You know what, i don't know what to think any more. I too read the July thread about all this, and when i first clicked on it I was all like "ooh that's just wrong" or whatever but had my mind changed by you lot, found it difficult to argue against it, and concluded that there was nothing wrong with allowing the child to wean themselves, although my instincts still say 4 years old is too old and I would never do it myself. But now this prog is making me question my conclusion - that 7 year old self weaned and even when it came to the point of weaning she was sulky about it, and talking of bf'ing herself... clearly that family has "issues", but would it really be possible to continue bf'ing a child for that long in a healthy non-crazy way? I just don't know what to think, where a cut off point "should" be....