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breast is best?

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magpienchips · 17/07/2011 12:58

I personally think it is...but I am aware that many female mothers disagree and prefer to feed their babies bottle milk...I wouldn't do it...however if for some reason you physically are unable to produce enough breast milk for you baby then and only then would I consider or use bottle milk.
I just don't think people can better breast milk...whether you believe we were created or evolved the fact is breast milk has been proven to be best for babies because it has in it exactly all that a babe needs to help it grow strong and develop.
if we evolved as we are taught in schools, how could chance manage to make female produce exactly what babies need to help them grow?
it just does not make sense...common sense tells me that the one who created us put breasts on the female chest for the purpose of feeding your babies.
it just annoys me so much when I see an advert on TV trying to persuade mothers with babies to feed them formula milk...it would be better to promote breast feeding rather than trying to make mothers use bottle milk.
anyway what are your Thoughts?
do you think breast milk is best?

Thanks.

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magpienchips · 17/07/2011 14:24

Queen
all I wanted to know is whether mothers think bf is best or not?
I wasn't trying to start a fight at all...but I feel like Ive been through 10 rounds
after reading some of the answers...and you didn't have to belittle my op by suggesting I should have asked about funding for promoting bf.
why do some women have to be so touchy or am i just insensitive?
I ask a straightforward reasonable question and I get a wave of sarky criticism...thats not fair...but please don't take that personally queen
thanks for your answers.

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coccyx · 17/07/2011 14:26

Yes, i think it is best. but each to their own.

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magpienchips · 17/07/2011 14:27

catsare
there you go again making unfair judgments...of course my question is genuine...and why should I start my question again?
I think it is straightforward and clear...do you agree that bf is best?
yes/no?
if yes why..if no why not?
there was no need for harsh criticism and unkind remarks...

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RMutt · 17/07/2011 14:29

Your op is patronising in tone.

Explaining evolution to us and 'Female mothers' and 'breasts on the female chest for the purpose of feeding your babies'. We're not 5. What next? Pictures? Confused

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magpienchips · 17/07/2011 14:32

coccyx
thank you and judging by some of the remarks received, each to their own indeed!
Jeez...ask a simple question!!!
and please don't take that the wrong way...I just think some of the women were a bit unkind in the way they responded...rather than answering the question they use it as a platform to ridicule me which is unhelpful and rather childish but again each to their own.
thanks again.

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catsareevil · 17/07/2011 14:33

Ok, at the risk of getting drawn into this nonsense. Yes, I believe that all other things being equal, breast is best.

Is this topic new to you? If so maybe reading some basic texts on mammalian biology and evolution might be of interest. There are also books examining the political aspects of breastfeeding vs formula feeding. Im sure people will provide some links to suitable texts if you would like to find out more.

HumptyDumpty1 · 17/07/2011 14:36

Why would it matter to you magpie whether other women bf or ff? If you think breast is best and you bf then that should be all that matters...

SmilingandWaving · 17/07/2011 14:38

I just can't see why you're so interested in how others see breast feeding unless you're actually planning to do something about low rates.

The responses are unhelpful as your opening post comes across as judgemental & as RMutt said patronising.

There are many reasons why mothers don't BF & it's not always through choice & I very much doubt it's ever because they think breast milk is inferior to formula.

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magpienchips · 17/07/2011 14:43

RMutt
that is a matter of opinion not fact...or are you claiming to speak for all women here?
If my op made you feel uncomfortable then I am sorry but I assumed we are all mature enough to have a discussion and in this case a discussion about your thoughts on bf?
what spoiled it was the sarcastic remarks from certain individuals which then encouraged others to do the same...however queen thankfully stopped the rot when she chose to answer in a straightforward and reasonably respectful manner.
I can't control how people decide to respond but they are aware that that they way they decide to respond determines the response they get in return.
as for the evolution bit...well with hindsight I should have left that out but its too late...but again I was not trying to patronize anyone I simply expressed that I believe breasts were created not evolved.
I know that everyone has their own opinion on how we came into existence
and I respect that.

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Catslikehats · 17/07/2011 14:50

At the risk of getting drawn in, I will repeat: the vast majority of woman know that (all being equal) breast is best.

As a mother you would have to be a fool to have escaped that message in the UK, so your OP is a bit like asking "are rasberries better than cola cubes as a regular snack".

As a parenting forum user you would have to be a fool not to know that the FF v BF "debate" winds people up like no other. That is why you have received short shrift.

As for reasons why woman do not BF some might be:

They physically can't (poor milk supply/masectomy)
The baby can't (NICU/tongue tie)
Psychological/emotional reasons (past traumas/ embarrasment at "exposing" themselves)
Physical difficulties (poor latch, pain, infection, mastitis)
Convenience - establishing BF takes far longer than FF in the early days
Mother returns to work
Mother taking medication that is incompatible with BF
Motehr plain doesn't fancy it

That is not an exclusive list. As I have said their are myriad reasons why woman don't and teh reasons are as varried as the woman themselves.

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magpienchips · 17/07/2011 14:53

look catsare
you are being very disrespectful to me...just because you don't like my style of writing you dismiss it as nonsense...but that is a matter of your opinion...I happen to think you are rude...and I base that upon the way you try to belittle me.
I stand by my op...I believe bf is best...I don't particularly like formula milk adverts...I don't think I am the only one that holds those views...but does that make me an idiot?
does it mean I should be castigated by you in particular?
so you think my post is nonsense...You won't be surprised to know I disagree but I think you come across as a life long member of renta mob...now of course your not but that's how you come across to me personally...disrespectful...rude...and it took you ages to finally answer my question then you patronize me again...and I guess you expect me to say thank you now right?

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RMutt · 17/07/2011 14:54

Nope. I never speak for anyone on here but me. Just expressing my opinion. You did ask for our thoughts.

I assume you have first hand experience of bf since you have such strong opinions in it's favour?

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magpienchips · 17/07/2011 14:56

queen
I'm not being disrespectful but I really don't need a lecture from you...I thought you were reasonable...but now your tone is becoming patronizing...believe it or not I also went to school and I do think before I speak...I'm certainly no expert on the in and outs of mams and what not but I didn't need the lecture.

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magpienchips · 17/07/2011 15:08

look
ladies some of you are over sensitive and getting all excited and wound up over a simple reasonable question.
I admit that I was not aware of low rates being one of the reasons why some women perhaps can't bf or choose not to.
I am humble enough to accept correction when I need it but there is really no need for sarcasm or lectures...do you know how hurt I feel now...I am sorry for any unintended hurt caused because I certainly didn't desire that...

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usualsuspect · 17/07/2011 15:11

I think you did....

Next .....

MoreBoober · 17/07/2011 15:16

This is a wind up right !?

usualsuspect · 17/07/2011 15:17

I would say so

Chipotle · 17/07/2011 15:22

Yyyyyyyaaawwwwnnn!

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magpienchips · 17/07/2011 15:26

usual suspect,
why are you being so mean spirited and judgmental?

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magpienchips · 17/07/2011 15:28

chipotle
try and get a good nights sleep tonight...and thank you so much for contributing to my boring post.

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magpienchips · 17/07/2011 15:29

well,
if I said no you wouldn't believe me...would you?

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GoldenHaze · 17/07/2011 15:35

As many others on this thread have said, of course breast is best and you'd be hard-pushed to find someone to argue otherwise.

The problem is your weird phrasing: "Female mothers", all the "...", hints at Creationism (ugh!), "breasts on the female chest" etc. Are you arguing for a ban on formula advertising or a government-funded breastfeeding campaign?

You're OP reads oddly and is patronising.

GoldenHaze · 17/07/2011 15:37

Not that it's important, but I'm guessing your male? With two references to "female" and the phrase "your babies". Seems odd for a "female mother" to write like that.

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magpienchips · 17/07/2011 15:40

goldenhaze
thank you but please don't use words like weird odd and patronizing...ok with hindsight its obvious there were a few errors but its not as if you could not get my point...but I understand human nature and how you always get those that like to make a big thing out of a small mistake...and who said anything about creationism except you?
and whats with the ugh?
sigh sigh sigh
thanks golden haze.

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magpienchips · 17/07/2011 15:42

goldenhaze
the cheque is in the post...and thanks 4 blowing my cover!
LOL of course I'm male.

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