How to stay awake during night feeds part 4 - Food porn a plenty

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A brand spanking new thread for midnight ramblings, chocolate covered pretzels and so much more

ameybee I am keen to get babyfunch taking a bottle so DH can do some feeds. He is desperate to be able to help me get more sleep, and I go back to work before 6 months and want to at least try carrying on bfing then, so the bottle is important. We are trying her with it every other day but only DH or DM, not me, as there doesn't seemuch point as I can bf her and she knows it!

The childminder I plan to use says she will be able to bottle feed her whether we have managed it or not (i will supply breast milk so am working on building a stash) so I am looking forward with great interest to next Friday when DD is there for the morning to see if it works! If not she knows to call me away from work.

I will report back anything that works for us! Good luck!

Hope all the babies recovering from injections are sleeping beautifully - I booked babyfunch's today for Friday 30th :(

1st feed of the night and I think babyloo is starting to really need his sleep at night because of his lack of naps in the day.

I really, really want a piece of crocodile sponge cake, that would be amazing right now.

Hope miss marbles is feeling ok. amey babyloo seems to be a bit selective in terms of when he will take a bottle, I have been away from him two mornings this week and my mum has managed to give him a bottle but two weeks ago he would have refused so its a bit hit and miss!

I managed to read for a couple of hours which was amazing! Really hoping babyloo goes through until 7 but I doubt it unfortunately. We are going to see my brother and family and some mutual friends tomorrow so babyloo will be spending his first night in a travel cot, I'm going to a local baby shop tomorrow to pick one up because I want one with a mattress.

Hope everyone fast asleep

Hello, I think this is the thread I need in my life right now...

So here are the stats. DS (PFB) is 3wks today (Fri). Born by CS after failed IOL. I've been EBF which has been a battle, at first he lost more than 10% of birth weight so mws wanted me to top up with formula but he has now started to gain slowly.

On a good night he will cluster feed from 8pm-1am, then every 2-3 hrs with a longish sleep morning and afternoon. If he sticks to this it's manageable. If.

Main problem is that during the day he will sleep in the bednest or Moses basket but at night he does not want to be put down, even for a few mins. I spend most of the night terrified I am going to doze off and suffocate him.

I know this phase will pass but I don't want to wish away these lovely newborn times so I need to get through them. Preferred weaponry is choc digestives and strong tea but will take any recommendations.

Welcome blonder

Second feed here so got about 3.5 hours - not bad. We have baby sensory today (the right class this time!!) so hoping he goes until it's up time but who knows what these babies plan

marbles haha they seem to love writing horror stories about different foods don't they - I think it's what works for you, and obviously chocolate works for all of us

Hi blondy and welcome, this thread really is a godsend.

Well 2nd feed of the night which brill compared to last night.

Well tonight I went to a friends for tea 6-10pm. My dad came to look after baby J until DH got home from work so had to do the bedtime routine. From the sounds if it my dad now understands better how difficult baby J can be at night lol he said he couldn't believe how different baby J was at night lol (he's usually a very happy smiley daytime baby that loves games & giggles and this is mostly what my dad has seen)

Hi blonder I had to give top ups when baby J was born & your doing great with the 2-3hr get ups. Baby J is 21 weeks and it still varies between 1-3hr gaps, this thread is great for your sanity

Thank you for the welcome, oh wow tonight was epic, thought he was dozing off at 1.30 but he carried on till just now! Going to try and get some sleep. Hope he stays peaceful for a while...

MV18 I know what you mean, my mum only sees him all dozy in the afternoon, I think she thinks I'm exaggerating about his night time frolics.

Hi blond! You've prob tried this already but what about swaddling? Other option is if you have a cot to take side off n push it up to your bed, or buy a troll bedside crib or baby bay, couple of friends had success with these. At 3 weeks tho its still early, I'd just keep trying - baby bee was same but in day which was obviously easier. I always kept the faith by keep putting him down & thinking at some point they will have to sleep so they will give up whereas if you let them sleep on/with you they won't be tired enough if that makes sense.

DH is snoring beside me, he occasionally wakes up & goes 'oh what time is it, wow he's done well' n I'm like err no I've fed him twice already you just haven't noticed (git)!
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Missmarbles having a rotten night. Will catch up and read thread another time zzzzzzz..........

It's quite quiet on her tonight! Here's hoping lots of people are catching some well earned zzzzzzzz's. Baby buttons finished feeding yesterday at 10:30 so I was overly optimistic that we might only be up once tonight and was super keen on getting home to feed for more than 10mins! He sadly had other ideas and was up at 1:40 and 4:40 for 10 min feeds and I'd now snuffling loudly on my chest! Oh well, it will pass at some point.... Right???..... He's 5 weeks tomorrow. Am so dreading the 6-week growth spurt!

2nd feed of the night woop woop!!! Again I woke up before babyloo and decided to feed him before he woke himself up too much so hoping he will go straight back down. I'd love to think this is the start of a pattern but I'm sure he will revert back to normal probably tonight whilst we are away, it's almost a shame to go anywhere in case it disrupts his new routine

Hi all, bakewell pud was delicious
So despite sleeping practically all day baby small has slept really well. Bed at 7 1st feed at 1am and second feed now. Might try dream feeding at 11 tomorrow to eliminate the 1am wake up.
I went to look at a nursery this afternoon it is ofsted outstanding and seems nice, baby small smiled at the assistants but I don't want to leave him there . They have a waiting list and no spaces until septrmber anyway so at least I can have until then off by which time perhaps we will have won the lottery!
Attempting transfer..........

It's funny about nurseries small I went to look at one that is the best in the area and all my friends children went there from babies but when I went to look round I decided I couldn't leave babyloo there, very odd because it was fine I just didn't want to leave him.

Hi blonder! Good to see you again, although sorry you're having sleepless nights too. This thread is a sanity saver when it's dark outside and you think you're the only one in the world who's awake!

Well I finally managed to get ds off to sleep last night, only for him to wake half an hour later for a feed. We've had two more feeds since then and a quick scream, which he never does through the night so I was a bit worried but a cuddle solved whatever the issue was!

I am putting my fingers in my ears and ignoring what you tell me about chocolate...however with my current oversupply it may help! I am now also craving bakewell pudding! We got married near to bakewell so it brings back lots of happy memories!

I am also not looking forward to leaving ds to go back to work. I'm a bit head in the sand about it all. Still got another 10 months though, although I'm already considering not going back...

Mummyv my parents have witnessed all of ds's moods this week and I heard dm on the phone to Dsis saying she had forgotten how hard it was looking after a baby

Third feed here and I'm not quite ready for up time so hope we get another hour or so.

I know what you mean about not wanting to leave them when going back to work, I go back in September and am already dreading it. I don't want to waste the months worrying about it though

We picked a nursery when I was still pregnant based on a friends recommendation. We went to see it and both loved it so job done!

It has been quiet tonight, so I hope everyone is ok - haven't seen heff for a while

Glad it's Friday so hubby is off again, even though he has only worked 2 days this week! We are going to town tomorrow to get little mans passport pictures done so we might attempt lunch at Yo Sushi.

I think instead of attempting transfer I might try an hour snuggled up with him (although not too snuggled obviously).

I think I've caught up! No idea who said what as memory rubbish and I'm exhausted.

Agreed to give baby buzzy a bottle of expressed milk and he promptly refused it so DH had to get me up anyways. We were up for over 2hrs with me falling asleep feeding. I'm on some medication that means co sleeping is out so that was a nightmare.

I camped on the couch and got about 2 hrs sleep when baby buzzy woke at 6am. He's fed both sides now and I'm hoping he will fall asleep so I can nap again. Only small problem is DD (almost 3) will be up soon!!

Feedings are getting less painful. Health visitor coming this morning so hoping she will be able to watch a feed and advise.

It felt rubbish at 4.. Or whatever time I posted coz I was knackered, but it's not been too bad all things considered. She stirred at 10, which resulted in full wake up at 11 after being fed and she was awake til gone midnight in our bed. DH lifted her back to her room which resulted in me getting up to feed at 1.30ish, and she settled reasonably with Ewan. She grizzled at 4 and fed, then let out a cry at 6.30. I went in but she was asleep and not crying/twisting so I put Ewan on and came back to bed, but was up again 10mins later. She's gone back to sleep on me and there's little point in me going back to sleep because DD1 is going to school today, and will need to be up shortly to get ready. Poor Missmarbles though she has a stinker if a cold with a cough. Hope it's short lived. I hope she has better naps as I think that will help her as well. Yesterday every time she nodded off, something woke her 10 mins later.

We've got baby sensory too, MrsN Love it!

Well done, Babyloo! Hope it is a pattern, Susie. I know what you mean about feeling like you are just starting to get there and then something comes up that you don't want to do because its not firmly established yet. I felt that way about her jabs this time Hope we revert again quickly.

Hi Blonder Congratulations. Love tea and digestives, the best combination ever!!

Amey there are times when I think my DH could sleep with the house crashing down round his ears. He made loads if comments like that with DD1 but isn't so bad this time round.

Buttons it does indeed pass, and so does the 6 week growth spurt

Mmmm Bakewell. Know what you mean about work/nurseries, Small, eurgh!

Hello Smicha and Goat. Sorry if I've missed anyone. Hi to anyone who might be lurking

Well little man had other ideas about us getting another hour lol so that's us up, hopefully get a nap this afternoon but it didn't happen yesterday so not getting my hopes up!

marbles poor mini marbles, hope she gets better soon and you both enjoy baby sensory

Hats off to you all who have two little ones, must be hard!

mrsn I keep thinking that about having 2. It must be so much more exhausting. Oh well I will wait a while before going there!

Amazingly DS slept for 4 hours! He hasn't done that since the first week (I realise that's not long ago but I feels like forever). Even better, he slept in his basket and even even better his basket was downstairs next to DH as opposed to upstairs next to me - so I actually slept properly rather than stirring at every squeak. V grateful to both of them, I might feel more like a human being today.

Hope some more zzzzs were had by all...

Ooh, also hello Smicha, nice to see you too! Hope all going well.

Amey we have the bednest - originally just were going to use Moses basket but after CS I needed something with easier access. He liked it at first until he realised Mummy was a pushover at 3am! Amazing how sometimes they can sleep through anything, other times the gentlest laying down in bed will cause alarm of the highest order. We will work on it but it's early days, I figure it's more important for him to feel secure at this stage, as long as the habits don't get too ingrained.

There's 7 years between my two, which wasn't 'the plan', but it works really well. Despite the current sleep deprivation, I would still like another. I would hope not to have to wait another 7 years though

I have a question - my little boy is 2 months today, what should I be doing with him in the day? I am starting to feel like a rubbish mum more and more cause I'm fine with the feeding, changing, cuddling etc but then I feel like I don't know what to do with him? Should I be playing with him? Most of the time he is happy in my arms while I rock him but then I start to feel guilty that I might not be doing enough with him. Then I start thinking there might be things wrong with him as he gets older because I'm not doing enough. Sorry this sounds really rambly but I'm just feeling like a big fat failure today

Mrs n i often wondered this with dd but honestly sounds like you're doing a great job! I just move ds with me round house - he sits in a tall reclining High chair in kitchen n I talk to him whilst I do pots, he goes on his play mats, sits on bean bag in bedroom watching me change beds etc and then we get out n about in pram! Bathtime etc is all stimulation - its plenty for them! Do you go to any baby groups? They are always good - bit of socialising for them and you! Virtual hug! X

There's just under 3 years between my 2 and I cannot imagine any less! It's hard work but DD adores her brother and its the sweetest thing when he smiles at her! Getting time to catch up on sleep is minimal luckily she likes Disney films so we can snuggle on sofa in afternoon! I would like a third (I think!) but prob not till the 2 of them are at school! I struggle with dividing my attention n often feel guilty that DD isn't getting what she needs from me but I'm sure as she grows up she will love her little brother even more!
Feel more tired than i do in middle of night this afternoon! X

Amey, I often feel guilty about DD1 too, she had 7 years of me to herself; but she adores her little sister and is very understanding. I think it's normal to worry about DC1 when DC2 comes along. A sibling is a gift though, and Missmarbles hero-worships her big sister already In fact, the cutest thing today, I was watching some footage on my phone that DD1 took of Missmarbles, and the first voice you hear is DD1's talking to her, she was half asleep in my arms but totally woke up and started looking for her big sister - it was lovely

MrsN, you are not a rubbish mum. You are his favourite company at the minute. He will love to look at your face so push it his so he can study it. Wait til he's grabbing your nose Amey's suggestion is a good one too: put him where he can see what you and talk him through what you're doing. Give him a toy to feel. He probably isn't holding stuff yet, but then when he is give him different textures, doesn't have to be toys, safe household items related to what you are doing are fine eg. a wooden spatula, if you're cooking. Enjoy him not 'doing' stuff, because his favourite place is in your arms at the minute and he is laying foundations for other 'doing' things later. Before you know it, he'll be squealing at you and grabbing at stuff and putting it in his mouth. Baby groups are good too, and you're already doing baby sensory aren't you? (Missmarbles fell asleep in hers today) I don't mean it to read patronisingly, sorry if it does; typing doesn't always convey things well, but please don't feel like a rubbish mum.