Hi mummyv good to hear from you and really good to hear baby J is sleeping better now. 
We've had a nice day today, went to a Christmas get together with our nct group which was the first time all eight couples have managed to get together at once since all the babies were born. Both DDs were really good and I had a lovely big glass of mulled wine to pick me up after a tiring morning.
mrsn the research seems to agree self settling can't really be taught very much before 6 months, (although I'm sure there will always be exceptions) but by establishing good bedtime routines and sleep associations from around 3 or 4 months you can kind of nudge them in the right direction. DD1 was a truly terrible sleeper for the first 3 months and then in sheer desperation I started to put her down at bedtime and do a very soft version of pickup put down (basically I spent about two hours a night sat with her in our darkened room alternating between cuddles, putting her back down, shushing, patting, more cuddles, perhaps a little feed, stoking her head, etc etc until she fell asleep!) it seemed to help but tbh I look back and think we did do it too early and this time I'm more relaxed and bizarrely babylump is a much better sleeper at the same age. Probably just coincidence but it does make me wonder if I was just stressing too much with DD1.
I've been browsing the App Store for exciting new things to do/play/read etc on my iPad, any recommendations anyone? I did get ridiculously excited when I thought I'd found Final Fantasy VII for iPad but then it turned out to be just an image archive and I was bitterly disappointed!
I think we may have a few sleepy mice here tonight. Don't want to get too excited but babylump has been asleep for about 40 minutes in her buggy at the bottom of the living room, a full 2 hours earlier than usual! Going to attempt taking her up to bed in ten minutes, if successful I will send the sleepy mice out to all!