How to stay awake during night feeds - part 5

[MrsNPattz]

Here we are

goat thanks, I could but am worried about putting the car seat in!

We are putting the Moses basket in the big cot tonight to start getting him used to it as he will be too big for the basket soon!!

Bed time not going well so far.......

[Susieloo]

So sorry you are feeling so low mrsn we are here whenever you need to offload, I don't know what the issues are with your in laws but I know that it can be a tricky relationship and mine drive me round the bend sometimes (they live a five minute walk away so it is quite literally round the bend!) Really hoping you get some decent rest tonight, when I can't sleep I always try and think that at least I'm resting, it is really frustrating though. Keep posting, there's always one of us around!!

Hope you are feeling okay too amey.

Dp has redeemed himself by stocking the fridge full of mint aero bubbles, a huge orange aero bar and some reeses pieces, I am very easily won over!!

I have just got into bed after putting babyloo to bed at six ish and so far he has stayed fast asleep so fingers crossed he will go through until half eleven.

[Ameybee]

mrsn sorry you feel so rubbish. All I can say is that some days things feel a million times worse than they actually are! I have days where I cry and think everything's awful then the next day feel completely different! I feel guilty all the time too, think guilt is a right of passage into motherhood! Sleep may help tho, I can't cope very well on little sleep!

Thanks susie trying not to think too far ahead (very guilty of that - already thought about if he won't take a bottle etc etc)!

Snowing here . We are having pizza tonight too - awaiting its arrival!! X

[MiniPopsMum2012]

(I am two pages behind, as I was so shattered at 4am this morning I couldnt' see straight to post)

goat yes, we had snow - was so surprised when I woke up, had all gone by lunchtime though.

I'Ve been looking at other baby groups, but they all break up next week. Oooh Baileys and white choc fudge? Can you share recipe?

MrsN are you feeling any better? I saw the snow in Aberdeen as have family living in Aberdeen.

Welcome Magic and congrats...

Sounds like a lot of transfer fails last night, Boo

Amey whereabouts are you/where's it snowing? it's raining where I am.. sorry you're feeling crappy, but fingers crossed for better weight gain in a couple of weeks

Sorry that so many little ones are poorly, MiniPop is also coming down with another cold/cough sigh

Was up at 4am after a huge poonami, then had to try and convince MiniPop to go back to sleep, finally got him settled at just after 5am and then he was awake again at about half six... groan.

Really hoping for some more sleep tonight as I think I'm coming down with a cold too - double boo!

On the plus side I do have my first Baileys of the festive season, and the first one since finding out I was pregnant a year ago

[MrsNPattz]

Thanks susie and amey. I think the issues with my in laws have been building and building since little man was born and it all stems from not living near my family. When my family went home from visiting us when little man was born I was devastated and felt this tremendous guilt that I had moved so far away and that they wouldn't get to see him regularly. This has lead to resentment towards my in laws, to the point where I don't even want them to see little man and I feel panicky when I think about it. The thought of leaving him with MIL makes me cry. And it's so awful because it's not their fault - MIL does drive me crazy on an every day level but she has a heart of gold and it's not my intention to stop them seeing little man. So you see I'm not sure how to fix it. Me and hubby have just had a big heart to heart where I have told him how I am feeling, he's obviously hurt that I feel like that towards his family but knows that it's not me being nasty or deliberately trying to make things difficult. I think it's a big step that I have actually been honest with him. The next step is speaking to my health visitor, she has been wonderful but is on leave until Monday so that will have to wait until then. I think things have been building and building and mixed with my ill health has all got on top of me. I promise once I start feeling better I will try and be much less self indulgent! And amey you are right, I will probably feel better tomorrow!

In foody news I have brought a huge box of Thornton's chocs upstairs with me! And finished off a bar of Cadbury Oreo chocolate today which I can highly recommend! xx

[MrsNPattz]

And goat yes the white choc and baileys fudge does sound amazing!

Hi mini!

[elvislives2012]

Sorry it's so shit ATM mrsn. Sounds like the mastitis was final straw. I have same issues with in laws as my parents love further away and it's more of an issue for then to get here. Whenever my MIL pops in, I always feel bad that my parents can't do the same. I think talking to your HV is a good idea, just to get done more support. And MN is always here too!
DH started work today so first day on my own and I was really pleased. Managed to drive, work the car seat and meet people for lunch on time! Wo hoo

[Ameybee]

We are in sheffield mini! Yep fingers crossed he settles and piles on some lbs, I probably will - just eaten an entire medium sized pizza!

I think how you feel is understandable mrsn especially if you're close with your parents. My MIL sees more of DS because they live a bit closer & her other grandchildren have moved to Sweden whereas my parents have 3 other grandchildren who they also look after, so sometimes I feel bad when I tell my mum that MIL has been over again. My parents still see DD and DS usually every other week or more but I still feel like I want my parents to see them more?! That might sound selfish I know!
Perhaps you could explain to your own mum how you feel? I'm sure she would reassure you. Maybe you could make regular plans to meet up every so often so you have that to look forward to? We use FaceTime a lot with my parents too, which seems bizarre as they see them so much anyway but I like them to see them every other day! Xx

[funchum8am]

mrsn I am so sorry to hear you are feeling low at the moment. It is not your fault you are not near your family, you have made the best decision for your circumstances. I am four hours from my family, whereas my brother, SIL and my niece live next door to my dad and step mum. I am jealous of how nearby they all are but DH would just die if we lived very close to them...they get on but he finds them best in small doses! They adore him though. And I chose to live down south for work, but even so it is hard them not seeing babyfunch very often. Though my mum has just retired so has been here a few times which was lovely for me...think dh is hoping for fewer visits in future though!

On the other hand my in laws are even further away so not quite the same as your situation but I know what you mean about feeling guilty when family visits are over

[Goatbongohohoandjinglejingle]

mrsn sorry to hear that things are so tough at the moment - you have really been in the wars. I really do sympathise abut the family/in laws dilemma, as I share it, my mother living as she does literally on the other side of the world! And she does not have Skype (despite heavy agitating from me) so she has not even seen her only grandson yet. I don't like telling her that the in-laws have been over yet sgwin. Well done for talking to your DH though, and I hope he understands.
Here is the fudge recipe I added more baileys at the end of cooking so the taste was stronger.

[MrsNPattz]

It really is amazing to think that I have been feeling so incredibly alone and guilty about the way I have been feeling, when in fact my situation is not unique and others feel exactly the same! That in itself makes me feel better. I feel guilty telling my mum and dad that i have seen the in laws, and it's comforting to know that i'm not alone in that. Thank you so so much for all of your kind words, your support is much appreciated.

I have a little scamp who won't go to sleep hence why I have been posting so much and not trying to sleep.

Thanks for the recipe goat!

[blonderthanred]

mrsn sorry you have been feeling so crappy, I think we all have those sorts of worries - I worry about my in-laws not being able to spend time with us due to distance but then when they visit I worry about my mum not feeling needed or welcome... I am a worrier anyway but the baby has ramped things up a notch, I'm sure all the exhaustion/hormones/guilt sends us doolally. Wishing you all the best.

Well my DS has been feeding almost constantly since 9.30am, just a few short breaks and only a couple of dozes all day. I'm hoping this means he is either working out day and night or having a growth spurt (or both). 6 weeks tomorrow!

[Ameybee]

God I am sick to death of transfer fails!!! Currently boobing him back to sleep!! Wish you could levitate them from boob to cot, one of these sleepless nights I'm going to invent something like a scoop for transfers, a scoop and slide - sclide ill call it, if it worked i'd make millions , or a detachable boob that fastened to the cot - I'm getting delirious now. X

[MiniPopsMum2012]

amey at 'boobing back to sleep'
MrsN sorry you're feeling like this, glad you've discussed with other half though.

Thanks for reciprocal goat sounds deliciously, gonna make some Timor or over the weekend..

I've also discovered coconut lattes, oooooh yum. Bet that'd go nice within the fudge. Nom Nom Nom xx

[MiniPopsMum2012]

HElvis that's an impressive list :) it took me a while to get my driving confidence up. Have you got one of those bear view mirrors?

[Goatbongohohoandjinglejingle]

amey if you invent your sclide, along with the millions I think you'd get canonisation!
minipop recipe doesn't say how long to soft ball stage - is about 45 mins. Enjoy!
*blonder st the thought of your LO pumping iron when you are not looking!

[Susieloo]

Attempting a dream feed after he woke himself up at ten and I woke up now so thought I would have a go.

I want a sclide.

I also want a coconut latte, where do they come from, please be a big national chain so I have an outside chance of getting one tomorrow, sounds very yummy.

[elvislives2012]

mini no mirror, I had her on the passenger seat next to me. It worked brilliantly as she had a major meltdown on the way
Second feed here. 3.5 hrs after the last one

[funchum8am]

Feeding again here. No sign of dh coming back from work Xmas do, and I think I have gone and left my phone in the car (typing this on the iPad - couldn't come to bed with no way of seeing this thread!) so if he is unable to get a taxi, or has got delayed for whatever reason, I have no idea. Have left a voicemail and Facebooked him about lack of phone but I do hope he is ok

I would love a sclide, amey! You should go on Dragons' Den!

Kit day went well - my difficult team member, the one who got a disciplinary a while back, has a new job elsewhere from sept so not too long til he is out of my hair. Plus I get to hire a new teacher which I love doing . And he will be happier too. I gave the childminder 10 oz of expressed milk in bottles which I thought was plenty for five hours but she guzzled the lot! I had also put in a carton of formula in case of emergency and cm only managed to avoid using it by giving her some cooled boiled water, which settled her. What a little chubbier babyfunch is! Off to google how much a baby should be feeding at 9 weeks as I am off out for the day on sat, leaving her with dh!

Good luck for transfers and sclide use everyone....

[funchum8am]

Dh home safe, just had a late one. He doesn't do it very often, bless him. Feeding again and trying to work out how the sclide will lift baby over the side of the cot...

[MissingMyBaubles]

Eyes stinging. Will have to read thread mané. Last night must've been a fluke. Up and hour after going to bed (8), then 12.30 and now. Doubt we'll get to morning.

[Goatbongohohoandjinglejingle]

Great new name there, baubles!
funch maybe like a crane arm for the sclide? (hey, my iPad recognises the word already! It's a sign!) and don't get too obsessed about weight... Was just thinking today how we really beat ourselves up over this, and hcps often help us do it - when we have perfectly happy, healthy babies!
Coconut latte and fudge? I think we're on a roll here!
Right. Five minutes to transfer. Countdown begins.

[Ameybee]

108th feed of night here (well that's how it feels) this every 2 hours thing is a killer! I can't keep doing it!

Yes goat I think some sort of silent crane would be required for the sclide, maybe I should make a prototype , ill get DH on it in the garage!

Coconut latte sounds amazing - I want one..... Now. Or a Malibu, hmm Malibu.

Sleepy dust everyone. X

[funchum8am]

Feeding again...she managed an hour from 3:20 to 4:20 which is an improvement ... Clutch at straws? Me?

Think the sclide needs a kind of forklift truck type design, maybe....

About to do transfer....of cake to my belly!!

[Goatbongohohoandjinglejingle]

Why is it that when the baby is born, all the pillows in the house suddenly acquire an alarm that tells said baby exactly when one's head hits the pillow slip after a feed? amey could you do something about an alarm disabler too, pretty please??

[Smallgreenone]

I want a sclide.
First feed here!!! Although second time I've been up. He grizzled at 3 which woke me and although he went back to sleep my boobs were so sore and hard I had to go and express. Very annoying.
mrsn I'm sorry you're feeling so low. I'm another one who has close in laws and far away parents, it is hard. And I cry some days too when I think I just can't cope, it's all the sleep deprivation I think!
All our snow has turned to rain. It's horrid.
Ready for transfer now, oh to have a sclide!