High-Need Baby Support Thread II

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Hey ladies, here's a shiny new thread for us to discuss, query, whinge about and rejoice our high-need bubs!

Pretty bad night last night, bleeding exhausted. Can see why so many of you co-sleep. We haven't gone down that route, but it's never looked so attractive...

Gawd, grizzly DS. Poor tooths. Hope you have had a decent night!

Queen - My shoulder 'went' when DS was about six weeks old and my GP told me to use ibuprofen gel. She said that less is absorbed into your body than if you use the tablets. The pharmacist told me it wasn't approved for breastfeeding, but I took the risk on my GP's advice. It might be worth seeing your GP to see if s/he could help. Alternatively, chiropractor?

LWL - glad she's a bit better. Hope you get some rest.

Titania - How can you watch OBEM? I cry sooooo much now even at the opening credits! I am ridiculously broody though, so maybe I cry because DP says 'NO WAY!' when I broach the subject.

Well cheerful happy baby doesn't equal one that sleeps. He's just woken up screaming after being down for just over an hour which is unusual these days (it's later in the night that he wakes constantly). I managed to rock him back to sleep though not feed. Each night I try to shhh/pat/sing him to sleep but I do give up and feed if it doesn't work - maybe I'm sending mixed messages.

Apparently there's been an outbreak of the Norovirus locally. Trying to decide whether to go to playgroup tomorrow. He puts everything in his mouth, so if it was there he'd catch it. I've had it twice in the past and it's worse than horrid so really don't want DS getting it. I know he's going to get every bug going at some point and I can't wrap him in cotton wool - but i can't cope with any less sleep than I'm getting at the moment.

Hello/goodnight everyone!!
Us poor mummies in this quiche- someone should publish a blog lol!
Well I finally got both babies seen by a lovely locum gp today- ear and throat infections all round. And she thought it was wonderful i was still bf!

No wonder last night was so bad!! Both dh and I were up in tandem, seeing to the kids- and work was really busy today so i'm shattered. But ds has just woken for the first time tonight, so it's gonna be a long one! My dc2 ( not one of said babies) also has vomiting bug, and really bad cough. Didn't take her to gp but I got advice when I was in, so I have to wait till bug clears and take her in. Any medication wouldn't work on her atm cos of bug, so treating cough would be pointless. So although tired, am feeling a little more optimistic.

Memory is too bad to respond to everyone! But, before the sickness, I had had enough too Queen. So I decided to do the usual sleep routine but rather than rocking to sleep, I put him in cot awake and stayed on a chair beside him. I shhhed, and touched him every now and then. He protested but didn't really cry as such, but I didn't lift him (was hard to do). He settled himself after 1/2 hr. Then I left the room (amazed).
2nd night took less than 10 mins, and 3rd night he went straight to sleep. I never left the room and always made sure he could see/hear me if needed. Cue sickness, and it all went to pot, but I'll do it again when he's better. I know that place u are in- and it's really not pleasant! Please do take good care

Other mummies, I wish I could grant some wishes of sleep, but I can't, so please take care, stay calm, and remember, we are all doing our best!!

Just finished pricing a job I really hope we win cos it's huge! so off to bed now. Really hope ds sleeps tonight. I so need a bit of kip!

Had a strange conversation with a sort of friend earlier. She'd borrowed my flying buggy (as in the one I take on planes, not one which flies!) - an ancient Maclaren Triumph. I asked for it back to take to Kenya as I don't want to take my better umbrella or my precious Bee. She decided to clean it and for reasons best known to herself put the whole hood in the washer - plastic support struts included so it's buggered. Hood won't stay up which is quite important under African suns! I asked if she could look into replacing it along with the raincover which has not been retunred. She got all arsey and said that it wasn't new so she wasn't going to replace with new (who said anything about that? just hood and raincover please!). Anyway, having looked through ebay etc I received a sheepish text saying she'd ordered a new one as couldn't find anything. Only thing is she'#s asked for it back once we've finished with it (ie when ds is walking everywhere) so she can sell it to recoup. I said yes immediately but now I'm wondering if she's taking the mickey? After all, she only had to buy it cos she was such an idiot with mine. Am I being a bit ott about it? I can only imagine that dh is going to refuse to give it back cos he's an awkward sod. But seriously, she broke mine! Or am I over thinking this? Was my initial reaction the right one? I always keep a buggy in the house, a bit like a travel cot - just in case of people coming to stay and forgetting theirs or whatever which was why I had it in the first place. I would probably have kept it still after ds stopped using it so what do I do? The others - which I've paid good money for myself more recently - were the ones I was planning to flog!

I'll never lend again. That's for sure. Spoils things when it goes wrong

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Think Tesco do them for tinies. What about the Wacky Warehouse? Ours do soft play for a whole morning for about £2 and babies are free. I go with a group of friends where we sit with the babies (immobile ones) and yarn and the big ones go off and wear themselves out. Is good to do 'nothing' and means the bigger ones go home and have lunch and are then knackered! I know dd doesn't sleep, but it might give you an hour or so where she'll sit in front of Beebies and sog for a bit? Won't kill her!

Will continue to try to think of 'no sleep rest' solutions!

No, I don't think YABU about the buggy button. If I borrowed and wrecked something, I'd replace it. It's that simple. She's probably annoyed because she might as well have bought her own buggy but that's by the by really. If I were you, I'd just 'forget' to return the hood unless she kept making a fuss.

Ladies, sorry for my misery yesterday. I genuinely felt horrific. Had a better night last night, DH slept in the spare room so I could spread out and not worry about waking him. DS woke three times, but that is an improvement on the previous night's 8 times, and was easy to settle. Sometimes, i think co-sleeping wakes him up more, if you know what i mean. My back is still sore but feeling better and I definitely did sleep. Hmm, it's not really a solution though having DH in another room. As soon as my back is better, we are going to move his cot bed mattress on to our floor and try him out there. Baby steps! DH was on about just buying him his own single bed with a rail, which I guess is an option but seems ridiculous at 9mo!

Joyful - I am so sorry you're so tired. I know just how you feel and don't know what to say. Can you get DH to sleep on the sofa tonight so you can at least try and sleep in comfort? If not, is it worth investing in one of those heavy duty camping blow up beds you can put up in the sitting room? Argos have them if you could pop into town.

QK it's not that ridiculous. DD2 was in the bottom bunk by 15m with a rail as I was fed up with having to queeze between the bunks and her cot when I went into their then tiny room. She was fine.

And it's not a hood she wants back but the whole damn buggy! I must admit, if she remembers to ask in 4 or so years time I'll be surprised. And that's how long ds1 and the dds used a buggy for if we were out for a long day trip like trolling around London or at a theme park or whatever. So I think I'll just bite my tongue and deal with it in a few years if it needs dealing with!

Glad you had a better night, even if it's not a long term solution!

arf at flying buggy, cor could have done with one earlier when I forgot the bloody car seat adapters (much puzzlement in the car park trying to fit car seat onto buggy frame) and had to cart babyfatarse through town to music group ...

Puddles - had shite night last night (actually thinking about posting on here at 5am but was too ). DS had just woken again and DH responded to my telepathic prompting and got up to attend to him and started bloody playing with him! Aaaargh. I hissed at him, got up and stuck him on the boob and sat there fuming and trying not to cry at sleep deprivation torture. Got back into bed and had o get up again 15 mins later to clamp his arms by his sides settle him, back into bed. DH snoring, DS snoring, me fuming. At 6am I flounced off to the spare room. Alarm went off at 8.30am, aaah much better. Strolled downstairs to find DH had not actually noticed I had not still been in bed when he got up! He said 'that's going on Mumsnet, isn't it?'

Mampig what about just some glycerol cough syrup for DD til the bug goes?

Off for jabs yuck.

arf indeed but at your DH MissusT!

button no UANBU

Puddle no it's not great - my DD was the same - wouldn't sleep then would be inconsolable. Used to try everything to get her to sleep before she got overtired. She hasn't changed! Hope he starts napping better

Well I have a bug so am achey/headachey - suspect this is what DD had. Soooo rubbish! Have also borrowed the "no sleep - cry, solution" or whatever it's called I know DD is not yet a year old (recommended for sleep training to wait for a year) but I can't cope with the constant feeding 7pm -11pm feeds then at 1am, 2am, 4am, 5am and up at 6am.... :(

Dydd Dewi Sant Hapus indeed joyful. I didn't realisse there was a fellow Welshie here! Have a great day bach!

Not at home . Originally from Mumbles on the Gower. Still think of it as home though I've lived more than half my life away from it!

Not really been a day for celebration but perhaps I'll do it a day late tomorrow. A few Welsh cakes and a slice or two of bara claddu wouldn't go amiss!

Actually that's not true - only nearly half my life. Was thinking I was older than I am. Must be how I'm feeling!

Awful night here. Again. So, so fed up of it!

Pretty dreadful. But on the plus side BabyKong crawled yesterday for the first time! Very tentative but it's a start!

Well done Babykong!

Clever BabyKong. You'll be regretting it soon though Queen mark my words.....

DS doesn't stop moving now - driving me up the wall!

Hugs to those who had a rotten night. I was joking with DH last night saying that even though I go back to work in a couple of weeks (:() and will miss DS incredibly during the day, at least I will see him loads overnight

Well done Babykong! DS still isn't rolling, he's so lazy hehe! Although he is sitting beautifully now, and is starting to make moves to crawl, I think - reaching for things too far away and over balancing, wriggling onto his front and pushing right up on his hands and pushing with his legs. Looks a bit 'fish out of water' sometimes, bless him.

Button YDNBU. I would expect a replacement if an item of mine, lent in good faith, had been ruined, even accidentally.

Great night here - between 11pm and 7am we had 2 feeds and a dummy run. And a mysterious disappearing poo. At 3am DS was trumping away and making those delightful noises one hears when baby is doing his business, but when DH changed his bum, there was nada! He's not constipated, as he did a delightful poo earlier that evening. He seemed wide awake after his change and we thought we were up for the day, but a bit of boob and he went back to sleep till dummy run at 5am.

DH on a days annual leave today, yay! Hope you all have good days