How to stay awake during night feeds part 6 - all welcome to join us!

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Hi everyone, cannot believe we have exchanged over 5000 messages!

mrsn when we shared our locations on here a while back, heff, goat and I all turned out to live near Uxbridge so we met up having met on here. It is lovely, if you are ever down south let us know!

macaroons sounds like we are in the same boat I officially return to work on 15 Feb but that is actually the Friday before half term so only have that day and then another week off before full time return hits. I am lucky that DH is being a SAHD til 1st July so no drop offs, pick ups or worries about the childminder ringing me because babyfunch is ill etc, and she is in great hands with him, much as I have been critical of him til we talked it over recently. However I am worried about being at work on no sleep - I will get in a lot of trouble if I lose my rag with a pupil or indeed a member of my team (one of whom is a pain). I will have to perfect the art of letting some things go (eg uniform issues in the corridor as opposed to in my lessons - I spend a lot of time arguing with pupils about these and intend to stop save for the very worst!) and dealing with others by just reporting bad behaviour to heads of year rather than dealing with it myself. I am head of faculty so will focus just on what happens in lessons in my faculty rather than working quite so hard on having the best corridor behaviour in the school in my area - it is great having that but takes a lot of time, energy and conflict so it will just have to go n the back burner until I am getting proper sleep again. At this rate dd will be in year 7 by then herself and can help me!

*lone not line

Eek heff big decision! For me it would depend how good the job is, if its perfect & another opportunity might it come along soon then its well worth some careful consideration. 4 hours is a long journey tho. He can always go for interview then decide after.

I reckon ill end up co sleeping again :( I really don't want to but a part of me is thinking I should do whatever I can to get sleep really with 2 of them to look after? But I can hear a voice in my head DM's you're making a rod for your own back.
Then part of me thinks the more I keep doing it the more he's getting use to it. What's the general opinion?

Had some lovely cuddles with DD tonight & she's been a good girl at bedtimes for me. X

Hard decision Heff! If it was me I wouldn't want to live away from hubby but a) I'm a wimp and b) I don't live near my mum and dad so I would probably feel differently if I was living with them! What does your heart say?

Ow. Teeth. That's all I can say.

Hi

Thats a big decision to make heff, I am currently on my own right now while dh works abroad and we save up some money for all of us to relocate to there, it isn't easy I can say but when I read your post and that you are living at home with your parents and that you should see your dh every weekend and have some toddler free weekends I was like hell yeah woman!!!! especially if it would mean you could live in Cornwall.

Now I will add a warning in that I am so used to my abnormal lifestyle I could probably cope with near enough anything and i do know that normal people in normal situations with normal husbands might I don't know think normally and not choose the abnormal situation

dunno if the above makes sense sorry a bit dozy on it

How did the transfer go chilli?

Hope you haven't got thrush Mrsn, its bad enough down below so dread to imagine what it must be like on your nipples!!

dark sounds like a real dilemma, personally I'd try not to worry or think too much about it until he was actually offered the job, easier said than done though! Also if you don't go back to your job for a certain amount of time you have to pay some of you mat leave pay back.

Good luck for tonight everyone! Baby larle is currently tucked up in Moses basket. He was a month old yesterday, where does the time go?

1 hour in Moses basket and he is awake, why do I bother?

Arg can't believe I'm still up having out babylump to bed at 7 :(

We're trying again to get her in the crib so I can sleep in my actual bed, fed at 7 and she went down til 9, then ever since its been transfer failure after transfer failure. Thought I'd cracked it at 11, literally just dropping off then she wakes up again.

Thanks for your advice all, tooodle I like your enthusiasm!

Transfer number eight billion and twelve coming up...

Dark, I don't know what to say re job decision, in a way though, you know it'd only be a temporary thing so if the job is a good prospect could you have it in your head you'd only have x months to do this. I know a couple who lived like that for 12 months, him commuting to London on a Monday and coming home Friday. It's tough though living apart esp with children in the mix.

Boys are both emitting dark green snot, have just had a 'big' bottle and boy 1 is currently at the boob! I may not be going back to sleep yet! Bah.

heff Can't really add much beyond what's already been said, but it's clearly a tough decision. I have some friends who also did the mon-fri thing and others where one has gone ahead to other country first. It seems that as long as it's a mutual decision and you have a date when you'll be together again, it can work fine.

look Hope your two settle. Babybrain currently has a cold which makes breathing and feeding at the same time tricky. We used a snot sucker which helped, but is so gross .

amey meh if co-sleeping works to get peace and sleep then I'd do it. I'm not sure that it necessarily makes for problems later...

Transfer time. Please sleep long, little boy...

First bottle here... I'm nodding off as I feed him so there's no chance ill have the energy for ssh pat in the wee hours! Even tho I'm up a lot less than when bf I actually feel more tired if that makes sense, I reckon your hormones must help with bf.

I'm wondering whether to take my little nocturnal feeder swimming Tomo afternoon, see if he sleeps/feeds any better.....! X

Hi back again, stitch sleeping since 7.30pm, fed twice since then. She didn't eat much this evening so I am expecting more wakes to feed. Just hoping not to repeat the case coughing/vomiting tonight.

brain sorry to hear your teeth are hurting you :( Even grosser than the snot sucker is sucking it yourself (DH is the master at this!).

MrsN glad you are feeling slightly better today.

Amey, Chilli, Larle, Dark Sending successful transfer vibes your way.

Look hope you get some sleep soon.

Of to sleep while I can...

Thanks stitch and brain. Boy boths protesting about going down. Been feeding now (including ebm bottle) for 2 hours! I know this is what they're supposed to do to get milk supply up but seriously!! yawns

Got a snot sucker but not used it yet.

Both boys NOT boy boths

WTAF was I thinking?!

Thanks stitch but many unsuccessful transfers here, given up and he Is back in our bed although currently being cuddled/jiggled back to sleep. Iwi'm going to have some fab arm muscles!
brain we're using a saline nasal spray as baby larle is sounding like he might be getting bunged up, I love my son but I'm not sure I could suck snot out of his nose!

And we are feeding again. Knew it.

I'm still at it! Boy 1 has been screaming when not being fed or held. DP changed his bum after the bottle at 11:30 and I'm not sure what he did but I've had to change his clothes twice since, I thought the first time it was just an error, but just picked up boy 1 again and he was wet, was the nappy itself that was wet - on the outside! And I've had to turn the cot mattress around as there is a wet patch and I'm not hunting for covers at this time, especially when the boys take up less than half of the mattress so will be nowhere near the wet area and I'd probably wake DP up and be right royally sarcastic with him over it when he might not have done anything wrong.

I need to get better nicknames than boy 1 and boy 2. Boy 2 is sleeping, no doubt to wake as soon as 1 has gone to sleep.

I'd love to be sleeping like DP.

De ja vu all over again - every 2 hours. Ffs he's 5 months old on Friday, I must be doing something wrong but I can't figure out what it is. Sorry not to name check, can barely keep my eyes open.

Awake again, bouncing up and down in cot. Hope she falls asleep on the boob.

There are no rules Chilli, some babies just don't sleep. Stitch is 11 months old now. Her sister was worse and still fed multiple times a night until she was 20 months old. It is not anything you are doing.

second wakeup here . babyfunch is wailing for no reason. she sounds really tired so I think she is just protesting against sleep but just as she goes a bit quiet she suddenly starts up again a minute later. she has been fed soooo much she must be fit to burst so it's not that. may resort to calpol!

geek welcome and yy to the resentment...I go back to work on 25 Feb and DH is taking paternity leave so I get to pay him back (need to learn to snore quickly).

heff wow! Decisions! I lived in the Philippines for 8 months just a few weeks after I got together with DH but somehow it worked out . but obviously very very different with DCs. I agree with others who said if it is really a perfect perfect job then consider it seriously but do what your heart tells you.

goat hope you are feeling well again
mrsn I hope your boob situation is not thrush!

marbles I feel exactly the same in the small hours...I am amazed that I can cope as well as I do in the daytimes but am ready to just run off to a hotel some nights

However I have a girls' weekend away this w/e and I cannot wait....the thought is keeping me sane.

babyfunch is wailing slightly less frequently and I am just sitting here, not shh patting any more as she wails when I do it! So would it be wrong to go back to bed now? not sure she even knows I am here!

amey you may make a rod for your back etc if you cosleep but really what is the alternative? you need to sleep! is baby old enough for sleep training (yes, I am harsh, a non-sleeping baby has made me that way!)

If we ate still having problems as severe as now when she is 6 months it's controlled crying all the way. She already has a 3 minute cry before many daytime naps, it is the only way she seems to be able to get to sleep! So I figure I may as well try the same at night. Only thing stopping me now is the disturbance to DH and the fact everyone says she is too young

Hello again.

The (future) in laws are helping me out over the next few days. I have a feeling they'll get here and I'll go back to bed with the boys!

Still up. Stitch is strapped into the buggy watching my secret weapon lullaby video. Had to lift the blinking buggy over the stair gate to get it in the front room, but at least now if I fall asleep on the sofa she can't injure herself.

Thought I was having a better night. First feed after midnight for the first time in weeks, then 2 1/2 hours later. Then an hour later With a transfer fail. Then, ready to attempt transfer again and discove mahoosive wet patch in wadded sleeper Don't know how is missed it but probably explains transfer fail or even hour stint. Anyway required full change That said, she has settled down again quite quickly, after the very cute story she was telling me while being changed Getting quite sick of leaking nappies though; tis the third in four nights!! Not helping the situation! Have had to swaddle as sleeping bags and walk in sleeper now all at various stages if laundry.

Heff, could you go with your DH for the remainder of your mat leave as you'd be liviing with your in laws anyway as you live with your parents now? Then if you have to go back to your job, you can reduce the amount if time spent apart. (Sorry if that's completely unhelpful, I can't remember the details of the situation, will check in the morning).

Not ignoring everyone else but going to attempt transfer while the going seems good.

Up again, AIBU when I say I hate dh when I'm up all night and he is asleep?