to sleep. I have started reading Dr Ferber's book (guy who came up with CC idea of checking on baby at slightly lengthened intervals til they learn to go to sleep without help.) It has really similar starting point to the No Cry SS book but very different way of getting the same result but (unfortunately, since I thought I was anti leaving a baby to cry) it makes loads of sense to me and sounds just what we need. The NCSS idea that you stop baby from rooting by putting a finger under her chin is just not working for us AT ALL. Babyfunch seems not to cry for long when left to cry so we won't even get to the day 1 longest interval of leaving her for 10 minutes before she drops off, most likely. And according to Ferber, 4 months is just about the best time to start as they are old enough to expect them not to wake every 45 mins, but too young for the habit to be very ingrained (and indeed to remember the cruelty crying.) Not sure where the idea that it is not recommended for under 1 year comes from, I see that all over MN which is one reason I haven't thought to try CC before.
So with a heavy heart, but optimism that we may finally be looking at a solution that could work for us, I am admitting to trying CC! I can understand some of you are going to feel that we are being selfish or cruel, but I have looked back at some of my posts on the last couple of threads and I truly believe we are having really extreme problems compared to the majority of people at this stage. Actually taking up the wonderful heff on her generous offer to come and help me out today has made me realise just how bad things are. I am sure if I had heard of someone agreeing to accept that before I had babyfunch I would have thought what a pathetic woman who can't cope with a bit of broken sleep. Also, I am back to work in 20 days and just can't risk this carrying on then, it will kill me to hear her and be that sleep deprived at work, even if DH is actually getting up to her! Plus my poor pupils will suffer if I can't stay awake to teach them.
So, fingers crossed....and even if it doesn't work I will be honest about it and you can use my experience to inform your own views if you like :)