High need baby support thread

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Does this sound like your baby?

1. Feeds frequently daytime
2. Feeds frequently nighttime
3. Needs to be constantly held
4. Wont sleep alone
5. Hates the car seat/pram
6. Short naps

If so - join the club! :)

Oh dear poor button and Jeewizz. :(

We did OK here - got up and took her downstairs for a bit after she woke up, and then took her back to bed at 10pm - when I think she slept til 2am! I son't remember feeding her earlier but might have done in my sleep.... then 4am, 6am and continuously on and off till 7am when I decided not to fight it any more and got up...

Jeewizz - have you asked for help? I know they should just offer but then don't. And no help at all with a poorly baby is pretty shitty..

LWL you're right, I should ask him. I have a tendency to be a bit of a martyr sometimes but I really hate that he doesn't offer himself. I always feel like such a nag when I ask. We've talked about it before, but I think it probably needs a revisit...

Jen I get you DH doesn't offer either because, I've worked out, 50% is genuinely not seeing how a little bit of help/efficiency can pay big dividends and the other half is because he's knackered and I make a martyr of myself. But he'd better do well in these exams because he's missed so many mealtimes, bathtimes and play times and I've been the one getting up in the morning that it would be a huge waste for all of us if he doesn't. I'm yet to work out how I can make him take DS for a nappy change when DS is woken by DH's 6.30 wakeup call

Little star last night - we were out for a belated thanksgiving meal and he was charming to all the ladies, fed well, wrapped up and fell asleep after a 5 minute promenade and then stated that way for 3 whole hours before wanting more boob, fell asleep on my shoulder, transferred to the car seat and slept for 2/3 of the journey home. The rest was solved by acrobatic boob-in-carseat manoeuvres. He then decided to be awake til 1 but might have gone 5 hours after that, and (coup de grâce) didn't make me get up until 8.40!!!!

Ooo get in, Fraktious! Sounds good!

Totally get the martyr thing - I'm the same but luckily DH is bloody amazing and gets stuck in even when I've said I can manage. I know I'm really lucky to have him.

I am totally at a loss over what to do... DH and his mum, who is visiting for the weekend, have just taken DS out for a walk, and I'm sitting here with some actual 'me' time in my hands and no idea how to spend it! Sleep would be a great idea, except my morning caffeine overdose has kicked in.

All I am finding myself doing is worrying that bubs will be okay without me (which he will) and without boob (jury's out on that one)... Gah! I'm my own worst enemy!

Have a bath tickleme. And read something that isn't baby related - Sunday papers?

Def have a long soak and destress!!
Well ds has been great- we unexpectedly ended up at a meal in my cousins house, - she has 6 kids and all the activity kept him entertained for hours. I drove and he slept on way home and stayed sleeping long enough fir me to wind down and go to bed myself. On the other hand, just had a phone call from her and now we have to treat everyone for ..... Headlice yuk!!! Mine all seem clear but I'll treat them anyway, have all the bedding in the wash, with more to go!!! No relaxing Sunday for me!!!! Flaming kids!!! Interestingly, it's her 1 year old that has them- thinks she picked them up in a playland!!!

I did the fucking hoovering. I'm so lame!

Just got off the phone to my sister who informs me that dinners at my parents house over Christmas will be baby free.

1. DS eats with us
2. Like every self respecting French baby he goes to bed quite late
3. He doesn't sleep alone
4. The mattress she is proposing he sleep on is c. 20 years old.

I tried to point out that DS has a late bedtime and doesn't sleep alone. Her response was to put him to bed earlier and teach him to sleep by himself. Because it's that fucking simple, isn't it?! I'll just leave my baby alone in a strange room, segregate him for meals and leave him to cry shall I?

Yikes Fraktious, that would wind me right up too. Does she not have kids??

Tickle I'll join you in the lame club. DP took DS over to see grandad earlier (he only lives across the road) for about half an hour. What did I do? Cleaned the bathroom. And it just knackered me out even more. Never has a 6.30 pm bedtime seemed so attractive!

I'm becoming more and more convinced that you are me, Jee, or at the very least we are long lost identical twins

I'm so bloody knackered now, and I only managed to Hoover downstairs.

On another note, I'm worried that Baby Tickle is teething :( Very fussy, very drooly, lots of hand chewing and seems to be pretty reluctant to feed for any length of time. And considering he feeds at lightning speed anyway, that's a bit of a concern :(

Um, another scary similarly there tickle, my DS also feeds ridiculously fast, he's generally done in maybe 6-8 mins! I have a very fast let down, I think he's just learned to go with the flow!

Similarity even....

jen what gave it away?! She's 21 and owns the world. She also insists we can't take him to a rugby match

Hello ladies, hope you're all having a reasonable Sunday.

I nipped out to asda to get a few bits earlier, leaving DS with DP. I got a text asking me to come home after 20 mins - apparently DP couldn't put DS down because everytime he tried to he cried, he just wanted to be held and bounced up and down - yeah DP welcome to my world!

DS didn't sleep from 1-9 today. Am shattered. Think the pear had a similar reaction today. And apple was met with a mouth like this --> *

Ah well, tomorrow's another day. Shame they all feel like Groundhog Day

spanner that have me a much needed laugh after our terrible night. Leaky nappy meant DS and I slept on pee soaked sheets because DH could or would not be roused.

Settled at 9, 10, 11 when he needed feeding until midnight, full change at 3.30 and put a muslin down to cover the wet bits until 4.30, DH up at 6.30, awake at 7.20 and I was not getting up so another hour.

Please say this is the 8 month sleep regression hitting early.

This is the 8m sleep regression hitting early

DS was pretty good last night but still very troubled by acid causing choking and coughing fits. He's currently sitting in his bouncer laughing like a drain at nothing

Oh fraktious! :( it's definitely the 8 month sleep regression come early!

Not too bad a night for us. Later this morning we're going to attempt to go to the library for a Wriggle & Rhyme group. I haven't been since DS was a lot smaller but I think he'll enjoy it as he loves it when I sing with him. Hopefully he'll play ball! I'm toying with trying the pram to walk down there too as we've not tried that for a while. I think I'll take the sling as well just in case! Hoping my R&R carrier will arrive today

Please don't say there's another sleep regression!!!! Ds seems to be feeding less at night now and has def dropped the 11pm feed!!. Maybe even the 3am one but not consistent enough to day for sure!

Ugh (ignoring others good nights - yes I mean you Mampig! )

Fraktious - sympathies

I don't know what she wants. She was whimpering on and off all last night in addition to 2 hourly, then hourly feeds.... Tried taking a layer off, putting one on, cuddling, feeding etc. I think half the time she was asleep and I then made it worse by waking her up!

We are both wrecked today...

Oh no LWL. Have some strong coffee and cake.

What's everyone doing today? Need inspiration, have no plans and the day feels too long unless I do something.

I plan to nap and eat too much chocolate, then go for a walk

Morning all

Not too bad a night here. DS only woke for feeds at 11, 2 and 5, but woke a few other times for his dummy. He's become quite attached to sleeping with that in, for a baby who didn't take one till last week!

So much so, that - wait for it - he's having a nap. In his cot.

I'm shocked and convinced it is a one-off, in fact I think he's stirring now, after half an hour. But I'm chuffed to have just got him down without boob this long! He's going to make me pay for that later isn't he...! :op

LWL - sounds like teething pains to me?

Congrats tickleme! You've inspired me to try a dummy again - he used to scream blue murder when I tried. He is sucking on it! Doesn't look like he's going to sleep but will persevere.

(is it pathetic of me to get all emotional seeing him with a dummy? It's like he doesn't need me, sniff! Bluddy hormones...)