How to stay awake during night feeds part 6 - all welcome to join us!

[funchum8am]

Hi everyone, cannot believe we have exchanged over 5000 messages!

mrsn when we shared our locations on here a while back, heff, goat and I all turned out to live near Uxbridge so we met up having met on here. It is lovely, if you are ever down south let us know!

macaroons sounds like we are in the same boat I officially return to work on 15 Feb but that is actually the Friday before half term so only have that day and then another week off before full time return hits. I am lucky that DH is being a SAHD til 1st July so no drop offs, pick ups or worries about the childminder ringing me because babyfunch is ill etc, and she is in great hands with him, much as I have been critical of him til we talked it over recently. However I am worried about being at work on no sleep - I will get in a lot of trouble if I lose my rag with a pupil or indeed a member of my team (one of whom is a pain). I will have to perfect the art of letting some things go (eg uniform issues in the corridor as opposed to in my lessons - I spend a lot of time arguing with pupils about these and intend to stop save for the very worst!) and dealing with others by just reporting bad behaviour to heads of year rather than dealing with it myself. I am head of faculty so will focus just on what happens in lessons in my faculty rather than working quite so hard on having the best corridor behaviour in the school in my area - it is great having that but takes a lot of time, energy and conflict so it will just have to go n the back burner until I am getting proper sleep again. At this rate dd will be in year 7 by then herself and can help me!

Thanks amey, can i ask how old baby bee is?

MrsN I'm so sorry you are feeling so down, we are here and happy to listen. When i suffered depression it really helped. Sending huge hugs, be gentle with yourself.

Baby lil had a very chilled day with lots of sleep. Think she does need more as she is much happier, not sure what that will mean for tonight though. Doing bedtime feed atm and she seems very sleepy as usual so fingers crossed.

See you in a few hours

Hi all, stitch asleep since 8.30pm. It was dd1 was the one playing up tonight, excited because her cousin is staying for the weekend.

:( MrsN , not good about the tooth. Brownie points to your DH though, hope they cheered you up a bit, along with the baby sick in the early that is! You will feel better soon and little man is lucky to have a mummy that loves him as much as you clearly do x

susie, remember your hormones are changing too, they will even out soon. Babyloo sounds like he is doing really well and your DH is now understanding what it has been like for you

Darkside/Heff have pm'ed funch to try and organise a meet sometime.

see you later on, I have Thorntons chocolate brownies if anyone needs a midnight snack to see them through :)

stitch choc brownies?!!!
mrsn the shoes sound fab! Can we have a description? I am a shoe fanatic who can't wait to have another opportunity to wear heels... [bsmile] and [bsad] about the tooth but think how much better you will feel afterwards.
susie I'm sorry stopping bfing is so hard at the moment, I really sympathise. As others have said you will still be the one his eyes go to first, and there will be other ways that your relationship will be special. (I actually quite like the middle of the night feed at the moment, it feels like ours - this is not to say I live all the other wakings/transfer fails!!)
Tonight going better so far so fingers crossed... DH is away so I am letting Kid self settle more as tonight it is more mumblings than screaming [bhmm] (am also always worried about DH getting enough sleep for work) and he is doing rather well, bless him! (May not feel this fond if it all goes horribly wrong after this feed!)

First wake, she was bouncing up and down on her knees in her cot when I went in to get her. Thought she was going to get all excited and stay awake for bit when she saw dh (she fell asleep before he got home from work), but she just kicked him a bit while I fed and now she is sleep feeding. Phew!

mrsn sorry to hear about the tooth I have had all four out in two batches of two and was surprised how much less bad it was than I expected. Hopefully it will be the same for you. Big hugs!

First feed just finished so back later to finish namechecking!

First feed. Was hoping baby lil would go longer as instead of going down at 10 as usual she cried until she got more boob and went to sleep at well after 11 - I at least thought this would mean she would wake later :(

Goat I'm always worried about Dh getting enough sleep. It makes it hard to leave them for a bit to see if they really are hungry or just waking through habit/something else.

Hope the night is going well for others x

First feed here, I was in such a deep sleep it was hard to get my eyes open!!

Thank you guys yea I'm dreading the tooth, I'm such a wimp despite numerous tattoos and piercings!! The shoes are black suede with black Matt around the outside and then red diamanté toes. My dress is black and white and I had decided to get my nails done red so it's really thoughtful of him.

Right I hope this is a quick transfer!

goat I know what you mean about enjoying this middle of the night feed! Obviously I want sleep but I love this closeness with him. He's asleep on me now and I'm just enjoying a cuddle before attempting a transfer which will fail and in an hour or so we'll just get into the big bed with DH! Am beginning to wonder why I bother even attempting the transfer as could just get extra sleep instead!

Second feed, so tired and snowed in. Sorry no name check, can hardly keep eyes open

Second feed.

It's quiet on here tonight, hope that means there is lots of sleeping going on.

Not really thought much about bf but after reading about how tough it is to stop i realised i would really miss it. It can be a pain - literally - but when it's just me and baby lil it's also lovely and amazing to think she is living solely off me!
Susie hope you are ok and your milk quickly lessens

oops posted too soon

Susie i can't remember the name but my friend was told to take something used for diahorrah (sp) which basically dehydrates you by her mum. She only took one a day and said it worked well to dry up her milk quickly. Don't think it is recommend by docs any more but thought I'd mention it in case you're interested.

I was going to finish namechecking but I am afraid I have completely gone blank on what I was going to say even after rereading posts...sorry just sooo tired.

DH and I are sharing night duty at the pils place but had to resort to putting white noise on and letting her do her usual few minutes of crying to get back to sleep when she woke earlier. I realise we have come to have a bit of a scream as part of her going back to sleep routine - nothing else works (i even fed her when normally I wouldn't to try to avoid disturbing the PILs but she fed then screamed anyway!). she seems to need to do it to settle herself...that is weird isn't it?? I presume it means she is overtired but if so why wake up?? Child of Doom.

Anyway this wakeup was for a feed and I am hoping she will feed to sleep and no shouty time. FIL gets up at 6 anyway, and it is his bloody early riser gene she has inherited so not so bad if she is noisy now

Escaping to see Les Mis later, can't wait!

hope everyone is sleeeeeping!

Second feed - please, please don't be up time!!

It is quiet tonight, I hope it's because of lots of sleep too!

Second feed, she slept from my last post until 5am! That is one 4.5 hour and one 4 hour stretch. Haven't had that in 6 months. Unfortunately she is now wide awake, so we have decamped to the front room to allow dh to get a well deserved lie in. He can relieve me in a bit so I can go back to bed.

Morning all been too tired to type last few nights so going to re read now I can focus and post an update - nothin ground breaking to report, little progress

Hi all

sorry haven't been about as much, the last bout of infected wisdom tooth really took it out of me I am still trying to build up my energy. Lil pip was really sick this week with a urine infection so he has been on anti biotics and might need a scan, I was so worried I actually more or less watched him for a full 48 hours non stop, its awful when children are sick.

How is every one else, welcome to all the new members, congrats on the twins look thats amazing that you are feeding them yourself

I have had my app with my counseller, useless in one word she basically had printed off and read my own textbook back to me and didn't seem interested in giving me another app, but I got her to give me one anyway, although I don't know what she will do to fill the time has anyone else been to a counsellor, I thought she would have at least been a bit interested in my issues ah well!

When are you getting your wisdom teeth out MrsN, I need mine done too I am such a chicken but my dentists has said he won't give me anymore anti biotics

sorry for not name checking everyone I will try and come back later on

toodle big hugs, you have had an incredibly rough time . Hope things start looking up now. Honestly with the teeth I was amazed within a week that it had ever been such an issue as all the soreness they had been causing was just gone and I can't even remember it properly now. It might not be so straightforward for everyone but it may well be ok compared to what you expect...not sure if that is helpful, sorry if not!

Luckily we got back to sleep after last feed, he then woke at ten past 7 but hubby took him for a couple of hours which was lovely. Unfortunately it hasn't made me feel any better but I won't go on about that.

toodle I'm not sure, they are sending out a letter. I'm dreading it but the specialist said it is better if it comes out so I will follow his advice.

I hope you are feeling better today susie

Hello all [bgrin] babyloo is back to his usual happy smiley self and is wolfing down bottles like he has discovered an amazing new drink that he thinks is the best thing ever. My boobs have gone down and I'm not going to express again so hopefully they will start to go back to normal. Last night was loads better than the first non boob night - asleep by 6.20 and first waking at 1 but he took a bottle straight away of dp, awake again at 3 and that took longer to settle him but he wasn't distressed, just awake - he then woke up at 7.20. We are going to start a gradual process of trying to push his bed time to a bit later - nearer 7 being the aim but this does depend on how much he naps in the day because if he is over tired he is a nightmare between 5-6 as it is.

Dp has turned into the frikkin baby whisperer. He took his clothes off downstairs before getting into bed last night so that he didn't disturb babyloo and also oiled all the hinges on the kitchen cupboards because it is really loud in babyloo's room if anyone opens one apparently, he told me off for using my phone in the night because it was distracting babyloo and i'm not allowed to talk in the night in case it disturbs his feeds. He is using my reading head torch set to red to feed him because it creates a calm ambiance!!! He is doing all the night feeds tonight again and I am going to quaff wine all by myself and not limit myself to my usual 2 3 glasses - i'm very excited about it!!

Toodle I've seen a few counselors over the years which varying degrees of success - could you perhaps see someone else? I saw one a few years ago re bereavement and for six sessions all he talked about was the 5 stages of grief - i deal with people's grief all the time at work so was well versed and in fact had been on loads of training courses about grief which I tried to tell him but it was like he couldn't think of anything else to say!! I've seen others that have been more useful though.

Hope you all have a good night - will check back in tomorrow and will be posting again when I start back on night feeds, we want babyloo to carry on with dp for the time being until he gets in a routine.

susie really pleased things are getting better! Some things DO actually pass after all! Wetting myself at your DP's newfound confidence as a parent! Love that now he is feeding babyloo the noisy hinges are worth fixing!

Just been to see Les Mis on my Tod, leaving babyfunch with DH and PILs. I could only manage to express 2.5oz before I went, and as we are away from home no access to my freezer stash, so DH ended up having to give her 1oz of formula as she was still hungry after the ebm. I feel a bit sad about this but we were looking to introduce formula a few weeks ago and managed to delay a bit as fennel tea helped my supply increase so I was able to express bm for one bottle feed a day. so I can't complain and in fact am quite relieved the decision was made when I wasn't involved really. so now I know she likes it I can relax about trying to express quite so much, especially for my return to work, plus I can join susie on the third glass of vino !

Bet it was nice to get out funch! Great that baby funch will take a bottle!

Susie - what's baby lous naps like? Baby bee still has 3 usually, so last one is at 4/5pm, can't remember when they drop that last one.

We've been a bit bored today, loads of snow so walked to pub for lunch then built snowman in garden. But the afternoon dragged a bit (I even hoovered!).

Feel a bit weird about work, a colleague text me & there is a possibly career development opportunity I could apply for but its an 18 month hardcore postgrad course (friends who've done it did so pre baby and found it very tough) my friend thinks I should def apply to be considered and I feel I should but at the same time I don't think its possible with 2 kids - feel like I should be jumping at it but I don't think I'd cope - would be sept. but this opportunity is very very rare in our dept. DH thinks I should show interest, as they will interview all intrested & I can turn down if necessary. X

Bloody awful day here. I have a headache from crying so much. On my own with little man tonight as hubby has a night out, two of my work friends came round earlier but I haven't told them about how i'm feeling so I'm shattered from putting on an act. Well will this end.

Susie I'm so glad you have had some success. Enjoy your wine and a whole nights sleep!!

Hope you are enjoying Ronan Heff! He tweeted before and I thought of you.

Amey are you going to WW meetings or doing it on your own? I don't know whether to go on Tuesday. I might not be able to anyway as I have students coming round to talk to me, but if I can I'm not sure if I will.

Hope everyone else has had a good day.

Hi all.

Grandma and Grandpa Marbles are here! Yay!!! They're only staying one night but it is so good to see them Just doing bedtime feed, waiting for pizza to arrive and then bringing out the card games. DD1 not the only one excited

Susie, like Funch, I am also wetting myself at your DP Good on him for getting so proactive in all this! Glad things are going better too.

Encouraging about little Funch taking formula; we are going to introduce one bottle of f on a night as I will be returning to night shifts in April. Hopefully Missmarbles will be sleeping through by then. It's why I took out of hours in the first place [bconfused]

Amey definitely apply. You don't have to take it if you don't want when the time comes, but if you don't apply, you don't have that choice.

Tooodle poor you. Hope you're feeling much better soon.

Huge hats off to twin mums breast feeding[bgrin]!!!

mrsn I wish I had a magic wand to make you feel better I hope your evening turns out to be peaceful and calm.

We've just had 2 hours of screaming here, I'm not sure if he's overtired or teething or what but he's nor settling and I'm not very hopeful for a pleasant night.

Gutted I missed chocolate brownies last night but have I virtual lamingtons in honour of Australia Day (cos I'm an Aussie)

amey I also think you should apply, much easier to turn it down than regret you didn't take the chance.

funch and susie am envious of your vino, please have a glass for me.

lamington link for those who don't know