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Is there an 'extended' breastfeeding support thread?

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Unrulysun · 22/05/2011 11:48

Or would I be better off on LLL?

Just read the 'school-age children' thread with interest but didn't want to derail :)

dd is 1 today so it's not 'extended' bf by any normal definition but judging by the number of 'Are you going to carry on breastfeeding her?' (yes because otherwise she'll be composed primarily of grapes) conversations I've had inflicted on me in the last week I think I'm going to need all the support I can get Grin

so proud we made it this far - ha ha!

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Unrulysun · 22/05/2011 23:35

This is absolutely fascinating. I have always wanted to know what bfing was like from the baby's pov. It didn't occur to me to feed them until they're verbal then ask them. :)

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EsioTrot · 22/05/2011 23:36

Pen - the acrobatics are interesting. I had a scratch on my face from DD's toenail last week. Apparently feeding upside down on top of mummy at 5.30 in the morning is great fun.

inanna12 · 22/05/2011 23:37

please can i be a lacto twat?
(bf credentials - fed boy1 for 3.3, till he went to sleep one night without "mimi's". i asked him about it the next day and he made extravagant "so over it, mother" gestures. still feeding boy2 at 4.5.)
this thread has made me laugh so much. is a highly-developed sense of humour an unknown effect of oxytocin??

mawbroon · 22/05/2011 23:37

Hey, unruly, we need that added to the list of "benefits of extended breastfeeding" Grin

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Unrulysun · 22/05/2011 23:37

Yes! dd basically seems to want to stand on her head at bedtime now. WHY?

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Unrulysun · 22/05/2011 23:39

Grin @ Mawbroon

and I love the idea of getting the thread name changed to 'lacto twats' but I won't because I am too lazy

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inanna12 · 22/05/2011 23:41

have just remembered - with boy2, i actually used to twiddle my own "mummle" when he was very little, as i had a slow let-down reflex and it helped speed the process. do you think he saw??

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Unrulysun · 22/05/2011 23:44

I have never twiddled mine and DD is an addict so I doubt it would have made a difference. I think you can let yourself off that one :)

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mawbroon · 22/05/2011 23:48

Seriously though, the verbal thing is really, really interesting.

DS1 was asking for milk yesterday while ds2 was having some, and tbh I didn't really want to nurse him, but I could tell he was getting desperate, so I asked him how he was feeling. He only said "sad" but then I asked him to draw how he was feeling and he drew a sad face and then said "well, actually, I'm a bit jealous too". He drew a jealous face, and apparently jealous eyebrows are different from sad eyebrows Grin, but when you're happy, your eyebrows go like this......

and then he forgot all about milk.

I think the whole emotional thing is really complex for them. And us!!!

startail · 23/05/2011 00:03

I've posted elsewhere about DD2 who said she'd give up feeding when she started school. but decided holidays and weekends didn't count. Used to tease her that she'd still be feeding at secondary school. She won't, she gave up just before her 10 th. birthday.
The secret of her success she learnt not to bite, not to pull my top up in public and not want to nurse in the middle of the night unless she was ill and eventually learned not to fiddle with the other breast. Mainly because if she did I cut her nails. She hates having her nails cut with a passion and now has proper grown up ladies nails that are long enough to paint. Envy
I have friends who feed DCs until they were 5 (DF only stopped because her DC would not get the middle of the night bit). So no negative comments there. Sadly DMIL died when I was expecting and my mum never says anything about how I bring up the DDs because she'd have taken precisely no notice if anyone who put there oar into how she brought us up Wink I think my DSIS thinks I'm mad, but she knows I always have been Grin

startail · 23/05/2011 00:18

link to the are you still feeding thread I've posted to before
Given DD1 refused to BF at all I can only say go with the flow, ignor silly comments and enjoy a Brew or Wine (but perhaps only if your BFing DC is no longer a baby and clearly only 1)

LeninGrad · 23/05/2011 07:47

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WoTmania · 23/05/2011 08:01

Just sort of caught up lenin I always call it nursing because it isn't 'breastfeeding' anymore. it is more about the nurturing act than the food side. Nourishment fo the soul Grin if that's not too soppy.

Lacto Twat Hehe. that's genius.

jaggythistle · 23/05/2011 08:01

I've never let DS twiddle, simply because i read on mumsnet how annoying it was. it's a valuable service this board!

if he got too interested i told him it was for milk not playing with. he's always been more of an eye poker and finger up the nose type really. he also cuddles a muslin and plays with the label which helps.

LeninGrad · 23/05/2011 08:07

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WoTmania · 23/05/2011 08:10

I've seen videos and stuff where they are just ignoring it. It doesn't seem to bother them. I can't stand it and DD has been fine (mostly, she tries occasionally but I stop her) but DS2 still 'plays with Daddy's boobies' he knows better than to try it with me.

ensure · 23/05/2011 08:11

My periods have just started again and the, very gentle and usually inoffensive, nipple twiddling just adds to the agony caused by all these unfamiliar hormones when DD is feeding. I told DD I was sore but she wanted to rub it better! Argh.
It used to be makmak here, but now it is mak (also the boob, the milk and the action!).

inanna12 · 23/05/2011 08:13

i love being able to talk to my children about bf. when boy2 was about 6 months, so boy1 nearly 5, he asked if he could have some while we were in the bath (having stopped at 3 as i posted above). felt a little strange to me, but i said he could. a beatific smile spread across his face as he pronounced "it tastes like yummy honey". he never displayed the slightest interest again. but i love having had that connection with him, both when we were feeding and then verbally.

msbuggywinkle · 23/05/2011 08:19

Me too! I'm tandem nursing DD1 4.10 and DD2 2.2 and 10 weeks pregnant.

I think most people have given up on me as totally insane. Although now I'm pregnant my Mum keeps commenting that she thinks (hopes really) that they will both wean. Honestly, I think DD1 will, she mostly only nurses once every other day but I can't imagine DD2 weaning, she nurses at least 10 times a day!

Cousinit · 23/05/2011 08:19

I'd like to join too. DS only breastfed until 8 months so I was expecting similar from DD but she has other ideas. She's now 12.5 months and showing no signs of giving up. She is very attached to nursing - I think it would break her heart if I tried to wean her right now.

MummyBerryJuice · 23/05/2011 08:29

The twiddling drives me nuts too! I stop him most of the time but sort of let him twiddle as a treat at bed time. It frustrates him when I stop him and prolongs bedtime so, I just give i. Blush I shouldn't really but he is so persistent.

msbuggywinkle · 23/05/2011 08:39

DD1 was such a persistent twiddler that I had to 'wean' her off it gradually, allowing her first to touch my nipple but not to twiddle, then a flat hand on my boob but not my nipple, then a hand on my stomach or side...it took about a week and I had to keep reminding her for a while after but it did work, she couldn't go to sleep without twiddling originally!

inanna12 · 23/05/2011 08:49

we did the slow weaning off (twiddling) too. it took longer than you, msbuggy, due to the fact that i couldn't get it together to clamp my hand flat onto the unused boob all night. so the boy would twiddle away...and i would try to differentiate between children's twiddling/husband's soliciting.
yes, i'm aware that that is grist to the mill for the anti longterm bf'ers.

organiccarrotcake · 23/05/2011 09:42

Crikey - 5 pages in two days!!!

I would love to join but can't keep up with that!

DS2 is 10.5 and according to my MIL I'm an embarassment. Why is it that just when you crack it (TT snipped at 9 months) people expect you to stop! Bugger that for a lark, it's just getting good. For me, anyway. It's always been good for him.

Fed DS1 to 15 months but I'd brought him down to morning and night then, and I just don't think there was enough for him to bother with. This time I won't make that mistake and I'm wanting him to continue in his own way.

Since the TT snip he's eating a lot more solids and has reduced the amount of milk he takes during the day but he still does feed. I'm still very comfortable feeding in public and I'm really hoping that doesn't change. Darling, wonderful DH is absolutely passionately supportive :)

truthsweet who are you planning to train with? How did you find the differences between the peer supporter and mother supporter training?

everyspring · 23/05/2011 10:14

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