How to stay awake during night feeds part 6 - all welcome to join us!

[funchum8am]

Hi everyone, cannot believe we have exchanged over 5000 messages!

mrsn when we shared our locations on here a while back, heff, goat and I all turned out to live near Uxbridge so we met up having met on here. It is lovely, if you are ever down south let us know!

macaroons sounds like we are in the same boat I officially return to work on 15 Feb but that is actually the Friday before half term so only have that day and then another week off before full time return hits. I am lucky that DH is being a SAHD til 1st July so no drop offs, pick ups or worries about the childminder ringing me because babyfunch is ill etc, and she is in great hands with him, much as I have been critical of him til we talked it over recently. However I am worried about being at work on no sleep - I will get in a lot of trouble if I lose my rag with a pupil or indeed a member of my team (one of whom is a pain). I will have to perfect the art of letting some things go (eg uniform issues in the corridor as opposed to in my lessons - I spend a lot of time arguing with pupils about these and intend to stop save for the very worst!) and dealing with others by just reporting bad behaviour to heads of year rather than dealing with it myself. I am head of faculty so will focus just on what happens in lessons in my faculty rather than working quite so hard on having the best corridor behaviour in the school in my area - it is great having that but takes a lot of time, energy and conflict so it will just have to go n the back burner until I am getting proper sleep again. At this rate dd will be in year 7 by then herself and can help me!

Hello everyone, on third feed here, punctuated by excessive farting so I am hoping she will be a little more settled from now on.

Welcome chocolate :) Everytime I try to get to sleep stitch wakes and then I can't get back to sleep easily. Typical isn't it, when you finally get the chance to sleep you don't feel sleepy.

susieloo it gets easier to leave them with time, glad babyloo is getting better x

Amey if you are not taking post-natal vitamins try to get some vitamin d3 into you as many of us are deficient in the UK due to lack of sunlight needed between Oct and April. Deficiencies in certain vitamins and minerals (like selenium) can exacerbate depression x

Mmm cake goat what I wouldn't do for some of that right now, need to go shopping tomorrow.

Well done MrsN!

Hope your meeting goes well tomorrow funch

Right must get to sleep, I have felt horrible today, glands all swollen, temperature, cough. I need to recharge to help me fight it off.

Things were going a bit better tonight with no waking til 0030, feed, slept til 0230. However this one saw some screaming so I gave her some calpol, held her til asleep and dummy fell out with no adverse reaction and transferred. Cue wide awake baby and more screaming in response to shh pat . So now she is in the cot fondling my hand and I am singing twinkle twinkle on a loop....she may go to sleep to escape the noise

Welcome choc!

Thanks for the good luck wishes for tomorrow It will do me good to get off my chest.

Went to see our local priest to get a letter giving permission for babyfunch to be baptized in another parish (the one where DH grew up in the midlands...he was an altar boy there, bless). Got a really quite tedious talk about the ceremony, and how we would be asked to renounce the Prince of Darkness....since I have apparently given birth to the Queen of the Night that could be tricky . DH is Catholic, I am an atheist (who teaches quite a lot of RE!). Will be weird having to be part of the ceremony but I want her to have the outline of a Catholic upbringing so she can be fully religious if she wants when she is older this is extremely unlikely with me as her mother and can just as easily dump it all and become an atheist. DH only goes to church at Christmas himself but his parents still go so it means a lot to them that I agreed to get married in church and have our children baptised so I have some brownie points there too! plus they are laying on a fancy cream tea at a hotel afterwards and the cream scones look lush.

(hope my slightly irreverent attitude to religion isn't offensive to anyone!)

Third feed at 3.00 very pissed off by transfer fail and subsequent singing Thought we were going to have self settle but then screaming began, not til half an hour later though. Now on my knee mesmerised by iPhone screen, listening to Ewan and rubbing eyes. Asleep by 4? I bloody wish!

We are on third feed and fourth wake up-after a day at work and working tomorrow and babyloo refused a bottle before bed-bleugh.

Second feed, one hungry boy tonight!
stitch hope you feel better soon.
funch each to their own with religion! I want to get baby larle baptized but I am not a regular church goer so not sure if we'll have to start going!

larle we don't go to church and they don't seem to mind!

Third waking, second feed here. I have been awake since 2:30 as couldn't bloody drop off when she did about 3:15. Hrr.

Really sorry to hear you too are suffering susie and marbles

Susie, what light show do you use? Anyone else use one and what do you recommend? We have one but its crap as it freezes all the time. I got it of eBay so irritated but thankfully didn't pay a lot. Would like a decent one though as can definitely see the benefit.

Have had to feed again
Feel so peed off because I'm awake but look at Missmarbles and am thankful she's here, and know u wont be so pissed off at 7.30. Daylight seems to make it not so bad....

We're having baby small baptised too funch, I need to go and see our vicar for the same letter as it'll be at my parents home not our local. We don't go to church either but I want him christened ! My dad is using it as an excuse for a big party though and is busy inviting everyone he knows which I'm a but cross about. I only want people we know there not loads of unknowns although if they bring good gifts perhaps I don't mind.............!
This is our first feed since 11 so a good stretch. He's been in our bed, I think that's just what we do now, hope I haven't created a bad habit but his sleep is so much better. Going to try putting him in his cot now but know it will fail and we'll just go back to the big bed!
amey sorry to hear you are struggling. I have no experience and can't help but everyone on here is so supportive, we'll help where we can.

Fail

Can I just ask, not being judgey or deliberately offensive, just curious, why are you doing christenings if you don't believe/go to church?

Hi all, been lurking for a while but always been too tired to post. DS is 16 weeks, bottle refuser & wakes every hour since Xmas. I really can't take much more. DD is 2.5 so no rest during the day.

Oh this is killing me :( Feeds at half 12, 3 and 5 and now she's yelling so I've had to get up and feel like I'm going to fall over :(

Those of you who's LOs are older than babylump how long did your 4 month sleep regression go on for?

funch I forgot to ask how baby funch took to being in her own room? Unfortunately not yet an option for us and babylump will be sharing with dd1 so don't want to move her until she's reliably not making too much noise at night, I struggle enough with one awake I think its finish me off if dd1 woke up too!

Welcome new posters :)

Off to scoff a few choc digestives to keep me going, see you all later.

marbles I didn't say I don't believe. We don't go to church but I do believe. We were married in the church he'll be christened in and we are both christened and I want baby small to be too.

marbles we had a transfer fail at 4 that went on for a hundred and fifty years until 5am dp disappeared to the sofa after I deliberately woke him up being loud and stroppy. Our projector is by homedics and I got it from amazon and its called a luxury spa sound machine or something like that-it was quite expensive but it has worked more often than not. I've also found that giving him a muslin to play with or suck on when he won't settle, also works to some degree.

No, I know you didn't, Small. It was really just a general, genuine question as to why people who don't go to church, or don't believe, do christenings, that's all. I don't think not going to church and not believing are synonymous either DH and I are both committed Christians and go to church regularly, (but not religiously, if that makes sense, although he has to because he's a minister ), but we didn't have DD1 and won't be having DD2 christened. I guess I'm just nosy curious about people's decision process; I wasn't being judgey but I realise typed questions like that often appear that way

Ah yes, Susie! Magic muslins are the business!!

Morning ladies - a miracle happened last night, little man slept from half 9 until after 8:30!! He woke me at 3 but he was crying in his sleep again and Ewan settled him. I've also noticed I wake up to listen to make sure he is breathing!

Sounds like there were some bad nights

Morning all. Just been doing a quick catch up. Terrible day yesterday with 15 min feeds every half hour, but night was good. I also have a Ewan thanks to my DBro, but she does not seem to like it atm, save for the harp on occasion. Have just spent last 2 hours, however, feeding on and off. I'm half showered, half dressed and my porridge is cold and well-congealed, but DD might just now have gone to sleep. Fingers crossed! See you later.

marbles I'm a Christian (my dh isn't), I don't go to church all the time but I don't think you have to to believe.
I want baby larle baptized in my local church as it is where I was baptized and married but also where we held my mums and both my grandads and my Nanas funerals so I would like some more good memories to associate with church. Also, probably sounds strange, but it feels wrong not getting him baptized, which is how I felt about getting married in church.
Baby larle just been in his papoose for the first time and fell asleep!

Little man weighs 14lb now at 18 weeks. Feel very proud. They also think he is teething even though he still might not get a tooth for a few months. We gave him Calpol before bed last night and they suggested teething gel before bed too. We ventured out in the snow, it wasn't too bad but we are not going out again.

Oh god awful day. Spectacularly bad naps. Have had plumber here all day fitting gas for new oven and he's totally messed up any routine we did have with his banging about. Poor baby small is so tired and i feel like the worst mum in the world for not being able to get him to sleep. he won't even sleep on me like he used to and we can't go out in the pram as there's a foot of snow on the ground and the car is impossible too. Dh keeps phoning to see how it's going and ask what's for his tea and what should he get from the supermarket. Feel like shouting that I don't bloody care. He could get pigs trotters and ice cream for all I care just don't phone me and ask me about it!!!!! Ok rant over. Glass of wine needed here!

Larle, that's what I meant, attending us not synonymous with believing; the two can be quite independent, although attending is supposed to be uplifting and encouraging.

Boo to workmen making a row Small You're not a bad mother for it though. Naps are a nightmare without banging going on.

Very if MrsN's super duper night. Good work on the weight too, Baby Pattz. Have given calpol tonight too, for tremendous grumping, hot, red cheeks and chewing everything she could get near, including high chair tray, table edge and our hands.

Very mrsnpatz can baby path speak to baby loup please?!

smallgreen sorry to hear of overtired baby, that's the worse. I was about to take baby loup out for an afternoon power walk stroll, pit her suit on and went to get the buggy out and found her asleep on the floor! Left her there but never in a million years would she normally fall asleep of I just put her On the floor!

Anyway, she's in her cot with Ewan, whining but hopefully going off to sleep soon..... Still having the hourly/2 hourly nighttime wakings

Hope all babies are behaving and sleep well

Definitely calls for large glass of vino small

We are on first feed of the night after dp managed to put him to bed with a bottle, he's just tried again now but he was getting really distressed so I'm feeding him, I was talking to my friends at work today and they all said I've got to get tougher and just not offer boob but I can't bear hearing him cry like that-I don't mind angry crying or tired crying but hate really distressed crying it breaks my heart so basically I'm going to breastfeeding for the rest of my life-well that's how it feels at the moment!! As much as I love feeding him I do really want to stop now. Dp has offered to take him to his mums for the night at the weekend to try and go cold turkey but not sure I can so it-arghhhhggg its all so difficult!!!

Hope everyone has a peaceful night, I'm getting in to bed in preparation for another night of 2 hourly wakings.