How to stay awake during night feeds - part 5

[MrsNPattz]

Here we are

goat thanks, I could but am worried about putting the car seat in!

We are putting the Moses basket in the big cot tonight to start getting him used to it as he will be too big for the basket soon!!

Bed time not going well so far.......

Glad you and dh had a heart to heart mrsn and I think sometimes its hard to snap out of things you just have to try and process it if that makes sense and then it starts to lift. Hope you feel a bit better as the day goes on.

Totally thought it was Sunday stuntnun!!! My weeks going to be all weird!!

I thought this was some New Years Day tradition Susie!

mrsn hope you're ok, does help to open up about how you feel sometimes! Well we are tidying up the house & I'm absolutely knackered , I hope babybee doesn't play up tonight, don't think I can take it! DH looks knackered too! DD back at nursery Tomo so we will have the day together, hoping we will get some rest. Really feel like we need some routine, driving me crackers! Little monkey is awful at naps today, unless in my arms! My mum tried @ was suprised at his resistance! X

Hi everyone

Has anyone been getting much sleep I guess we all wouldn't be here if we were

I was diagnosed with pnd yesterday and given sertraline have taken 1 but I didn't expect I would dont know whether to continue with them or not

Baby pip still giving me the run around re his naps and reflux. I have his cot raised to the poster who was asking but I don't think it makes any difference but when it's bad he likes to fall asleep on my shoulder

We still do ranitidine his dose is up to 1ml 3 times a day and if we could just crack the naps my life would be great he is so much easier in the evening if he has had proper long naps but today he hasn't so I'm prepared for meltdown well not prepared really I don't think anyone can prepare for it

Has anyone ever used the ad I mentioned above I'm really scared of using it and part of me thinks I don't need it but then I'm thinking just give it a go

Sorry for not name checking I'm useless I know

Mrsnpattz (sp) I hope you feel brighter soon

We stayed up for the bells last night and we all settled down at 2am where baby buzzy slept til 9.45am!!! I woke up like dolly parton. I'm assuming it was a one off from being passed to family members and staying awake.

We too are having nightmare feeds, he fussed so badly on my left its horrific. My boobs are feeling a bit bruised now which isn't pleasant. He definitely prefers my right side to feed. Very annoying.

It's DHS birthday today so we are having people over soon. I'm so tired, even after my massive sleep!

toodle I haven't been on that ad but was on citalopram after having DD. It helped me feel better and if you've been diagnosed then it may be best to take them. They take a while to work but when they do you'll feel yourself again :-)

Thanks guys - I'm still feeling flat, hopefully I will feel better tomorrow!

toodle I am taking Sertraline and have been since I was 20 weeks pregnant! And for the most part, I have been so much better (in fact all of the symptoms I was having then are gone, but am wondering if I need it increased as as you can see I'm still struggling a bit in other ways). If you have been prescribed them I would take them - you are obviously suffering if you have been diagnosed with PND and I am a great believer that they work! Thinking of you xx

Sorry you've been feeling low toodle I have to say I feel reassured that I'm not the only one!! I took citalopram first time round (after stopping bf). I need to see my gp sometime soon on advice of HV. I know I feel crap because of the sleep thing & I do feel better about getting him on bottle but I often have overwhelming feeling of being unable to cope. I feel bad for DH sometimes as I think I'm an emotional rollercoaster to live with!
I think you should take them if you've been prescribed them, I wished first time I had done it sooner. Xxx

Sorry to hear so many of us are feeling low but it is good that you have seen your GP toodle there are no medals for coping without help and your GP would not have prescribed anything that could do any harm so maybe give it a try and review once you have been taking them long enough to see if they help? My mum took ADs for a while for other reasons than PND but they helped her through a low patch and she has never looked back (came off after a few months.)

mrsn sorry to hear things are not how you want them right now with DH but it is a great sign that you are talking about it. We have just come out of a phase of lots of bickering and I think I was largely to blame for treating him like he was no use at parenting, questioning him all the time about what he had done with DD when I wasn't in the room (eg "you have remembered to change her/put cream on her/put her in a sleep sack" and so on). We didn't exactly talk it through, more that I kind of heard myself speaking to him and woke up to how I was acting, so I apologised and now things are much better though I keep having to bite my lip when I think he might have forgotten something

What I think I mean is that recognising there is a problem and talking to each other is always going to be a first step to feeling better, in my experience at least. Will stop rambling now!

Not trying to say you are acting like I was though mrsn!!

funch thanks so much for your advice - I would say it is largely me that causes it too, I'm more snappy and have started to hear myself and feel ashamed. I have recently heard of Harry Benson's 'let stick together' - relationship advice for new parents. There is not a course near me but I have just downloaded his book!

First feed of the note which doesn't bode well, he has slept for a record 40 minutes in the day so not sure what to expect tonight. We spent the day at mils eating a Sunday but not Sunday roast and I had seconds I was so hungry. Babyloo behaved impeccably and has found a new noise which sounds a little like how I imagine dolphins talk to each other, it's v funny if a little ear splitting!!

I'm tempted to throw a blanket over his legs because he's not really warm enough with just his sleepsuit and a vest, can't fit anything else underneath it he's such a little chunk!!

Hope everyone has good nights and gets some sleep

funch and mrsn I am very similar in that respect. In my head no one can look after DS like I do, which is right in some respects but in others I need to hand the reins over & give myself a break & give DH a chance! now he is bottlefed largely i could go away for a night! I often feel very very irrationally irritated & could fall out with my own shadow, I manage to hide it quite well from DH ( we have discussed it) which is a symptom of PND too. Xxx at least we all understand how eachother feels sometimes! X

First feed at 9.30; first time on a while she's gone 3 hours from bedtime. Hoping this bodes well. DBro, SiL and Niece fly home tomorrow, and we travel back South too Have had such a nice time up here.

DH and I are watching Russell Crowe's Robin Hood before we go to bed, then we leave early tomorrow. Hope we all have good nights.

Sorry to hear you're struggling tooodle, I think the advice up thread is good advice. If you've been diagnosed then give the medication a try and hopefully it will help you out. You can always have a rethink after you've been taking it a while and can see what kind of effect it has had. Hope things improve for you soon.

mrsn that's great that you were able to talk to your DH about your problems, hopefully it's the start of things getting better.

to everyone feeling low at the moment, remember you are all doing the best you can for your precious babies and are all doing a fantastic job.

I'm feeling quite strange today, but in a good way. I've never really taken much notice of new year and all the fuss about resolutions etc but this year I really feel like things are changing, hopefully for the better. I've started my C2 5K training (first day was bloody hard but I got such a high once I finished!) and made a decision to sort out my eating habits. Forced myself to get on the scales and I am 2stone over my pre pg weight :( but I don't go back to work until probably June so I'm hoping 6 months should be enough to sort myself out. funch how is your training going are you on week 2 now?

I finally got the breast pump out tonight and managed 40mls in the time it took to watch Miranda so I was really pleased with that, previously it used to take me 45 minutes to squeeze a measly 30mls. Hoping of I build it into my routine ill build up a little back up supply. In the long term I'd like to be able to supply a bottle a day to my childminder for baby lumps lunchtime milk once I'm back at work in the summer.

I have the same problem with bossing my DH around when it comes to the DCs, but the trouble is I just dont think he thinks about things properly so if I didn't say anything it wouldn't get done. So I don't really know what to do, I try to bite my tongue when it's something that probably doesn't matter in the long run but often there's things that I think actually that does matter so I have to try and say something without sounding like the bossy control freak that I probably am Any tips anyone?

Tonight is night two of our new loosely imposed night time routine, it's gone great so far and she has been snoozing in the buggy since 7.45. Going to go upstairs in a minute, bound to have to feed her back to sleep, but hoping after that for a relatively good night

Night for now, hope there's sleepy mice on the rounds tonight :)

Omg baby pip managed to keep going all evening and has only just settled now I have been googling if sertraline can give a baby insomnia but I know it's just one of those nights

I know what you mean heff about contemplating the new year I really want to sort out my eating also in a healthy way so as I can stick to it for life. I'm not asking for much am I.

I do have more goals than food I'm just to tired and will end up rambling

MrsR what side effects did you have when you started the sertraline ?? Hope you don't mind sharing I appreciate it

Anyway am off to bed

Nite all

stuntnun and others thanks for the reflux/oesophagal sphincter advice; he sleeps in a hammock not a cot but i can put him in so as to lie more head up which might well help. I've also noticed he seems to sleep better on his side than back, which might tie in with it?

The last two nights I've been getting a bit teary at late evening/half eleven, more from desperation about lack of sleep than anything. I wonder when the feeling will go away though? Dh is starting to worry about me i think, but imagine it's just hormones changing + extreme tiredness..

yule I was on the edge of tears loads in the first few weeks (babyfunch is now almost 13 weeks). I think we all were as were my friends in real life. it is totally normal, though horrible. What changed first for me was nit the amount of sleep I got but the way I coped. somehow about 3 weeks in I just started to be able to function with no more than a few 90 min stretches a night plus the odd snatched 30 min nap once or twice a week in the daytime. Lots of people also seem to find their baby starts to sleep 3 or 4 hours at a time quite quickly eg at 4 weeks or so, so between one or both of those things you will hopefully get a bit of an improvement soon. Can DH or a friend or relative take your baby out for a walk between feeds so you can grab a bit of a snooze? It is a real killer at first but it will end eventually. Loads of sympathy

heff I have done the first couch to 5k run twice with a rest day between. if I do it again tomorrow I can move on to week 2

That's us upstairs and settled for the night( with some help from Ewan!) We keep baby j down with us til we or I come up to bed. I find feeding easier on the couch so we tend to come up around this time. Not sure what kind of night to expect but I'm knackered and hoping for a long stretch.

funchum that's heartening to hear about sleeping stints - just having an idea of when things might change feels positive. We do get a decent 2-hour morning stint often from 5am ish so a 4-hour would be fab!

My parents live 5 hours away but my mum is a writer so has planned to travel up by train mon-weds each week from when my Dh goes back to work (mid Jan) till end if Feb, as she can write on the train. I think having been there she understands the importance of being a 'pressure valve', so the plan is while she's up i can use the time to catch up sleep between feeds or go out for an hour with Dh in the evening etc.

So sorry to hear about those having a tough time and feeling down at the moment. tooodle I add my voice to those suggesting taking the medication and seeing how it goes. Heaven knows,this gig is tough enough without feeling awful as well.
I too struggle with how I talk to DH sometimes, though like heff I do think that sometimes I really do know better - after all, I do spend all day every day with Kid! I am lucky though in that on the whole DH does listen to me, and the times I am particularly crabby he doesn't hold against me! (And it doesn't really matter if Kid doesn't always get dressed for the day... Or watches a little more tv during the holidays than the rest of the time...)
heff buggy fit starts next Wednesday if you're still interested? ( funch ?) I plan on doing this as a little group momentum alongside the couch 2 5k... I am hopeless at motivating myself, funch you have my complete admiration!

2nd feed of the night.

Yule-try as much as you can to nap in the day when the baby does, that saved me in the early days and you do adapt quite quickly to less sleep.

I keep getting emails from baby people/clubs talking about how I must be feeling better now that my baby is sleeping through-ummmmmm not quite what's happening and seems a long way off!!

Glad you had a good time marbles!!

Second feed here, it feels like a step backwards as it is only 2 hours after the last one She was horribly sick just before bedtime though after a coughing fit and I did feed hrr after that but I guess starting the night less full than usual has meant more feeds.

goat I am up for buggyfit, though I guarantee I will miss some weeks as sometimes too knackered! It was great fun the one time I went so I should really make the effort!

Gah babyfunch has now fallen asleep having hardly had any milk so I need to wake her but it is sooo tempting to put her back down and hope she magically stays asleep!