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Is there an 'extended' breastfeeding support thread?

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Unrulysun · 22/05/2011 11:48

Or would I be better off on LLL?

Just read the 'school-age children' thread with interest but didn't want to derail :)

dd is 1 today so it's not 'extended' bf by any normal definition but judging by the number of 'Are you going to carry on breastfeeding her?' (yes because otherwise she'll be composed primarily of grapes) conversations I've had inflicted on me in the last week I think I'm going to need all the support I can get Grin

so proud we made it this far - ha ha!

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StealthPolarBear · 22/05/2011 22:48

" I feel like a huge weight has been lifted from me after doing bedtime for 5.5yrs"

Yes, exaxctly! And that is why I stopped unfortunately. DS was fine if I wasn't there, or he was at grandmas or whatever but if I was home I was an integral part of the bedtime routine. And it was starting to grind on me. So we stopped :( While I am sad I didn't let him self wean, I feel a lot more in control and happy

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Unrulysun · 22/05/2011 22:49

Yes, even now at 1 I do the apologetic thing. Blush

And I joke 'Oh I'll probably still be doing it when she goes to school! HA HA HA' truth is I probably will. And so what?

This is really helping me - I shall channel you all this weekend when I face the inevitable inquisition from MIL. :)

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porcamiseria · 22/05/2011 22:56

it was me that coined lacto twat! hello unruly sun!!!! x

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Unrulysun · 22/05/2011 22:58

Hey porcamiseria! I literally just saw you on another thread and remembered it was you :)

Welcome to lacto twats united - please stay and have a Brew

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mawbroon · 22/05/2011 22:59

Yes, exactly, so what if they are "still" doing it when they go to school.

Ah, hang on, wait:

You'll have to shove your boob through the school railings.

She will tell all her friends and they will laugh.

GrinGrinGrin Wink

StayFr0sty · 22/05/2011 23:00

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porcamiseria · 22/05/2011 23:02

just a nipple for me unruly sun!

StealthPolarBear · 22/05/2011 23:02

DH has been saying DS was too old since about 18 months
Now he is saying he's glad we fed for as long as we did!

Penthesileia · 22/05/2011 23:03

Hey Lenin. Wotcha. I sort of dropped off MN for a while and haven't said hi for too long, but hope you're ok.

DD 2.11 still bf-ing. I LAUGH when I read those self-righteous, oh-someone-think-of-the-children, posts about it being all about the mother and her ishoos when an older child is still bf-ing. I long for DD to give up, but am resolved to let her do so in her own time, which doesn't look set to be any time soon. It is obviously Very Important to her. This is my reckless, fearless, wilful, utterly unclingy child (she won't ever hold my hand; insists on paying for her own snacks/toys, etc in shops, queuing up and telling me to "Go away!" when she does so, etc.). So I'm not too worried about damaging her by forcing Hmm her to bf til adolescence... I tell DH through gritted teeth when he asks that apparently, physiologically speaking, there comes a point when they simply can't bf any longer. Tho' I fear that may be 7...

On a lighter note, I'm smiling at loads of behaviour here I recognise: offering "boo" to my DH, outrage when I get dressed, possessive patting and kissing of the "boo", etc.

LOL TruthSweet: DD tried that once. DH's reaction was hilarious. Grin

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Unrulysun · 22/05/2011 23:07

:) nice to see you here.

I am in a kneading, nails digging in, other nipple twiddling stage at the moment. Someone tell me that they get gentle at some point?

I am so glad I posted this. Really - should I change the title or are we way beyond that?

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EsioTrot · 22/05/2011 23:08

Stayfrosty- I definitely get the feeling that my mum (who was a health visitor in years gone by) would be delighted if I stopped breastfeeding. Conversely my in-laws don't give me any indication/vibes that they think it's weird, despite all of their children being ff. It must be hard for you if your DH wants your DS to stop as well. You should buy a copy of "the politics of breastfeeding" or "breastfeeding an older child" and read pertinent sections to him! :)

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StealthPolarBear · 22/05/2011 23:11

or conversely, buy the daily mail, which in between all the "freaky breastfeeder" stories, occasionally has a story along the lines of "scientists prove that bf babies live to be 110 and are twice as smart as formula fed babies" :o

EsioTrot · 22/05/2011 23:14

DD has got much more gentle over the last while unruly, I've been getting kissed and cuddled boobs for the last few months. She too however loves twiddling the other nipple. It's a sensation I really dislike, actually makes me feel a bit nauseous sometimes. She gets so cross when I remove her hand and try to distract her. Any tips anyone?

StealthPolarBear · 22/05/2011 23:15

Sorry :( With DS i just had to wait util he was old enough to understand and remember
And he still used to have a go EVERY feed, just to see if I had changed my mind
DD doesn't do it - maybe she will?

EsioTrot · 22/05/2011 23:15

I wouldn't worry about changing the title, people seem to be finding the thread.

TheBreastmilksOnMe · 22/05/2011 23:18

Hi! Can I join too? I'm currently feeding my 32mth olds son and my 16 week old daughter. My son has a feed every morning when he joins us in bed and would feed several times during the day if he was allowed to but I'm trying to wean him off by the time he turns 3!

I love feeding my daughter but feel ambivilant about feeding my son. I feel that he has gained a huge amount of benefits from my milk and he's reaching an age now where he doesn't really 'need' my milk as much as my daughter. I do love having something that nobody else does with my son though and it's a comfort to him when he is feeling unwell or tired.

I really love how my daughter loves to feed and when her eyes roll in her head when she latches on and the milk begins to flow. The little sounds are adorable. Grin

EsioTrot · 22/05/2011 23:18

I love how persistent they are SPB. You can imagine them thinking, "ok, she's moved my hand for the last 99 times but she looks pretty enthralled by mumsnet my beautiful face, I'll have another go." :)

mawbroon · 22/05/2011 23:23

Ah, the twiddling. Never really found a solution for it until ds1 was 3.7yo and I was pg with ds2 and just really couldn't stand it any longer.

With ds2, I've never let him twiddle, ever.

But that doesn't really help you, sorry!!

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Unrulysun · 22/05/2011 23:26

Ha ha - distracted by Mumsnet, now I can twiddle away.

Can anyone with a verbal feeder shed light on why that's so compelling?

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Penthesileia · 22/05/2011 23:29

DD is a terrible twiddler, and will not take no for an answer. I tried for months to get her to stop - every trick I read on here. Nothing doing. I just put up with it now, but it drives me (internally) mental. She demands access to both boobs at the same time (she rarely bf outside the house now, thank goodness!), precisely so she can twiddle away.

However, those moments when she reaches up and strokes my face while bf-ing just about make up for all the twiddling and other violent acrobatics. Smile

Penthesileia · 22/05/2011 23:31

I've asked her, but I get a kind of Everest-like reply: "Because I want to, mummy." Deep sigh. Rolling of eyes. (Her, not me!)

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Unrulysun · 22/05/2011 23:32

It's not the twiddling per se (although that is wildly irritating). It's the digging in of nails which accompanies it. Right on the top of the nipple.

MAKE

IT

STOP

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mawbroon · 22/05/2011 23:33

It makes the milk go faster apparently.

That seems to be ds1's motivation for a lot of bf behaviours....

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Unrulysun · 22/05/2011 23:33

Ahhh, I see 'because it's there'?

Zen.

Or it would be if it wasn't attached to me.

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